DrReplyInRhymes Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 Dear God, even if no one else knows you know.... Just how much I adore him, how much I want him, how much I love him, how much I want him to want me, how much I need him, how much I want him to love me, how much he's on my mind, how much I care about him, how much I think about him, how much I want him to be mine... These are the things that only you know! That I wish that he also knew Tell him that! Share to him how much he means to you! If it was meant to be, he'll reciprocate the feelings and possibly woo!
angel.eyes Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Is this your ex who is living with his new girlfriend? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/556805-i-like-him-but-he-has-girlfriend-what-shall-i-do#post6634733 If so, at some point, you'll have to let this go.
frus69 Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Dear God, even if no one else knows you know.... . These are the things that only you know! That I wish that he also knew He probably knows but he has a girlfriend he loves and it's not you
Mr. Lucky Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Please don't judge me based on this, but I really can't get him out of mind and he is literally all I think about. Do I tell him how I feel? Please advise. Thank you! I'd guess that telling him would solve your problem. You'd come across as some strange stalker/homewrecker, he'd tell his girlfriend and together they'd circle the wagons, rightfully excluding you from their lives.. Or you can do the correct grown-up thing. Move on with your life, stay in touch with him peripherally and look for a single guy... Mr. Lucky
craw Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 You will get over it eventually. I have met amazing married men, I keep my distance. Even if he were to leave her for you, he's not the man you would who would do that. I've fallen for guys who have expressed interest in me and nothing happened afterwards.
burnt Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 I just.. I can't even. You really believe that? That is perhaps the most selfish and narcissistic view of love I've seen here in a long time. If that's what you truly believe love to be... I feel sorry for you. Hi Neowulf, I don't know, if you will read this post, but I would like to leave this reply for you nonetheless. It's been a few days since I responded to your last post. I did so with confidence and conviction at the time; I wrote what I felt and believed in. I just reread my own posts and your response to them all. I feel, NOW in retrospect, that I owe you an apology. I still feel the same way about how I see 'love' and how I feel about my own understanding of love; (whether I'm right or wrong, only time will tell). But what I wrote regarding your love for your former lover was inappropriate unthoughtful and insensitive. And for that I truly am sorry. I was shocked and offended, (and still am) reading your comment about my view being 'selfish and narcissistic'. I realize, I am actually thankful, that you made that harsh comment. I needed to hear that. It made me rethink and ask myself questions that I didn't before. I haven't gotten the slightest idea of what it feels like to be in an 'equal-part' balanced healthy and mutually honest relationship. The audacity of me to theorize and intellectualize the concept of 'love' to you who has been in a committed relationship: Just stupid. I'm sorry for my unthoughtful offensive comments to you. But in some ways I'm glad that I wrote what I thought, because somehow expressing them and reading other's responses is helping me clarify my own thoughts and understand better what's going on in my own head. Ironically, I just also realized, that I want to speak my mind, even if I'm wrong; because especially when I'm wrong, the self-reflection afterwards is even more worth it. Because I'd rather speak freely and be wrong a million times and then accept and realize with humility that I was wrong, than not speak at all. I think I'm in the middle of a deep fog still. I know something's wrong, just haven't fully identified what it is yet. Thank you. 2
neowulf Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 Hi Neowulf, I don't know, if you will read this post, but I would like to leave this reply for you nonetheless. It's been a few days since I responded to your last post. I did so with confidence and conviction at the time; I wrote what I felt and believed in. I just reread my own posts and your response to them all. I feel, NOW in retrospect, that I owe you an apology. I still feel the same way about how I see 'love' and how I feel about my own understanding of love; (whether I'm right or wrong, only time will tell). But what I wrote regarding your love for your former lover was inappropriate unthoughtful and insensitive. And for that I truly am sorry. I was shocked and offended, (and still am) reading your comment about my view being 'selfish and narcissistic'. I realize, I am actually thankful, that you made that harsh comment. I needed to hear that. It made me rethink and ask myself questions that I didn't before. I haven't gotten the slightest idea of what it feels like to be in an 'equal-part' balanced healthy and mutually honest relationship. The audacity of me to theorize and intellectualize the concept of 'love' to you who has been in a committed relationship: Just stupid. I'm sorry for my unthoughtful offensive comments to you. But in some ways I'm glad that I wrote what I thought, because somehow expressing them and reading other's responses is helping me clarify my own thoughts and understand better what's going on in my own head. Ironically, I just also realized, that I want to speak my mind, even if I'm wrong; because especially when I'm wrong, the self-reflection afterwards is even more worth it. Because I'd rather speak freely and be wrong a million times and then accept and realize with humility that I was wrong, than not speak at all. I think I'm in the middle of a deep fog still. I know something's wrong, just haven't fully identified what it is yet. Thank you. Don't concern yourself with offending me. This forum is filled with many different views, from individuals on very different journeys through life. I am sorry I offended you. I spoke, not out of a desire to cause offense, but out of compassion. This forum is the place to share ideas, even though vastly different from our own experiences. I welcome the chance to discuss and debate them. So keep on posting your thoughts, with no fear of what others will think. I've learnt so much from the people here, who've challenged my own beliefs and helped me grow. I wish you luck in your journey and home you find what you're searching for. 1
burnt Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 Don't concern yourself with offending me. This forum is filled with many different views, from individuals on very different journeys through life. I am sorry I offended you. I spoke, not out of a desire to cause offense, but out of compassion. This forum is the place to share ideas, even though vastly different from our own experiences. I welcome the chance to discuss and debate them. So keep on posting your thoughts, with no fear of what others will think. I've learnt so much from the people here, who've challenged my own beliefs and helped me grow. I wish you luck in your journey and home you find what you're searching for. Thank you; and I wish you the same.
Whisky1981 Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 Let him go. You had your time and you lost it. If he will persue you than you can explain how you feel. Till then you have to respect his relationship. There are a lot more men out there.
d0nnivain Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 I wish I knew a way to make him mine... But he's in a committed relationship. I know you will just think I'm a home wrecker but he's all that I really want. I don't want to give up on him but how do I even begin? What do I say to make him realise just how much I adore him. Is there anything I can do or say to make him mine... There's nothing that I want more than to have him.. please advise? There is no way for you to make him yours. He is not going to realize that you adore him because even if he does, he doesn't adore you back. He loves his GF. If you confess your feelings to him all you are going to do is make things awkward for him. he will try to let you down gently. He will have a low opinion of you because you do not respect the boundaries of his relationship. He will also avoid you going forward because he doesn't want to deal with the awkwardness of your unrequited love. That may be a blessing in disguise for you because if he disappears from you life you will have not choice but to let him go.
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