Odinani Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 One guy I am talking to seems shy and even insecure and not confident. But I've noticed he always talks over me. What I mean is when I am saying something time and time again he will immediately interrupt me mid-sentence. It's not an occasional thing. He will do this several times, every conversation. His voice doesn't sound confident and strong while he does it though, it sounds strangely hesitant. Can insecurity make somebody keep doing this? Link to post Share on other sites
Wewon Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 According this, interrupting is a sign that the person simply has a quicker mind. I don't necessarily buy it, but that seems to be the over-arching opinion. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OoY3iyQYleo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OoY3iyQYleo 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Zapbasket Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 It's a sign that someone is so busy with their own thoughts that they aren't able to truly attend to what the other person is saying. I know a couple of people with truly brilliant minds who are excellent listeners, and would never talk over someone else. It's R U D E. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
oregon0011 Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 I have a few female friends I have done this with.. Typically it is because they NEVER stop talking, go off on tangents, and NEVER let you finish a story. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 OP, in your case, it likely stems from poor understanding of social cues and how to flow a conversation in a collaborative manner. Also, if he's demonstrably shy, think of that shyness being like a dam holding floodwaters (talk) back and, when encountering someone he 'clicks' with, the floodgates can get opened in a manner which is distressing to the party downstream of the rush of water (words). There are other potential issues involved but IMO these are the most applicable to your situation. If you'd like to address the issue, ask him for what you want rather than telling him what to do or that he's wrong. If you don't want to address it, simply move on. There's billions of people in the world to interact with and plenty who interact in a compatible way, both for him and for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Odinani Posted November 9, 2015 Author Share Posted November 9, 2015 According this, interrupting is a sign that the person simply has a quicker mind. I don't necessarily buy it, but that seems to be the over-arching opinion. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OoY3iyQYleo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OoY3iyQYleo It feels more like he simply doesn't have the usual social skills tbh. It's a real turn off. We just had a phone conversation today after him saying he'd prefer we talked on the phone rather than texting back and forth and it was really awful. He interrupted every sentence and it meant I was very eager to get off the phone. He does this in person as well but it was even more intense on the phone. He does lack social skills in general like being able to read body language or displaying any form of empathy for others. Link to post Share on other sites
Glitters Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 Some people think they know better, to show their over intelligence , to prove you dumb Link to post Share on other sites
SwordofFlame Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 According this, interrupting is a sign that the person simply has a quicker mind. I don't necessarily buy it, but that seems to be the over-arching opinion. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OoY3iyQYleo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OoY3iyQYleo I have a tendency to interrupt when I get a thought. I usually have to fight myself not to do it Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 (edited) All valid points made here, however sometimes I find it necessary to interrupt as some people just go on and on, in an attempt to make (and then substantiate) a point ....which point I got within their first two sentences! So yah, it's necessary to interrupt people sometimes, otherwise they would continue jabbering, round in round, which sometimes results in confusion ...and downright annoyance. My ex-boss was like this ...drove EVERYONE crazy! No one wanted to work with him or for him. I left after a year. Ordinani, not saying that's what happened here, but if you find people are often interrupting you, look within to see if maybe YOU are talking too much, not allowing the other person to get a word in edgewise. If that is NOT the case, then he's just rude! Edited November 9, 2015 by katiegrl 1 Link to post Share on other sites
dragonfire13 Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 I think we all have self-absorbed moments. Especially if you meet someone you click with, unintentionally or not, your excited at all the things you have in common and go on and on. Sometimes when people are nervous too, they have brain vomit. However, a lot of people these days have poor conversational skills (I blame social media, encouraging the "ME ME ME!" mindset). I was dating a guy recently who would always bring a conversation back to himself, and disregard all other parts of the convo that weren't relevant to him. It got tiring after a while so I had to (kind of jokingly) tell him. He was appalled and his conversational skills improved after that. You could always try that. Sometimes people aren't even aware they're doing it. Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted November 10, 2015 Share Posted November 10, 2015 All valid points made here, however sometimes I find it necessary to interrupt as some people just go on and on, in an attempt to make (and then substantiate) a point ....which point I got within their first two sentences! I completely agree! And I have in essence interrupted Katie mid post there as I got her right at that first paragraph. I am using her post as an example here. However, I did read all the way through the rest of her post because I was looking for any other perspectives she had. Often people interrupt because they 'get it' without further explanation. Often people don't 'get it' and give their version of thoughts but it is actually pretty essential to listen to what they say because sometimes you can become aware they are on a totally different tangent. Don't switch off. At the point you realise they are on a different tangent you should say so or the conversation is a waste of both your time. Some people will just simply interrupt. If they do that consistently then ask them not to interrupt you and let you speak. Some people make the 'point' that is crucial at the end of a sentence, some don't. It's all about conversation skills and they make or break and save or waste time in business and in pretty much any situation. Mostly though email communications are far longer, harder and time consuming than a phone call or a meeting. Link to post Share on other sites
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