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ExGirlfriend of 2 years moving on after she tried getting back with me for 6 months

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stillafool Established Member

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Stillafool we have hurt each other i know, what do you think of my strategy? i put my cards on the table with the last message, the reason i told her to move with me to LA is because she always wanted to move somewhere with me, she hated her town always said so. Should i wait for her to reply or should i be direct with her and just speak my mind? She knows me as a go getter, I am in no way a guy that stands on the sidelines.... I am not sure if NC is the way to go since i havent seen her in 8 months....

 

I think that's what she loves about you. You sound rather Alpha. I don't think showing up at her place of work is appropriate. Too much gossip and you could put her job in jeopardy. Find another way to talk to her.

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Stop, just stop. I was in your ex's shoes at one point. When my ex-bf and I broke up I tried to reconcile for a little while after but he wasn't interested. After some time, I moved on completely. My ex began reaching out to me...continuously despite my request to stop. He would email, text, call and show up at my apt or work. He kept saying how he thought I was, "the one that got away." He was stuck in the past.

 

The fact that he did not respect my boundaries and outright ignored my wishes to stop contact angered and repulsed me. I cut him off completely, blocked him, and any chance of friendship or reconcilliation disappeared.

 

Look, you can't make someone come back to you or want you again. Your ex knows you want her back. You don't have to say or do anything more. She has told you that she isn't interested and that she's moved on and to stop contacting her. Believe what she says and respect her wishes.

 

If you truly love her and respect her, you will stop contacting her competely and try to move on with your life. She will come to you if she wants. I wouldn't bet on it though.

 

Learn from your mistakes and take those lessons into your next relationship. Grow from this.

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Thanks for all the feedback, to be honest I am in a ****ed up state right now, im sitting here in LA getting ****faced with a bottle of whiskey, talked with my business partner back home earleir today, we just raised a new round of venture money to fund our company starting january, at the moment I am in a big city i have only been at for 5 months , know very few people, and amidst all this bull**** im missing stephanie, as i said before I am an intense guy, just to make things clear in the past 8 months I have only called her maybe 6 times, I dont harrass people my interactions with her are and have been limited, **** I only went looking for her this one time since she visited me back in my country. Perhaps her workplace was not the right place, but she is the boss there i didnt even go in i paid a couple to deliver my note to her only if she was there asking her to come outside, if I had gone to her house I reckon that ****ing thug she is dating would probably be there since he probably moved into her big ass house, who wouldnt ., I am breaking down because I am not the type of guy to be affected by this sort of ****, what all of you are suggesting my logical side agrees with, i was determined to not be with her anymore yet here I am, cant get my mind off from her, I was going to go back home until december but am booking a flight for this coming week, I really need to get myself together. I seriously wish things could have been different, she was after me for so many months and I lost her, all for being a selfish prick.

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Live and learn and let her go so she can be happy. Like you said, you were a prick to her, so don't double down on it. She is now with someone and you should respect their space. There is no way I would try to stay in contact with an ex knowing she was with someone. I think that's f'd up when ex's do that when they know the other one is with someone. Are you sure you just aren't wanting her back because she decided enough is enough and moved on to someone new? Maybe it's just your ego and you don't like to lose? If you're an "intense" guy, I'm guessing you are very competitive and do what you need to to get what you want. Just my impression by things you have said.

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Live and learn and let her go so she can be happy. Like you said, you were a prick to her, so don't double down on it. She is now with someone and you should respect their space. There is no way I would try to stay in contact with an ex knowing she was with someone. I think that's f'd up when ex's do that when they know the other one is with someone. Are you sure you just aren't wanting her back because she decided enough is enough and moved on to someone new? Maybe it's just your ego and you don't like to lose? If you're an "intense" guy, I'm guessing you are very competitive and do what you need to to get what you want. Just my impression by things you have said.

 

It could be the ego but i dont think so, I could be with other women right now, and i am chosing not to, i know its ridiculous but she truly was what i wanted in this life, beautiful, successful, strong willed, she loved me for me before she knew what i did and what i was doing, she didnt need my money and i lost her, and now im sitting alone in my place in LA fu888ed up as hell, i miss her like hell and cant call her. I used to talk to her every day. I need to get out of this country for a few weeks, cheers or as we say in Latin America Salud mothef****s!

 

I think that's what she loves about you. You sound rather Alpha. I don't think showing up at her place of work is appropriate. Too much gossip and you could put her job in jeopardy. Find another way to talk to her.

