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Five Months No Contact: This is why you don't check your EX's Facebook !!

drade

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drade Member

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Well, five months of solid No Contact. Feels great, I do miss her, I still think of her, I still have strong feelings for her. But, it just isn't meant to be right now, or ever. And, I have accepted that.

However, I went to search your name on FB today (she blocked me 4 months ago) and there you were, looking great per usual. Moral of my story: She has a boyfriend, and she made it very apparent on her Facebook.

 

Did she unblock me so I would look, so she could have an impact on me? I'm not sure. But she did impact me. What did I do? I blocked her. Immature? No. The reality of it is this: I am not over her, seeing her in a relationship did hurt, and the best thing to do is continue to live my life without her existence. I don't have the willpower stop myself from checking her FB, but I do have the willpower to block her and move on with my life.

 

You are in a new relationship, and I am not. You are getting under someones skin to get over me and move on with your life, I am doing it the proper way. By loving myself, enjoying life by myself, and becoming a better person in general. I haven't posted on this forum for months. Just had to get this off my chest I guess.

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pisces_gurl Member

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Did you dump or did she? Also, did you try to contact her or stalk her after break up? If it was a direct NC, I suppose you are doing great. And you did the right thing to block her over Facebook, if u were tempted to stalk her

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She dumped me. I did not stalk her however I did talk to her and even hung out once during a one month time span. We would play games with snapchat. Wasn't a healthy break up at all. I was that guy who lost his dignity and self respect. Basically was a little boy who couldn't get his candy.

 

 

I learned a lot . I've grown from this tremendously.

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She dumped me. I did not stalk her however I did talk to her and even hung out once during a one month time span. We would play games with snapchat. Wasn't a healthy break up at all. I was that guy who lost his dignity and self respect. Basically was a little boy who couldn't get his candy.

 

 

I learned a lot . I've grown from this tremendously.

 

Well if you didn't stalk her and were still in contact with her via snapchat it means that she never blocked you or told you not to contact her. Did you continue the friendship after break up? I think its a better idea not to contact her if u really want to move on

Wewon Established Member

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You're doing the right thing and for the right reasons. Getting on with life.

 

That being said, I doubt that she unblocked you with the intent of hurting you. Who knows her reasons, there are too many assumptions that would go into that conclusion.

theredpill Established Member

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Yeah, she unblocked you so you'd see and no it's not immature at all to block your ex if that's want you want to do. I think ex's rarely have true feelings for each other by the end and always want to rub their ex partners face in their own success, you can take it on the chin and unblock her (show you don't care) it take the somewhat easier road by keeping her blocked.

 

 

You've got to move on, soon as you're ready and you're doing it the right way - if you got her, you can get someone just as good or better... it's just a numbers game.

 

 

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K2z Established Member

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I saw what looks like a pre-marriage photo on my ex's FB cover page and I haven't stopped man-bear-crying in three days.

Silver_star Established Member

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Remove her from your facebook if you cant resist the urge to check in. It will only hurt you. Focus on your life and filling it with other important goals and tasks that make you feel good. Fill it with people who support you, and appreciate you. Let her move on.

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Listen man, im going through the same thing right now. dated for almost 5 years out of nowhere she cant be with me gives me the excuse of "needs to find herself". 1 month after the break up shes in a relationship with her coworker and it hurt finding out. She blocked me from every social media at first then a couple of weeks later unblocks me. why? i dont know but the best thing to do is fight hard to not keep tabs on her block her if you have to. It sucks im at 4 months NC but we just have to pray that there is better days for us, sometimes life doesnt go as we expect it to but we learn and grow from situations like this. As for your ex and mine, in my opinion one day thell learn that in life you have to take time to find yourself and immediately dating someone right after as a great idea as it seems at first its not.

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Move on, keep the NC going.

 

She's better off without you, thats the sad reality and she's happy.

 

You deserve to be happy too. Its best you nurse your feelings and choose to look better for that new girl who will be for you.

Dylon Established Member

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After breakups, lots of all kind of emotions run high. I don't think she unblocked you to be mean, but the opposite. Like ...... I don't have reason to hate you or block you. Be at peace and let go. It will get better

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