Gmuck Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 Ex girlfriend of 3 years, broke it off 4 months ago. Did the usual begging and pleading for one week. Haven't contacted her in anyway for 31/2 months. Dumper never contacted once. No breadcrumbs. Feel it's the typical she got over me long before breaking up and able to move one quickly. FB blocked (by me 1st) and she apparently has blocked my number. Again, she broke up with me but due to 2 calls I made right after break up pleading that I know turned her off and I lost respect. 1 week after the break up she gets with an old ex that she had dated before our relationship. She had dated the ex for 2 months previously and broke up with him (no feelings and not going anywhere). From what info I received they were together all the time. 2-4 dates a week. Typical rebound red flags. After about 21/2 months it was over. I don't know who ended it but I kind of suspect he did (maybe her rebound neediness) because she was down and depressed. I know this due to mutual friend she talked too. Boom she's back on a dating website and after 2 weeks she's back off again. Found out she's nows spending time with the new guy off the dating website she found in 2 weeks. Same scenario, couple dates and boom spending almost everyday together. Understand that maybe new guy could be the imaginary "one" or another fast out of the gate rebound that will burn out again due to her acting as a usual rebounder. I say this due to rebounders trying to take a new relationship 1,000 mph to get it up to how it was in our 3 year, living together relationship. That's 1 week break between breakup and 1st rebound, 2 week break between 1st rebound before getting with new guy. Not a lot of time there. The whole monkey swinging from tree branch to tree branch. Just wondering if there is such a thing as a girl rebounding more than once? If so, what are the signs? What is the usual time frame of a second rebound? Any experience or info would be great. Trying to figure it out and yes I know I should be 100% NC and I wouldn't know about it. Everything is cut off except for a couple mutual friends who I get weak around and ask how's she's doing and info comes out.
mightycpa Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 Would it help if I told you that there is no reliable data, and that confidence levels for predictions are in the low teens? That said, if she had no feelings for you, then there is no rebound.
Author Gmuck Posted November 10, 2015 Author Posted November 10, 2015 I understand if her feelings were strong enough she wouldn't have broken up with me. But I just had a gut feeling during the break up and afterwards that she didn't fully want to end it but had to. Maybe she was afraid of what the future might be and felt better or safer moving on. I know I'm probably lying to myself but I feel like she had unrealistic ideas of our relationship and felt it wasn't up to par. That after she goes thru some quick bad relationships like she just did on 1st guy and possibly second guy she will realize things weren't as bad as she thought. I am moving on with my life butninalso know I'm still holding on to some last threads of hope. I guess hoping she has bad relationships and realizes what we had.
mightycpa Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 No contact. No breadcrumbs. No respect. No hesitation. No feelings. All that equals no hope for you. She's playing the field, and I get the sense that all she really did was tiptoe back into the water with ex #1. #2 guy was brand new, and she didn't waste any time. #3 dude is on the way, if not there already, and you need to start getting used to the fact that your time has come and gone. Hope you made the most of it.
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