flower402 Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 My ex and I had been together for 8-9 months. We had several rough patches due to my insecurities. I treated him pretty badly. We broke up a month ago but kept in contact hoping that things would improve (mainly just being sex). He is very very depressed clinically. Then I did something pretty cruel 2 weeks ago and he dumped me. Over the course of all this time he has said multiple times, "maybe in the future," "I don't know what the future holds," "I am not discounting being with you again,"... He's told me all of these things not right now but maybe in the future. I asked him to be honest about it and he says the same thing. We both feel I am just not ready to be in a relationship at the moment and he is too depressed to be in one, too. I need to work on some personal things and he is busy with school. He says maybe in 3-6 months from now we can contact each other and see where we are at and see if we can reconcile... What are the chances of getting back together? I really love this guy. I told him today that I loved him and cared about him and know it's best to let him go...And today he kept holding my hand and my face and kissing me...
PegNosePete Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 What are the chances of getting back together? 43%. Err.. sorry... can't help it. As a mathematician, whenever someone asks that question I have to query the relevance. It's impossible to calculate "chances" of this kind of thing. You can say there is a 50% chance of rain tomorrow because there's an area of low pressure moving in from the east, but how can you possibly predict the chances of a relationship re-forming? Human relations simply don't work that way. And today he kept holding my hand and my face and kissing me... I would recommend not doing this kind of thing. Either you're together or you're not. If you're together then be together properly. If you're not, then be apart properly, that means no contact. This halfway-house thing you're doing is just going to keep you in relationship purgatory forever. That will be very painful for you both. 1
PrettyEmily77 Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 That's multiple times too many, IMO. This uncertainty + the treating you badly + your insecurities + the pretty cruel thing from 2 weeks ago + the clinical depression don't really bode well for a happy ending. Sorry, OP. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 That's multiple times too many, IMO. This uncertainty + the treating you badly + your insecurities + the pretty cruel thing from 2 weeks ago + the clinical depression don't really bode well for a happy ending. Sorry, OP. Agreed with all of the above. You two need to sort out your own issues first. I wouldn't go back to someone who treated me cruelly either.
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