She's uncertain

[Mr C]

I've been dating someone from my course. In fact the word dating is probably a bit much, we've met up a few times, and she's stayed over etc etc

 

Anyway when she's drunk she tends to give me a grilling, asks about past relationships and about my 'lads holidays'.

Yesterday she randomly text me saying what do I think of her, I told her that I like her and would like to date her, when I asked her the same question she said she was confused and couldn't explain it.

 

I should mention only a few months ago she's broken up from an 8 year relationship, she's 24 I'm 27.

 

I like her, for me saying she's confused is a cop out. But I didn't bring it up, she did and the fact we're not officially dating there was no need to bring it up. Why ask?!

[Mr C]

Basically I'm just wanting to know, should I just give up or is she worth pursuing.

[Odinani]

What does "stayed over" even mean? You are having sex? You go out to restaurants and stuff? What?

[Mr C]

All of the above

[phineas]

Tell her to let you know when she is no longer "confused" and move on.

8 yrs?

It's too short. If you like her and don't want to be a rebound then I suggest you keep your distance sexually.

 

Good news though since you have slept with her, when she is ready, since she has slept with you, she may feel more comfortable getting into a relationship with you.

[smackie9]

You are a rebound. It's possible she still wants to get back with her ex or her emotions are still with him. IMO you are wasting your time on someone that is so fresh out of a relationship.....her interest in you is delusive.

[Popsicle]

Ask her why she's confused and what she's confused about. She obviously wants to talk about it.

[Mr C]

Thanks for the replies everyone. Her ex has been contacting her but she's adamant she wouldn't her back together with him. It's not great timing to be honest, a relationship as long as that can't be easy to get over.