ilovemusic3 Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I used to go on dates with guys from there, but I haven't went on any in 5 months. Not that many ask me out, and when they do, we'll plan to go out but they never end up going. What gives?
Truth34 Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Haha... In short, we try. I have yet to actually coax someone out, although I did have a date set a few weeks back but she cancelled an hour and 20 mins beforehand. Never heard from her again.
PegNosePete Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I am still going on dates with someone I met on POF 18 months ago. 1
Miss Peach Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Not currently since I have a BF but before I met the BF I used them. There are lots of flakes but I met some cool guys on there too.
SwordofFlame Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Still do for OkCupid. I have noticed that I don't get as many dates from there as a few years ago. However, that is made up for with Tinder. It seems most people are on Tinder these days.
Shanex Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Ive been on and off Pof for years and I havent had a date there in over a year. No discussion in weeks. Its less active than it once was because of Tinder and social medias.
Httm Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Pof is garbage, but have had a lot of luck with okcupid in 2 states that I have lived in.
Jejangles Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I always have a lot of luck on OkCupid, when I'm being quite active I can usually set up 1 to 3 first dates a week. Here's how I "work" it: - Use quickmatch a lot - Message back anyone who has some sort of potential, always within 24 hours - Set up a firm plan asap as soon as they mention meeting in person - Allow those who want to flake to flake (I would say maybe 40 to 50% of guys who first message me go quiet before we meet). It's really all a numbers game, you need to be talking with about twice as many guys as you really want to meet with.
Rydo Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I met my current gf from pof and had countless dates before that. Some ranging from 1 date to several months of casual dating.
kismetkismet Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I think when online dating first came about it used to be the case that people only used the sites if they were really actively looking for a relationship. It wasn't the standard way of dating so people only turned to it when they were quite serious about finding someone. But now online dating is so normal and standard that pretty much everyone who is single is on it. Therefor, there are going to be a lot more people that are hanging around on the sites out of boredom or just to keep their 'options open' sort of thing. It's become the technological equivalent of going out to the bar or coffee shop or what have you. Just because someone is in there and single, and they'll maybe chat with you or give you their phone number, it doesn't mean they're serious about finding someone necessarily. Combine that with the fact that online dating gives you the illusion that you have endless possibilities and people on the fence are bound to get lazy. I'm saying this because i am one of those 'options open' lazier sort of online daters. (or was when I was single) I'm not there to waste anyone's time, but I'm also not going to go on 3 dates a week so the conversation has to go REALLY well for me to want to go through the awkwardness of a first date. I'm actually more likely to go out with a guy that I met randomly in person even if there's not necessarily more attraction/substance there... something about the initial awkwardness of going on a date with someone you've never actually met. I think there are some sites out there that are for people that are more serious about it. I stuck to tinder, and the free ones like okcupid and POF and was pretty straight forward about my not being a very active dater. My serious boyfriends have all been people i met in person. I think match.com and other paid ones are probably a better bet for if you are quite serious about finding someone and only want to talk to others that are in the same boat.
thecrucible Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I've had some dates from those sites. I only meet if we arrange to meet close to where I live or at a half way point. I decline when they want me to come to them. I also get the heebie jeebies if they ask me for a date soon. Most dates have gone to at least a second date so I obviously don't put guys off straight away anyways
Mrlonelyone Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I'll admit to being one of those people. I have been on Tinder and OKC for a while. Just stopped using OKC because I make a date and then cancel. Part of the reason is they always want to set the date a week in advance and in the blind dating scenario I know better than to be excited about that. So I cancel first. I had dates off there, plenty of flakes etc. To be honest, I use OKC and tinder just to check and see if I am appealing at all. 1
ShyLove Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I had 3 great dates with professional good looking guys from OkCupid what will end up happening, who knows? But there are some decent people on there. I have also had my fair share of emails from weirdos as I'm sure we all have when it comes to OLD!
hannahsmith Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 I used to go on dates with guys from there, but I haven't went on any in 5 months. Not that many ask me out, and when they do, we'll plan to go out but they never end up going. What gives? I've had loads of people who seem interested in meeting, or even ask themselves, then cancel or keep rearranging. Why bother?
schiller Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 The girl I'm with now (4 yrs) was from Ok Cupid. I've had relationships over 1 yr with women from POF. Lots of people online date. Generally speaking, the people online are no different than the ones you meet in a bar or supermarket. Including the wackjobs. 1
Author ilovemusic3 Posted November 11, 2015 Author Posted November 11, 2015 I want to go on Tinder but I don't have a smartphone. Is there a pc version where I won't have to download it?
Author ilovemusic3 Posted December 13, 2015 Author Posted December 13, 2015 For the past 6 months I've talked to several guys on both sites, but nobody ever wants to go out. Why is that, how do I change that?
okc85 Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 This is something I've wondered too, lol. I used to meet a lot of people from Okcupid, now it seems no one actually wants to meet. I have better luck with Match.com.
oberkeat Posted December 13, 2015 Posted December 13, 2015 (edited) I was getting dates fairly regularly on OkCupid, but the women I was meeting were not high-quality. So many negative experiences with it. So I deleted the profile and I'm just focusing on putting myself in real world activities that put me around the types of woman I am open to dating. I'm not doing any kind of online dating at all. Edited December 13, 2015 by oberkeat
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