e4u Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 So.... I'm a guy in his 20's... When I was a few years younger I had short hair. Not a buzz cut, but close enough. Anyways, since then, I've gotten much fitter (not that I wasn't before) and have a much better career and education. Really, the only thing to change about me other than that is that my hair (if I let it loose) is now almost down the middle of my back in a wavy/flowing way. I get stereotyped a lot by that: musician, hippie, drug addict, etc...even though I'm actually in the clinical sciences. The thing I've noticed now...is that I get hit on by about 90% fewer women than before. And the ones that do hit on me are nowhere near as attractive as the women I used to date. Is long hair/buns really THAT big of a turn-off to girls/women or am I missing something?
PegNosePete Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Your empirical evidence would seem to substantiate your proposition. 10
LucidaConsole Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Is long hair/buns really THAT big of a turn-off to girls/women or am I missing something? Not for me, I dig that look. 1
Glitters Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Women take pride in their long hair ( those who have )and if your hair are flowing and they are balding then
loveweary11 Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Yup. I used to have long hair a while. You get a little niche of girls, but not a majority. The man bun is kind of ok still, but lots of girls laugh at those too. I'd pick something different. So.... I'm a guy in his 20's... When I was a few years younger I had short hair. Not a buzz cut, but close enough. Anyways, since then, I've gotten much fitter (not that I wasn't before) and have a much better career and education. Really, the only thing to change about me other than that is that my hair (if I let it loose) is now almost down the middle of my back in a wavy/flowing way. I get stereotyped a lot by that: musician, hippie, drug addict, etc...even though I'm actually in the clinical sciences. The thing I've noticed now...is that I get hit on by about 90% fewer women than before. And the ones that do hit on me are nowhere near as attractive as the women I used to date. Is long hair/buns really THAT big of a turn-off to girls/women or am I missing something?
d0nnivain Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I like man who looks like a man. To me that means short hair. If the guy's hair is longer than mine I'm not interested. The last thing I want is a guy who I have to compete with about who has better tresses. If you can't part with your long hair, think about cutting it at least to your shoulders . . . think Smith Jared from Sex in the City 3
Els Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I generally think guys should have more freedom to wear their hair however they like without being discriminated against for jobs, etc, but that doesn't change the fact that I don't think I've ever found a guy with long hair attractive. Regardless, if it's important to you, keep it and look for a compatible woman. I'm sure she's out there, especially if you yourself are open to more 'gender neutral' expressions by women (very short hair on her part, etc). But do guys with long hair really put it up in a bun? That would look.... weird, IMO.
Lois_Griffin Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I've never found long hair attractive on a guy. As someone else said, I like my men to look like men. Not hippies. Please tell me it's not a skullet you're sporting?
acrosstheuniverse Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 So.... I'm a guy in his 20's... When I was a few years younger I had short hair. Not a buzz cut, but close enough. Anyways, since then, I've gotten much fitter (not that I wasn't before) and have a much better career and education. Really, the only thing to change about me other than that is that my hair (if I let it loose) is now almost down the middle of my back in a wavy/flowing way. I get stereotyped a lot by that: musician, hippie, drug addict, etc...even though I'm actually in the clinical sciences. The thing I've noticed now...is that I get hit on by about 90% fewer women than before. And the ones that do hit on me are nowhere near as attractive as the women I used to date. Is long hair/buns really THAT big of a turn-off to girls/women or am I missing something? That's really interesting, I had no idea it's such a turn off to some women! Personally I really love guys with long hair, if I had to pick a guy having long or short hair I would go long every time. Somehow I feel like there's something more manly about it, I find buzz cuts and short hair on guys a turn off. Most of my exes have been long haired musicians, with hair longer than mine! But I'm a musician really into the metal and prog rock scene so it's probably due to that, I've always been into heavier music growing up and most of the musicians I've deeply admired or had crushes on as a young teenager have had long hair. I just don't find it remotely girly, it's hot hot hot. Perhaps your problem is that you'll attract girls who you don't necessarily have much in common with (like me... Into rock music and not a science person by any means) and turn off the women who are more into the straight laced professional look. Who knows. If you like it, keep it. It's a big plus for me. 2
darkbloom Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 If we have to fight over hair bands, I'm not into it. Even brad Pitt, who is by most people's standards handsome, looks like a less hotter homeless version of himself with long hair. 1
thefooloftheyear Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Who cares what they like or don't like? Don't ever do anything with hopes of making things more appealing to others....It never works... TFY 5
Karine26 Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 You could get away with long hair in Los Angeles I dig the look too. I like all types of guys but helloooo....Jared Leto...Yes!!! lol It also depends on your style because I can also think of looks with long hair that I wouldn't be attracted to.
PrettyEmily77 Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 If you want to keep hold of the long hair, then do that. Don't think it's a good idea to change your look based on what women on an anonymous forum who have never met you / are not contemplating starting a relationship with you may or may not think. Besides, it only takes one, man .
