cocomaru Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Our relationship lasted for a year and a half. She is my first. The days being together with her is the best I ever had. But we broke up because of my immaturity. When I was with her, I always told her that I want to break up because of small matter like for 5 or 6 times. Till one day she could not tolerate it no more, and decides to break it off with me. Well what can I say, I deserved that, so I tried to get her back, I told her that I am sorry, and blah blah blah, I want her back and stuff, she said she made up her mind, she said she love her life right now as a single person, and also her parents did not know that we had been in a relationship, so there was once I jokingly told her that I mind when I could not call her when we were both in our hometown, since her parents did not know that we were both in a relationship, but I never thought she would take it seriously, and the most importantly, is because of my immaturity, I always let my emotions taken over, no matter how I need to think first before saying anything that could not be taken back. I waited for a few days later, well in that few days I really reflected on my own actions, and told her how I really felt and I feel regretful of my own behaviour, she said the same thing. I don't know whether she really feel that way, or is she lying to me. After that, I told myself that, I will try to get her back, one day, but I need to change first. So I spent two months, really changed myself, hit the gym and meet new friends. I was never like that, before that I am a guy who always stay at home, never had much friends, can't say I have much friends now too though. The first moment I met her I knew she was the one, I ain't saying all these because I am blind in love or stuff, she is the kind of girl that is suitable for me in the long run, wife material, but I messed things up. I really regretted it, I want to try to get her back again, but how and where do I start, do you guys think I still stand a chance? Or should I just give up? I can't say I'm not immature now, but I am better, I am emotionally ready for a relationship.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 It's hard to say whether you still stand a chance. I suppose you have nothing to lose by asking her to meet for a coffee or something very casual and see if she's interested. But a question - why didn't her parents know you were dating?
sandylee1 Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 I think you're both too far apart where maturity is concerned. If you can leave her be....then that's the thing to do. When you constantly threaten a break up. ..it gets tiresome and she's had enough of it. It builds resentment and she's enjoying the single life.
Author cocomaru Posted November 10, 2015 Author Posted November 10, 2015 It's hard to say whether you still stand a chance. I suppose you have nothing to lose by asking her to meet for a coffee or something very casual and see if she's interested. But a question - why didn't her parents know you were dating? We didn't contacted each other for like 2 months, her parents disagreed and said that students shouldn't be in a relationship while they were in a relationship, but my parents are very open, my parents knew everything about us and still supported us to be together, they really liked this girl though, but I messed up. We were in college though by the way, that explains why, for the record, when I met her at college, like real coincidence, she act if like she doesn't know me, I guess that's basically what girls do after post-breakup, can't really blame her though because I've hurt her deeply, but she never blocked any of my Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, but some photos I've seen deleted, she still keep some of it though. I wish I could still get her back, I really wish, but if she is better off alone, I am willing to set her free.
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