Lovin Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 We've been together for 6 months and I want to see him 3 times a week but every time i suggest it he usually just gives me 2 days. Although usually it's a stay over 2 days/night. But he forgets the days he's meant to see me and I feel like when I'm always counting days till I get to see him, I have to remind him because he doesn't even care enough to remember we made plans. If i didnt remind him i'd probably be lucky to see him once a week half the time. Considering we live 15 mins away walking you'd think we could see each other more easily. But it's like even tho we live close our time together is restricted to those two days. So no lunch during the week at uni or something. Although everything is totally perfect when we are together, just getting together seems to be a problem. ADVICE please? NB/ I have a busy schedule and make time but he spends more time with his friends than me.
Gaeta Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Wow, why did you put up with this for 6 months? You let him turn you into a FWB. He gets his dosage of sex twice a week, he's happy that's all he wants.
Author Lovin Posted November 9, 2015 Author Posted November 9, 2015 (edited) Wow, why did you put up with this for 6 months? You let him turn you into a FWB. He gets his dosage of sex twice a week, he's happy that's all he wants. Im usually the one needing my dossage tbh. we dont have sex everytime and frankly i get pissy if we dont lol. I don't think it's that. I mean the rare occasion i do get to see him 3 times we dont always have sex 3 times Edited November 9, 2015 by Lovin
Author Lovin Posted November 9, 2015 Author Posted November 9, 2015 Are you both students? how old are you 2? Yes we are at the same uni. We're both 20
ThisisIt606 Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 What sorts of things do you do when you see each other? Are they actual dates (instead of just going over eachothers places) Are you still doing things like going out to dinner, movies, shows, games, concerts, etc.?
Gaeta Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Yes we are at the same uni. We're both 20 Well, he may just be a typical 20 yo. He has a busy life with Uni, friends, etc. Sure he has a girlfriend but it's not to build a strong bond with you, it's simply to have a girlfriend. You cannot make him want you more. What you see is what you get. If you are looking for a closer connection you may need a different man, maybe older.
Author Lovin Posted November 9, 2015 Author Posted November 9, 2015 What sorts of things do you do when you see each other? Are they actual dates (instead of just going over eachothers places) Are you still doing things like going out to dinner, movies, shows, games, concerts, etc.? Seeing how we are both broke - no
Author Lovin Posted November 9, 2015 Author Posted November 9, 2015 Well, he may just be a typical 20 yo. He has a busy life with Uni, friends, etc. Sure he has a girlfriend but it's not to build a strong bond with you, it's simply to have a girlfriend. You cannot make him want you more. What you see is what you get. If you are looking for a closer connection you may need a different man, maybe older. He said he loves me first. Though i guess said and meant it is different. We were talking about moving in together still are. The way he talks is like he sees a future and when we are together he is really caring and loving etc.
Redhead14 Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 We've been together for 6 months and I want to see him 3 times a week but every time i suggest it he usually just gives me 2 days. Although usually it's a stay over 2 days/night. But he forgets the days he's meant to see me and I feel like when I'm always counting days till I get to see him, I have to remind him because he doesn't even care enough to remember we made plans. If i didnt remind him i'd probably be lucky to see him once a week half the time. Considering we live 15 mins away walking you'd think we could see each other more easily. But it's like even tho we live close our time together is restricted to those two days. So no lunch during the week at uni or something. Although everything is totally perfect when we are together, just getting together seems to be a problem. ADVICE please? NB/ I have a busy schedule and make time but he spends more time with his friends than me. You two aren't "together" -- you're a backburner girl. The fact that you initiate and push him and he sees you means nothing. He' goes along with it when you push him because, there just doesn't happen to be anyone else to go with at the time. Stop seeing this guy if you want more, because you're not going to get it. You're not his girlfriend. You're just a girl he likes and let's come over once in while for sex. 1
Author Lovin Posted November 9, 2015 Author Posted November 9, 2015 You two aren't "together" -- you're a backburner girl. The fact that you initiate and push him and he sees you means nothing. He' goes along with it when you push him because, there just doesn't happen to be anyone else to go with at the time. Stop seeing this guy if you want more, because you're not going to get it. You're not his girlfriend. You're just a girl he likes and let's come over once in while for sex. Except he asked me to be his gf, said he loved me first. Talked about moving in. Considering when we started seeing each other i was a virgin.
Gaeta Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Except he asked me to be his gf, said he loved me first. Talked about moving in. Considering when we started seeing each other i was a virgin. I hate to be the first one to tell you this but guys will say anything we want to hear to get what they want. Their actions is what you need to observe. A man that is into you will drive miles to see you, he'll miss sleep, he'll pick you over his friends, he'll remember things. 1
Author Lovin Posted November 9, 2015 Author Posted November 9, 2015 I hate to be the first one to tell you this but guys will say anything we want to hear to get what they want. Their actions is what you need to observe. A man that is into you will drive miles to see you, he'll miss sleep, he'll pick you over his friends, he'll remember things. So should i consider ending it or just think of it as friends with benefits rather than gf?
phineas Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 What is he doing when you are not around? What does he do instead of spend time with you?
Author Lovin Posted November 9, 2015 Author Posted November 9, 2015 What is he doing when you are not around? What does he do instead of spend time with you? DOTA or COD (gaming) and gym plus friends and any uni stuff
smackie9 Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 When you are not a priority, he's not that into you plain and simple. Guys will do and say anything to get sex....never go by what he tells you go by his actions. If you breakup with him he won't shed a tear. I dated a guy that was like this.....I dumped him after 3 weeks.
Gaeta Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 So should i consider ending it or just think of it as friends with benefits rather than gf? Well depends. You're only 20 years old, what do you want out of this?
Popsicle Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I would be happy with seeing someone twice a week to three times a week. Anything more and I might feel smothered. I am an introvert though. When introverts date extroverts there can be problems like this. (and others) 1
Leigh 87 Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I would be happy with seeing someone twice a week to three times a week. Anything more and I might feel smothered. I am an introvert though. When introverts date extroverts there can be problems like this. (and others) My bf and I are extremely quirky introverts that NO ONE gets. He still made the time for me.....
Author Lovin Posted November 9, 2015 Author Posted November 9, 2015 My bf and I are extremely quirky introverts that NO ONE gets. He still made the time for me..... I should also point out that we do not talk everyday and im usually the one to talk first... I think you are right, he is an introvert. But SURELY if he cared....
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