ZA Dater Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Scenario. You are trying to date one person, however for a myriad of reasons catching their eye is proving difficult. You then meet someone who is friends with the first person, do you friend zone that female, impress her in the hope you can then have a go at charming the friend? High risk? Stupid? Ill advised? Dumb?
lana-banana Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Yes, it's a brilliant idea. Nothing is more attractive than a man who manipulates and hurts someone I love. Seriously though, mature adults don't sit around concocting elaborate schemes to win each other over. If you can't catch someone's attention it's because they aren't interested in yours. 2
Qboro90 Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 What's with the extreme focus you have with "friend zoning" women? This isn't high school anymore. If you like a girl, you can't buddy up with her bff in gym class and find out if her friend might like you back. I'd be more concerned with why you haven't been able to catch Woman A's attention yet. Is it just because you don't come into contact with her often? Or have you made attempts and not gotten anything in return? If so please explain what's happened during you're interactions so we can better advise. As far as becoming close with the friend. You don't need to get that deep into it. You can be friendly and chummy with a woman without making it a 12 step process. Talking over coffee or lunch break and simply saying "I noticed you and ___ are pretty close, did you two know each other before working here or how long have you been friends? Etc. I've wanted to say hello to her and introduce myself but didn't wanna come off as a rando lol" . Keep it light. If I were you however, I wouldn't use this approach. Any way you work it, the friend is ALWAYS going to side with her friend which is the girl you like. She's gonna tell her "yea ZA totally has a crush on you and was asking a lot of questions about you the other day". That's just a given. And you don't want to come off as that guy by having the girl you like hear through the grape vine that you're "creepin" on her. (Not that you're a creep, that's just the way modern society would word that situation). Women are gonna be most responsive to a man who has the ability to interact with them directly. There's no easy way around that. Can't make friends with her circle of trust and have them facilitate a date or relationship. Gotta come up with a talk track to go up to her or next time she's around you engage in convo and build that way. 1
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