Author e4u Posted November 9, 2015 Author Posted November 9, 2015 I've never found long hair attractive on a guy. As someone else said, I like my men to look like men. Not hippies. Please tell me it's not a skullet you're sporting? Ha, no! It looks very similar to this: http://images6.fanpop.com/image/photos/32100000/Men-with-long-hair-men-with-long-hair-32142237-465-700.jpg and so do I, in a way, except a few years older than this guy, who is probably 20.
smackie9 Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 If you want to widen your selection of women you need to cut your hair. When I see a guy with super long hair, I think immaturity/unreliability. Now it doesn't have to be short short, about 4" above the shoulders, teased is sexy. 1
RecentChange Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Just curious, what sort of work do you do with your luscious locks? As for dating, some would say don't change a thing, be yourself. Which is perfectly fine, but as you are discovering how we groom etc affects how people relate to us. I dress more convervatively now than I did when I was younger. My career demands it, so I play the part. I also enjoy the respect etc my clothes demand. Don't underestimate the power of a dapper haircut
Author e4u Posted November 9, 2015 Author Posted November 9, 2015 (edited) Just curious, what sort of work do you do with your luscious locks? As for dating, some would say don't change a thing, be yourself. Which is perfectly fine, but as you are discovering how we groom etc affects how people relate to us. I dress more convervatively now than I did when I was younger. My career demands it, so I play the part. I also enjoy the respect etc my clothes demand. Don't underestimate the power of a dapper haircut I'm a clinical science consultant, running my own business...I help develop clinical algorithms for medical tech firms, their devices/equipment, and troubleshoot their hardware. As I've learned, anyone who doesn't know me thinks I'm in some music, drug, or hippie thing. I'm not a pro musician (although I play the guitar), I don't consider myself a hippie in the least, I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't do drugs. Actually, I've never even done those things at all because I just never wanted to. I just happen to have long hair and honestly sort of enjoy some aspects of it...minus the reduced luck with the ladies. I'll be honest...it really sucks that I'm now realizing I have to choose between my hair (which is superficial and you'd think women would just get past it)...and my chances with a wider selection of women. The type of women I now attract, almost all hippie-ish in a way, don't appeal to me much...and so it just stinks I might actually have to cut it to fit some sort of societal norm to attract the type of women I used to when I had shorter hair. Edited November 9, 2015 by e4u
kismetkismet Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Some women love long hair. I'm not going to lie, I personally find it very unattractive. It doesn't come with any judgement, I just find it off putting. I do think that most women feel that way, so it's true that you may be narrowing your dating pool by keeping the long hair. buuut, that doesn't mean you should cut it necessarily. If you really love your hair, you should keep it for yourself, if it helps you feel like yourself especially. I'm a 29 year old professional with a title, salary and a 9-5 and a have blue hair, and I have had pink hair and green hair in the past as well. I definitely don't think that is everyone's cup of tea, but it's me, and it's actually one of the first things that has attracted the guys that I have dated since i had it. The blue hair is probably a bit different since it's kind of a trend right now to have crazy hair and thus maybe not as out of the ordinary.. but i would never change my hair colour just so that MORE guys would date me. You just want the ones that like you for who you are and what you look like. If you do find it overly frustrating maybe try cutting it a bit shorter. You don't have to do away with the long hair entirely, but maybe try a more shaggy shoulder length sort of thing that is potentially less feminine? Ultimately you should have your hair the way YOU like it though. The right person will like you for yourself.
blackcat777 Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Long hair on a guy is SUCH a turn on for me! My boyfriend is growing out his curls and they are delicious. I love running my fingers through his hair. I love the way his hair smells like him. Sometimes when he studies, I love finding a curl that I can make stand straight up (of course, this makes him mad ). I am all about the long hair. I play a lot of J-RPGs, too. What sexy, evil wizard DOESN'T have long hair? I mean, seriously?? 1
FeelingFireworks Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 It depends. Used to dislike it, but my tastes are ever evolving. Its a combo of the guy's overall look and how well he cares for his locks. Doesn't matter if it's straight or curly, dark or fair, as long as it fits him. - If he's rugged with long hair and carries it beautifully, then it can make him more manly in my eyes - If he's very effeminate, I'm likely not going to be into him, long hair or not. Hair doesn't have to look like a Pantene ad (in fact, I'd rather not too pretty!) but it just has to be well cared for. So if man's hot or not, I'd prefer he keep it a length he can tend to it and that fits him.
smackie9 Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I was into guys with long hair back when I was a teenager....I'm so done with it. Just my 2 cents.
Phoe Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I've got no preference for hair length or color, I've got an ex who was bald, and another whose hair was longer than mine. Then there are those women who are super into long hair. But as a whole, in order to widen your pool, cutting it might help. While there are women who will automatically say "NO" to long hair, there are very few who will say "NO" to a simple short cut. However, if you absolutely adore your own hair, screw it. Keep it. There are women who will love it.
Mystique01 Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Just like men typically (not all) prefer women with LONG hair, I think most women typically (not all) prefer men with short hair. It might also signify to them that you're past a certain stage of your life. In other words, you're not a struggling musician, you're not a hippie trying to "find yourself", etc. If you're educated, and have a GOOD stable job, then I think your hair should reflect that. Idk how old you are, but if a man is in his late 20's and up and still has long shoulder length hair, it's LESS attractive to me than a man who is more clean-cut, shaven, and looks like he takes more pride in his appearance. Not all men can rock long mid-back length hair. Unless you're Johnny Depp or Jared Leto, most men with long shoulder length hair just don't do it for me.... I don't mean to be harsh, but I just would always prefer to see what they would look like with a hair cut.
Myragal Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 (edited) I like more of the medium length on a man.. A bit over the ears.. A couple inches down the neck. I like to run my fingers through thick hair. Long hair can be sexy 'if' done right. Usually not ok. Short hair...my least favorite but ok on the right guy. Never liked the military look. Any length can be ok on the right guyif not scraggly, greasy. Messy is ok if clean. Edited. Actually messy can be adorable. I like to fix my guy's hair before we go out. Must be some motherly instinct. Edited November 9, 2015 by Myragal
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