Pjj Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 I have been married for 15 years to my husband. Since day one he has smothered me, but I thought after time it would get better. He waits on me hand and foot to the point it disgusts me. Countless times I have told him he needs his own life and interests, but the obsession with me only continues. I know every person would love to have someone like this, but I'm done. I can't go to the grocery store alone without him wanting to go. We have three kids so I have endured many unhappy years for them. But I'm at the point I need to drink just to stand being around him. Clueless how to get our. When I try to talk about it with him, he's in denial. Help
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 You're right, most women would cut off their right arm to have their men dote over them. But seriously, there must be more to this story than just what you've posted. Have you given him reason to mistrust you in any way? Was he like this before you got married? If not, what's changed? Do you have your own circle of friends and social life? Do you work outside the home? When you say he's obsessed with you, does it feeling loving or does it feel like he's doing this out of his own fear of losing you? We need more info because it's not making much sense as is. 1
mystikmind2005 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 I can understand his confusion because it is customary/expected to actually love the person you marry.
TunaCat Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 If you weren't happy from the beginning why did you have kids with him? That's the thing that makes the least sense to me. You guys also should have been in some kind of therapy to address this issue long again. You strike me as very passive. Otherwise, you wouldn't have let this go on as long as you have. Being with someone like your husband would drive me absolutely batty. But I wouldn't have stayed in a relationship let alone a marriage with someone like him.
Mr. Lucky Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 We need more info because it's not making much sense as is. Agreed. One person's smothering is another's attentiveness. Have you discussed the issues, either in individual or marriage counseling? Mr. Lucky
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