cookiemonster26 Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I went on three dates with a guy all were amazing we had tons of fun talked alot laughed alot and he payed for the dates even though I insisted to pay one of the dates we hung out till 3 am talking non stop so everything seems to be going well but he hasn't tried to kiss me yet or hold my hand or anything just hugs me at the end of the dates bUT he still keeps talking to me and wanting to hang out so I'm not sure if he's interested or I have been friend zoned ?
SwordofFlame Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 What about your own behavior? Do you flirt? Touch his arm? Hook his arm? Invade his personal space? Give him that "I want you to kiss me" eye contact at the end of each date?
Author cookiemonster26 Posted November 9, 2015 Author Posted November 9, 2015 What about your own behavior? Do you flirt? Touch his arm? Hook his arm? Invade his personal space? Give him that "I want you to kiss me" eye contact at the end of each date? Not the first two but I did get more touchy this time around although I feel like I could probably do those things a bit more also whenever we say goodbye I get nervous and look down ahhaah 1
Blanco Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I'm just happy that you weren't expecting kids after only three dates. 15
SwordofFlame Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Not the first two but I did get more touchy this time around although I feel like I could probably do those things a bit more also whenever we say goodbye I get nervous and look down ahhaah If you're looking down, that basically says you don't want to be kissed.
Zapbasket Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Perhaps he's just a respectful guy who is enjoying getting to know you and doesn't feel any rush. Why are you so anxious to put a label on your time together? Are you connecting? Do you both seem to really enjoy the dates? Does he call you to schedule the next date? Does he seem excited to see you and to enjoy your company and getting to know you? If the answers to these questions is "yes," then you have nothing to worry about. Relax, and enjoy whatever unfolds. 2
SwordofFlame Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Perhaps he's just a respectful guy who is enjoying getting to know you and doesn't feel any rush. Why are you so anxious to put a label on your time together? Are you connecting? Do you both seem to really enjoy the dates? Does he call you to schedule the next date? Does he seem excited to see you and to enjoy your company and getting to know you? If the answers to these questions is "yes," then you have nothing to worry about. Relax, and enjoy whatever unfolds. It doesn't seem like they've had much physical contact at all. If I'm the guy, I may think I'm in the friend zone and would probably just move on. There are people having sex by the third date. Not even getting a kiss by then means I've probably struck out. There's always exceptions though.
xcupid Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Give him a break. Give him time and give him the signals that you want to be kissed. Hold his hand. 2
Author cookiemonster26 Posted November 9, 2015 Author Posted November 9, 2015 Perhaps he's just a respectful guy who is enjoying getting to know you and doesn't feel any rush. Why are you so anxious to put a label on your time together? Are you connecting? Do you both seem to really enjoy the dates? Does he call you to schedule the next date? Does he seem excited to see you and to enjoy your company and getting to know you? If the answers to these questions is "yes," then you have nothing to worry about. Relax, and enjoy whatever unfolds. This is the best advice ever hehehe )
joseb Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 If you're looking down, that basically says you don't want to be kissed. Yeah that makes it pretty hard. He basically has to pull your chin up to kiss you. It's generally a "leave me alone" message.
