adiamond Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 Just for fun, what do you look for in a man? I'm thinking like dependable, kind, generous, faithful, gentlemanly (I can take care of myself, but he wants to take care of me and in return, I'll take care of him as well), makes me laugh, is intelligent (doesn't have to be book smart but there are lots of different smarts), loves me a ton, someone strong and stable so I know will always be there for me even when things get tough, I'm attracted to them, and satisfying sex life. Is there such a guy out there....
S_A Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 I think there are a lot of them, just most often those traits go unnoticed, even by the ones looking for them.
Gaeta Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 Everybody wants a boyfriend that is fun, honest, reliable, etc etc etc. But I want mine to have all that + big hands. I can't, for the love of me, date a man with small delicate hands. 2
Author adiamond Posted November 10, 2015 Author Posted November 10, 2015 Everybody wants a boyfriend that is fun, honest, reliable, etc etc etc. But I want mine to have all that + big hands. I can't, for the love of me, date a man with small delicate hands. I like big hands too, swoon. How the heck do I get these guys to notice me. Should I be approaching them, should I carry on life oblivious and hope one day a guy like that will come into my life and we fall in love?
Gaeta Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 I like big hands too, swoon. How the heck do I get these guys to notice me. Should I be approaching them, should I carry on life oblivious and hope one day a guy like that will come into my life and we fall in love? Considering 75% of singles have a dating profile up, I think it's a good place to start.
Myragal Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 There's been a hundred threads like this one Confident Affectionate Athletic Intelligent Respectful Positive Financially secure Well educated A healthy lifestyle and well groomed are a must. Beyond that things like looks, height, hair, etc. not so much. Complete turn offs...smokers, ever did drugs, motorcycles, guns (unless some legitimate need).
Ami1uwant Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 Yet all the women think about is where is Brad Pitt.......admit it.
loveweary11 Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 Yet all the women think about is where is Brad Pitt.......admit it. I think the list already assumes "Brad Pitt" and they are going a step beyond visual attraction here.
genwalt Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 I look for a man who can makes me happy, even in hard times aside from material things.
Gaeta Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 Yet all the women think about is where is Brad Pitt.......admit it. Isn't it amazing that the world is referring to a 51 year old man as a sex symbol. I think it's awesome.
d0nnivain Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 FWIW I don't find Brad Pitt attractive at all. I wanted (& found) a man who got my motor running, who was smart, quick witted, with a wicked sense of humor and a good work ethic who was strong enough to let me be weak. Although I was over 35 when I started my search for DH I hoped to find somebody who had never been married who did not have kids. I go so lucky with DH. He's all that & more. At that point in my life I had decided to settle down. I approached finding someone like a job search. I tried a variety of methods: OLD, which I hated speed dating which I never got to do because there were no men so the organizers kept cancelling I taught both classes for credits / a degree & adult education classes. In the college class I went on a date with another adjunct professor. In the adult education classes I went on dates with the "students" after the class was over (it was a 2 night thing) I went on quite a few dates set up by my friends I attended singles events & met men there. I did a wine tasting dinner; a dance; a happy hour & a hike called Leashes & Lovers where I brought my dog. I had been planning to go to one where they set you to play a round of golf with somebody. I figured even if the guy wasn't my type I'd at least get in 18 holes. I went to Meet Up groups. I volunteered for the politician of my choice & for causes I believed in. I attended business networking functions, like Chamber of Commerce events & continuing education courses. In fact I met DH at a business card exchange. 4
Ami1uwant Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 Brad Pitt was a rhetorical comment of the idea of focusing in just on loks alone. The characteristics wanted you won't see if you are do focused on looks alone.
phalgal Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 Yet all the women think about is where is Brad Pitt.......admit it. Yuck!
Miss Peach Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 I have a list of character traits. I try to be open to the package as long as I find some attraction and chemistry. I've dated quite a diverse group of guys so I wouldn't say I have any types. Yet all the women think about is where is Brad Pitt.......admit it. Nope. I have never found him attractive. Same with George Clooney. Motorcycles are a turn off? For me yes... but not a deal breaker. Is there such a guy out there.... I think I found one... my BF seems to have everything on my list so far. It's been 6 months now so I should be seeing more of the red flags if there were any. We'll see how it turns out. 1
loveweary11 Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 To the point of looks... If women don't find you attractive, get off your ass and do something about it. Work out. Lose weight Gain weight Choose a style that compliments your biological look Be stylish Be fun Be exciting Be friendly Don't be a dbag Treat people well Do these things and you'll be drowning in women. 4
Mystique01 Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 To the point of looks... If women don't find you attractive, get off your ass and do something about it. Work out. Lose weight Gain weight Choose a style that compliments your biological look Be stylish Be fun Be exciting Be friendly Don't be a dbag Treat people well Do these things and you'll be drowning in women. I agree.... I think that because men are so visual, they don't realize just how much women can actually fall for a guy simply because of his PERSONALITY. True, looks matter for us as women as well, but definitely NOT to the extent as it does for men. You'd be surprised just how far keeping in shape, dressing well, being friendly, confident, and witty can take a guy in a woman's eyes. 2
Myragal Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 I agree.... I think that because men are so visual, they don't realize just how much women can actually fall for a guy simply because of his PERSONALITY. True, looks matter for us as women as well, but definitely NOT to the extent as it does for men. You'd be surprised just how far keeping in shape, dressing well, being friendly, confident, and witty can take a guy in a woman's eyes. Many don't but many do. The guys that do are the catches. They have the initiative to take control of their lives. The ones that dress well, stand straight and walk into a room with purpose. Instead of finding refuge with friends or standing in the corner, they will say hi to everyone, shake hands, etc. Then they know when to turn it off and blend into the crowd. They have made their impression. I have been to a Meet Up dance with my brother. He introduces himself to everyone in the group the first 5 minutes. He says this is the short window of opportunity when it is natural to do so. Then he never feels awkward asking a woman to dance because he has already introduced himself and exchanged names. This is my once SHY little brother. 1
xxoo Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 Yet all the women think about is where is Brad Pitt.......admit it. I became enamored with Brad Pitt when I read this article I looked for a man like my dad: tough on the outside, tender on the inside, loyal, protective, provider. Brad Pitt would do just fine, I imagine.
JustGettingBy Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 To the point of looks... If women don't find you attractive, get off your ass and do something about it. Work out. Lose weight Gain weight Choose a style that compliments your biological look Be stylish Be fun Be exciting Be friendly Don't be a dbag Treat people well Do these things and you'll be drowning in women. Someone who doesn't have Aspergers Well, I guess I average out
TunaCat Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 My number one thing would be: a man who's close to his family. My second thing is: a man who doesn't have kids. The other things: looks, smarts, financial stability, makes me laugh etc aren't as important as the first two.
loverboy69 Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 These are traits I find attractive in men. Nobody is perfect and we all fall short but if I were to list them out here goes: Masculine Good hygiene Ambitious but understands balance Thick skinned but sensitive when important Responsible with his finances and able to support himself w/o me (independent) Loves his mother and sister Faithful Kind to animals Down to earth Open minded Respectful to my family Kind to waitresses ;-) Interested and respectful to other cultures Desire to travel and explore things together Interested in pursuing additional vocational training to improve his career Classic boyish/rugged good looks. (No pretty boys) Takes care of his body: Inside and out / Willing to be my workout partner
craw Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 A man who sees me as a priority and not an option. Will I find a man who treats me like that and I AM INTERESTED IN? Thats my million dollar question as I have already met the man that I am willing to give up everything for, but he's not interested. This is why mother tells you to marry someone who loves you more than you do. Very hard to follow and accept that.
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