treehugger101 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Anyone ever have their partner tell them "Your playing games" when yet you aren't doing anything, but yet they keep saying this to you again and again? What do they mean?
d0nnivain Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 You have to ask them. Individual's perceptions are their realities. So the next time your BF says this to you, respond that you are not playing games but since he repeatedly thinks you are, that you two need to talk about his perception. Ask him for specific examples. Talk through the issue.
katiegrl Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Anyone ever have their partner tell them "Your playing games" when yet you aren't doing anything, but yet they keep saying this to you again and again? What do they mean? I recall dating a few guys who accused me of being a "diva" or *drama queen" ...when in reality *I* was the calm one and *they* caused all the drama! They would even complain that every woman they ever dated were drama queens, after which I would scratch my head thinking "gee, wonder why." Before I walked away that is. It's called projection, not uncommon actually, but can be confusing for the recipient if they're not familiar with it.
katiegrl Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 (edited) Have you ever encountered a person who made mountains out of molehills, going off about some nonsensical thing ... yelling, throwing fits .... while you just sit there calmly and quietly (mostly in shock over what you're witnessing) ...only to have them blurt out that YOU need to calm down? Or a boyfriend who constantly accuses YOU of cheating ...when the truth of the matter is HE is cheating? Projection. Edited November 9, 2015 by katiegrl 1
Author treehugger101 Posted November 9, 2015 Author Posted November 9, 2015 Have you ever encountered a person who made mountains out of molehills, going off about some nonsensical thing ... yelling, throwing fits .... while you just sit there calmly and quietly (mostly in shock over what you're witnessing) ...only to have them blurt out that YOU need to calm down? Or a boyfriend who constantly accuses YOU of cheating ...when the truth of the matter is HE is cheating? Projection. He says he isn't cheating though and I am not cheating either. Every time I do try to talk about and tell him I am not playing games, he refuses to talk about it and just hangs up. Or he wants to drop the subject.
truth_seeker Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 Have you ever encountered a person who made mountains out of molehills, going off about some nonsensical thing ... yelling, throwing fits .... while you just sit there calmly and quietly (mostly in shock over what you're witnessing) ...only to have them blurt out that YOU need to calm down? Or a boyfriend who constantly accuses YOU of cheating ...when the truth of the matter is HE is cheating? Projection. What you call projection, I call a head case.
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