Shining One Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Being tall in a grocery store is a great "in". I've gotten a few phone numbers and dates after grabbing something from a top shelf.
barbossa Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 I've been single for two years now and the only dates I've been on have all been guys I have met on online dating sites like Tinder and Match. In two years I have never gone on a date with a guy i met out in public. Do guys still approach girls that way? Prior to being single for two years I was in a four year relationship with someone I met through mutual friends. Now it seems so hard to meet someone. I was at this music festival last weekend. Tons of attractive guys there, but I wasn't approached by any. I see cute guys at the grocery store sometimes, but I've never had any talk to me. I probably go out to social events once a week (not necessarily looking to meet someone, but just to be out with friends) and I have NEVER once been approached by a guy. I go to wine tastings, local concerts, sporting events, outdoor bars, local festivals, you name it, nothing ever comes of it. But when I go out with guys I meet online and I tell them I never get approached in public, they are shocked and say things like "you never get hit on? You're kidding, right?" Do guys even ask girls out that way anymore? I really want to give up on the online thing, too many flakes. But if I do, I won't get to go out at all! 1. If I see a girl and our eyes meet and she looks away. That girl doesn't want to be approached 2. If she keeps our gaze and smiles it us the green light to talk to you. Non verbal cues are really most important Also try not to be doing stuff on phone, if your face is looking at your phone how can I see if you smile at me? 3. If you are with too many women in a group its a big barrier to break to talk to one girl
WaitingForBardot Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 1. If I see a girl and our eyes meet and she looks away. That girl doesn't want to be approached .... My experience has been a little bit different here. Shy girls will often look away when you first catch their eye, sometimes briefly, sometimes longer; it's almost reflexive. The key has been whether they've looked back and caught your eye again. 1
40 Fonzarelli Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Yes it's more common than ever now. Everyone is a "pick-up artist". Groups of guys approach tons of girls on the street, malls, clubs, etc.
Ami1uwant Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 I've been single for two years now and the only dates I've been on have all been guys I have met on online dating sites like Tinder and Match. In two years I have never gone on a date with a guy i met out in public. Do guys still approach girls that way? Prior to being single for two years I was in a four year relationship with someone I met through mutual friends. Now it seems so hard to meet someone. I was at this music festival last weekend. Tons of attractive guys there, but I wasn't approached by any. I see cute guys at the grocery store sometimes, but I've never had any talk to me. I probably go out to social events once a week (not necessarily looking to meet someone, but just to be out with friends) and I have NEVER once been approached by a guy. I go to wine tastings, local concerts, sporting events, outdoor bars, local festivals, you name it, nothing ever comes of it. But when I go out with guys I meet online and I tell them I never get approached in public, they are shocked and say things like "you never get hit on? You're kidding, right?" Do guys even ask girls out that way anymore? I really want to give up on the online thing, too many flakes. But if I do, I won't get to go out at all! From a guys point of view...... There are two types of guys...ones that are good charmers/good talkersand can easily approach women (a friend of mine has had this), then there are the other guys I'm part of the latter. I always have had trouble creating small talk when it comes to initiate a conversation. I have had far better luck when it comes to running into someone regularly and gradually talking to them. Situations like this would be things like college classes, someone who works at the same place as you but you don't work with day in/out, someone from some sort of club you participate in ( church, volunteer group, sports/activity club ) My problem is when it comes to approaching a woman with dating. I can approach a woman if I had some other reason. I need something to initiate a conversation. I'd approach a woman if I knew there was some interest such as her smiling to me snd I know I'm the only person she could be smiling at such me and her are the only two on a store sidle. You may also come off as unapproachable and you don't make eye contact or smile. It nay be easier for those still in their 20s where they are social networking through friends where you can meet other people. As you enter your late 20s and people start marrying off it will get harder to meet people. The exception is if you live in large cities (SF, NYC, Chicago, DC, etc) that have a liveable downtown and people tend to wait till their mid 30s to marry because they are more career focused. Mid/late 30s you start have divorces but these usually come with baggage (kids, ex drama) but the problem still is is it worth your time approaching them at random or not. In random meetings if one of them is attractive you have yo think they are dating/have a SO. It's hard to approach them and get constantly rejected. I'd love a true single club where everyone was available snd looking. Instead that's online dating sites.
Imported Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Do guys still approach girls in public places? Like dark alleys or empty parking garages?
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Cold approach in random public places has always felt weird and creepy, unless it's a social setting
Myragal Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Amioneuwant, A guy who is hesitant or doesn't know what to say...just wouldn't be a good match for me. Nothing to talk about? Someone has been on this Earth for over a couple decades has to struggle to find something to say? I don't equate men who have something to say as putting on 'the charm' ...more likely they are just more interesting individuals. Shy and reserved is fine in the movies. There have been parodies made about after the shy guy wins over the previously unapproachable woman...she is bored stiff six months late. Drag him out to dance at a club, beg him to go to family events, etc. No thanks. Many of us have been there and it is so refreshing when a man has confidence and has initiative in life.
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 Amioneuwant, A guy who is hesitant or doesn't know what to say...just wouldn't be a good match for me. Nothing to talk about? Someone has been on this Earth for over a couple decades has to struggle to find something to say? I don't equate men who have something to say as putting on 'the charm' ...more likely they are just more interesting individuals. Shy and reserved is fine in the movies. There have been parodies made about after the shy guy wins over the previously unapproachable woman...she is bored stiff six months late. Drag him out to dance at a club, beg him to go to family events, etc. No thanks. Many of us have been there and it is so refreshing when a man has confidence and has initiative in life. Even the woman who wrote this article right here has sympathy for a lot of guys, men out there, I really love her attitude, and she even admits, that all women have to do is pretty much just go out and show up if they want to meet a potential date/boyfriend, etc.:Why Men Deserve a Break in the Dating Marketplace -
truth_seeker Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 I used to occasionally back when I was single. If I got the vibe she was interested in talking. Either give him great eye contact and a smile or hangout in close proximity for a while when you really don't have to. Those are the two best ways if you want to draw a guys attention. What if she hangs out in close proximity but doesn't make eye contact? You tap her on the shoulder? Wave in front of her face to get her attention?
Myragal Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 Even the woman who wrote this article right here has sympathy for a lot of guys, men out there, I really love her attitude, and she even admits, that all women have to do is pretty much just go out and show up if they want to meet a potential date/boyfriend, etc.:Why Men Deserve a Break in the Dating Marketplace - So? Why do you hold her opinion in some high esteem? Back to reality. Many women, including me, like a man who is confident. If a man doesn't know what to say then he is not a good match for me. I like intelligent men who have good communication skills. We are adults, not just hatched from an egg. Communication makes up a huge part of good social skills.
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