losangelena Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 Is ghosting really a 21st century problem brought on by the advent of social media, though? I have to say I somehow doubt it. I would argue that before the advent of the Internet, it was just as easy to disappear on someone, if not easier, since the person you were trying to avoid didn't have access to your Facebook/Twitter/Instagram/Tumblr/Snapchat/Whatsapp accounts to see just how much they're being ignored. Yeah, people made connections through IRL social networks back then (and still do now), but it was still just as easy to meet someone in a bar or restaurant or at the library or on the subway; strangers you had no social connection to could just as easily vanish should they want. I dunno, I'm not saying I'm right, it's just that I think placing the blame on our digital world is misplaced. Rude people have always been rude, it's just in everyone's face nowadays.
smackie9 Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 I blame it on their parents for not teaching them responsibility, respect and good manners!
Rydo Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 Some people just don't make much of an impact on my life. I don't feel the need to explain to them that I'm not interested. They should be able to work it out by my lack of responsiveness. It's not done to be rude(questioning a strangers upbringing on the Internet being a good example of lack of manners) I just don't think someone should be that invested after one date that they need me to spell things out for them with either a text a letter a poem or with expressive dance. That's different if I am properly seeing someone but at the start when I'm dating several times a week I have no time or need to do that.
thecrucible Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 I would argue that before the advent of the Internet, it was just as easy to disappear on someone, if not easier, since the person you were trying to avoid didn't have access to your Facebook/Twitter/Instagram/Tumblr/Snapchat/Whatsapp accounts to see just how much they're being ignored. I agree. I mean the phrase "he didn't return my call" is a bit of sit-com cliché. Oh and social media magnifies everything. I find it useful but it's starting to get to me now how much I have to curate my interactions online. I don't post much anymore but there is so much opportunity for misinterpret and for people to make assumptions.
TheBathWater Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 Is ghosting really a 21st century problem brought on by the advent of social media, though? I have to say I somehow doubt it. Not brought on by it, no, but it is increasing and is more condoned today, undoubtedly. So much so that it even has a name now: ghosting. Whenever something becomes such a phenomena that it gets a term for it, you know it's gotten big.
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