 

She used to love me for being the honest ******* i am, but right now i think I went from Alpha to :::::Zeta, What other way can i talk to her through? i dont have her phone, the only way is facebook.... what can i write to her? tell me because as of right now, im drinking her out of my system to not talk to her ever again.

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mightycpa Established Member

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Mightycpa , cut your condescending comments dude i dont really give a **** about what you have to say, but ok, woooohh youre so slick I am mistaken you got me. Happy?

 

That spell youre recommending i reckon you can place it in a place inside you where "the sun doesn't shine"

Delighted. "Fighting" for a relationship! Can you imagine? If you get to the point where you have to fight for love, you've already lost.

 

I'm glad I could help you see that.

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Delighted. "Fighting" for a relationship! Can you imagine? If you get to the point where you have to fight for love, you've already lost.

 

I'm glad I could help you see that.

 

Thank you Mightycpa , youre so on point with everything you say, I am sure that you must be very succesful with your relationships, you must be the sort of person surrounded with love, you must have a loving husband or wife and have a house full of kids and be a very happy person in every sense, I am very delighted someone with a caliber such as your can enlighten all of us feeble idiots in this forum, I notice that you have over 3500 comments , thanks for your devotion and fullfilment as a true "internet troll" you have trully transformed my way of thinking.....

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It could be the ego but i dont think so, I could be with other women right now, and i am chosing not to, i know its ridiculous but she truly was what i wanted in this life, beautiful, successful, strong willed, she loved me for me before she knew what i did and what i was doing, she didnt need my money and i lost her, and now im sitting alone in my place in LA fu888ed up as hell, i miss her like hell and cant call her. I used to talk to her every day. I need to get out of this country for a few weeks, cheers or as we say in Latin America Salud mothef****s!

 

 

 

She used to love me for being the honest ******* i am, but right now i think I went from Alpha to :::::Zeta, What other way can i talk to her through? i dont have her phone, the only way is facebook.... what can i write to her? tell me because as of right now, im drinking her out of my system to not talk to her ever again.

 

Don't embarrass yourself any further by writing to her. You've said your piece. Walk away with a bit of dignity now. Continuing to pester her isn't going to help anything; it will probably just make the situation worse.

 

To be very frank, it's not her problem that you're drinking her out of your system. You will have to deal with that. This is why break-ups suck. But it's life, man. You will get past it.

 

Leave her alone now.

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Sorry you are going through this hard time.

Feelings just don't turn off over night. You cant go back in time. Sometimes you just need to face the music and move on. Let her go. It will be good for the both of you as I think there are much healthier relationships to look forward to. You cant live your life full of regret. Forgive yourself and move on.

 

 

It's important that you get back to yourself, and feeling good about your life without her. You make it sound like your an alpha, but you sound pretty insecure from your comments. That's okay we all get insecure, but be honest with yourself. If you require her for validation you will never be happy. Work on yourself. Day by day it will get easier. One day you will have something happen in your life whether it be a new person, or a new job or a goal that is exciting that has NOTHING to do with her. You will gain a new perspective. Put down the bottle. You are not helping anyone with going into self destruct mode. You are better than this. LET HER GO.

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Sorry you are going through this hard time.

Feelings just don't turn off over night. You cant go back in time. Sometimes you just need to face the music and move on. Let her go. It will be good for the both of you as I think there are much healthier relationships to look forward to. You cant live your life full of regret. Forgive yourself and move on.

 

 

It's important that you get back to yourself, and feeling good about your life without her. You make it sound like your an alpha, but you sound pretty insecure from your comments. That's okay we all get insecure, but be honest with yourself. If you require her for validation you will never be happy. Work on yourself. Day by day it will get easier. One day you will have something happen in your life whether it be a new person, or a new job or a goal that is exciting that has NOTHING to do with her. You will gain a new perspective. Put down the bottle. You are not helping anyone with going into self destruct mode. You are better than this. LET HER GO.

 

I was feeling insecure I have to admit i let emotions get in the way of logic. Today however is a new day, and I already feel much better. I am moving on for good will not be contacting this girl again for sure

 

, thanks for your words, i think you are right and for sure there will be someone new eventually who will come along and i wont repeat any of these mistakes that were made in this previous relationship. Thanks to everyone out there, I needed to let my thoughts out and this was the perfect place to do it. Thanks internet people!

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