Jesse101 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 It happens again and again and again. I meat a beautiful girl and develop a crush on her but do nothing about it. I sit around and think why cant she be mine. I see this girl often and sometimes we catch each other glancing. I guess Im scared of rejection because I see her on a daily basis and it would destroy me. She's a year older than me. I have her number because she texted me a something for a meet up with friends. I don't know weather to hit her up because she didn't really give me her number expecting a conversation. I am just lost in this whole thing I don't know what to take as a sign of interest from her. I work up courage to approach then tell myself she will just laugh or blow it off even being rejected in a nice way will feel horrible. I usually end up telling myself she not the one when I'm not even sure about it. I just hope one day something with just fall into place with a girl meaning I wont have to work for it. I hate myself for this I fear of never having a relationship. This predicament I'm in now is the worst. its kind of like its right there in front of me but I tell myself the same thing that she's not interested. We both are on instagram and she does like a lot of my posts even though we barely talk and we only been acquaintances for a month. so know the big question. What should I do? leave it be like the rest, or give it a painful shot?
thecrucible Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Hey there, First of all, you're not the only person to experience this. I don't know a single person who isn't slightly intimidated by someone very attractive. If you're scared of rejection, try not to put your eggs in one basket. Just think that you'll go in only expecting a good conversation and then if it takes off, it takes off. If you see her often and have nothing to talk about as an ice breaker, just talk about your surroundings. If you're in class together, you can use that as an ice breaker. How old are you and how do you know her? Start off small and build from there. If you think about the end goal, it'll just make it a tonne scarier. You can do it. You've got to go for things in life. It's better to regret something that hasn't worked out than to regret not trying.
Author Jesse101 Posted November 9, 2015 Author Posted November 9, 2015 Hey there, First of all, you're not the only person to experience this. I don't know a single person who isn't slightly intimidated by someone very attractive. If you're scared of rejection, try not to put your eggs in one basket. Just think that you'll go in only expecting a good conversation and then if it takes off, it takes off. If you see her often and have nothing to talk about as an ice breaker, just talk about your surroundings. If you're in class together, you can use that as an ice breaker. How old are you and how do you know her? Start off small and build from there. If you think about the end goal, it'll just make it a tonne scarier. You can do it. You've got to go for things in life. It's better to regret something that hasn't worked out than to regret not trying. I am 17 and she is 18, we both are in the same school. both seniors. I don't know where to start conversations usually a good 10 seconds. I remember we were in study hall and we actually talked quite a bit. she then said hi to me the next day for the first time but then it was all awkward again. like we forgot that we actually talked. I'm not scared about going up to her and talking to her its just showing my feelings and the fear of her laughing at me or blowing me off and getting wierded out.
smackie9 Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 Hi Kathy how ya doin? you want to catch a movie? What are you into? We can chill after at starbucks, you down? BTW you need to find confidence or she will be disappointed.
dragonfire13 Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 Listen, you're a guy. You don't need to worry about initiating conversation with a girl to show your interest. Most, if not all, women will be intrigued or flattered. However, I sympathise. I'm a woman and I'm useless at flirting. I hate looking desperate. Believe it or not, going to Meetup events helped my confidence in terms of my ability to strike up conversation with strangers. If you like a girl, try the same "networking" approach. Don't try cheesy chat up lines, just talk to her in a friendly, conversational manner. Then ask her if she wants to go for a drink sometime. If yes, great! If not, then don't take it personally. We've all been rejected before. It's better to take a shot, instead of fretting about a missed opportunity after.
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