mariacarnie Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I am a girl and my friend, David and I have been friends for about 8 years and we never really flirted or acknowledged any attraction (even if there has been one in the past). We haven t spent a ton of time in the past few years together but we always have a good time when we do - we just like to catch up. Recently, David and I started spending more time hanging out with our group of friends. His attitude towards me has changed within the past few weeks - he makes comments about how I look or how he thinks I am pretty. He touches me a lot when we are together - including at one point trying to hold my hand or putting his arm around me. When I texted him recently regarding plans with a group of people, he chose not to respond back for whatever reason - I mean we are friends, why not just text me back? I have a boyfriend - and David knows this. I am not sure if he is just being friendly or if he is intentionally flirting with a motive. I don t want to say anything in fear of making the friendship awkward but I am not really sure what to do. Your thoughts are appreciated!
d0nnivain Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 If you have a BF but David is being physically flirty with you when you are together, I think you need distance in your interactions. Stay out of arms reach when he is part of the group. Do not do 1 on 1 activities with him. Stop texting him privately; keep it to the group only. I do think he likes you as more then a friend but that he struggling to draw the lines in light of the fact that you have a BF. So you need to draw clearer boundaries for everyone's sake.
stillafool Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Exactly what dOnnivain said, back away. You know he has feelings for you so stop texting him and giving him attention. I don't think you bf would like it, do you?
smackie9 Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Ya David does like you and wanted to let you know in some way just to satisfy his need to. He felt he needed to back off before his feelings get too out of control. It's ok to let him have his space. He will come back around, but probably will be a little more reserved with his responses to you. I agree with the above poster, you should set some clear boundaries with yourself and him, and stop hanging out so much...and no more encouraging the flirting.
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