dumbass2 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 (edited) So, I've had it happen once out of many dates with women I've met with OLD. She cancelled by email (after we already talked on the phone) and offered no good excuse or reschedule so I did not reply and moved on. I felt at that point it deserved a phone call and excuse or wasn't worth my time. Now with someone else that contacted me first, we just emailed back and forth a few times and talked on the phone yesterday and we had a lively conversation and we set tonight to meet with me driving closer to her at a restaurant for dinner. She text me 3 hours before hand telling me she can't make it and she's sorry and hopes I have a good night. a little more in depth then the first time someone cancelled last minute, but still, no call (just a text), no reason and no mention of reschedule. I'm not stupid, but don't want to let what happened last bias my thinking too much. First thought is to not doing anything as there was no good reason given and no mention of rescheduling. I'm a bit surprised because the conversation "I" felt went well and she was very upbeat when i asked her out. Agree or not at me not replying? At most I may send "Sorry to hear that, let me know if you want to try again sometime" Edited November 9, 2015 by dumbass2
Wewon Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 My take on this is that life happens and things pop up, so I try to be understanding from that end. However, my philosophy is that interested people act interested; this was built after years of trying to give the benefit of the doubt while simultaneously weeding out flakes. Basically, if a person is really interested and truly has to cancel, they are usually apologetic and want to get things back on track. So if she's not rescheduling then neither am I and I move on. Not to be a jerk, but simply because there are too many flakes out there. 5
thecrucible Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I agree with Wewon. It's a bit of a turn off to cancel so last minute but sometimes life gets in the way. I'd be put off even anyway even though I empathise with that point, because you would have built things up for that night and may have cancelled other plans to meet with her. 1
Author dumbass2 Posted November 9, 2015 Author Posted November 9, 2015 I just replied, "no worries. Let me know if you want to try again sometime". The first time it ever happened I did not reply back to that person. This one's text was at least a little more personal saying she was sorry and hoped I still have a good night and I am interested in her. I'm not pursuing her any more though and left it so if she is interested, she can contact me. I have other women interested so it's nice to have options.
phineas Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Too much text over a cancelled first date. Learn to not get so worked up over online stuff. If she doesn't attempt to reschedule when she cancels tell her no problem then move on. She changed her mind or found someone else. Hell I've made dates then had women not respond to my texts a few days before. Typical online. 1
smackie9 Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Wow cancelling a date via email or text.....pathetic. 2
phineas Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Wow cancelling a date via email or text.....pathetic. I agree. I cancel over phone only.
Odinani Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I'm guilty of having done this a few times. It's just that we all have work, family and other commitments and a little less free time than we'd like. Do I really want to spend my "me" time having a possibly stiff and awkward dinner with some bloke from the internet? If I do cancel I will always give at least 2 days notice and would usually call to cancel, not just text. 1
Truth34 Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Had this happen recently too. Same thing, she said something urgent came up and she is sorry for the short notice. I said no big deal, hope everything is okay. No reply. A few days later I sent her a message (OKC) and got nothing. Flaaaaaaakes, flakes everywhere!
xcupid Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I just replied, "no worries. Let me know if you want to try again sometime". The first time it ever happened I did not reply back to that person. This one's text was at least a little more personal saying she was sorry and hoped I still have a good night and I am interested in her. I'm not pursuing her any more though and left it so if she is interested, she can contact me. I have other women interested so it's nice to have options. Doubtful she will contact you. You have to initiate again if you're interested in her.
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