Zapbasket Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 It doesn't seem like they've had much physical contact at all. If I'm the guy, I may think I'm in the friend zone and would probably just move on. There are people having sex by the third date. Not even getting a kiss by then means I've probably struck out. There's always exceptions though. Jeesh, man, dating is not a baseball game! Listen to yourself! It's two people--strangers, much of the time--spending time together to see whether there's any worthwhile compatibility. When the attraction and interest are mutually there, all the good things happen. And nothing kills attraction and interest more than someone impatiently waiting to round to the next base because their ego, their desire to be desirable, has overtaken everything else, including their own common sense. When it's there, it happens. It may take a while, but...when it's there, IT HAPPENS. Maybe it would be better if we all paid more attention to whether WE'RE interested in THEM, rather than worrying so much about whether they're interested in us. 2
Author cookiemonster26 Posted November 9, 2015 Author Posted November 9, 2015 Jeesh, man, dating is not a baseball game! Listen to yourself! It's two people--strangers, much of the time--spending time together to see whether there's any worthwhile compatibility. When the attraction and interest are mutually there, all the good things happen. And nothing kills attraction and interest more than someone impatiently waiting to round to the next base because their ego, their desire to be desirable, has overtaken everything else, including their own common sense. When it's there, it happens. It may take a while, but...when it's there, IT HAPPENS. Maybe it would be better if we all paid more attention to whether WE'RE interested in THEM, rather than worrying so much about whether they're interested in us. Ya I agree with this. Everything is going great so I would rather just go with the flow instead of dropping things
Maxtor Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Ok, BUT I NEED TO KNOWZ What is the "no kids" all about? Please! 1
Author cookiemonster26 Posted November 9, 2015 Author Posted November 9, 2015 Ok, BUT I NEED TO KNOWZ What is the "no kids" all about? Please! Typo hahaha
Author cookiemonster26 Posted November 9, 2015 Author Posted November 9, 2015 It doesn't seem like they've had much physical contact at all. If I'm the guy, I may think I'm in the friend zone and would probably just move on. There are people having sex by the third date. Not even getting a kiss by then means I've probably struck out. There's always exceptions though. So I guess it's safe to say he just sees me as a friend ?
SwordofFlame Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 So I guess it's safe to say he just sees me as a friend ? You could plan the next date and be sure to be as physical as possible. I don't see much downside to that, especially if he's planned the first three. Make sure you don't look down at the end of the date too.
d0nnivain Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 So I guess it's safe to say he just sees me as a friend ? No. What we're saying is that when you look down at the end of the date, your behavior is signalling to him that you don't want him to kiss you. For your 4th date, greet him with a peck on the cheek. Then throughout out the date especially when you are holding hands, look into his eyes, noticeably drop your gaze to his lips & lick yours. He should tilt his head forward. You follow suit & viola in no time you will be kissing.
xcupid Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 And if you really have to and he's not getting the message, look him in the eyes and tell him it's okay to kiss you. If he doesn't plant one on your lips after that, move on.
Author cookiemonster26 Posted November 10, 2015 Author Posted November 10, 2015 No. What we're saying is that when you look down at the end of the date, your behavior is signalling to him that you don't want him to kiss you. For your 4th date, greet him with a peck on the cheek. Then throughout out the date especially when you are holding hands, look into his eyes, noticeably drop your gaze to his lips & lick yours. He should tilt his head forward. You follow suit & viola in no time you will be kissing. Well I asked.him out and he stopped replying to my texts, I guess there is my answer
joseb Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 Well I asked.him out and he stopped replying to my texts, I guess there is my answer How long has it been since you asked? He might reply. If not, well at least you have found out now, rather than wasting another 2 or 3 dates getting more frustrated.
d0nnivain Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 Well I asked.him out and he stopped replying to my texts, I guess there is my answer I'm sorry but you should be proud of yourself for taking initiative. His loss. 1
TexasMan68 Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 Well I asked.him out and he stopped replying to my texts, I guess there is my answer So you asked him out via a text? No phone call? Lame way to show someone your interested in them.
Author cookiemonster26 Posted November 10, 2015 Author Posted November 10, 2015 So you asked him out via a text? No phone call? Lame way to show someone your interested in them. I actually did call him but he didn't pick up and he said he would call me back and never did, then preceeded to ignore my text so I guess I have my answer since I have been ghosted
Author cookiemonster26 Posted November 10, 2015 Author Posted November 10, 2015 How long has it been since you asked? He might reply. If not, well at least you have found out now, rather than wasting another 2 or 3 dates getting more frustrated. It's been half a day. He said he would call me back to plan out or date but he hasn't and he hasn't texted although I keep seeing him log on facebook
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