BigB Posted May 25, 2005 Posted May 25, 2005 I'm not sure what section to put this in.. guess this'll do. I've been off work for a couple days so I haven't had a chance to post this yet... So my middle sister, Eliza's friend from high school was killed on Sat. night, her boyfriend strangled her. she was approx. 20. From what I hear the boyfriend was high on meth. and on his way to check himself into re-hab or a psych. ward or something.. I don't know all the details, but my sister called on the phone hysterical on Sunday afternoon, my first instinct was that something had happened to her, because she's got an abusive boyfriend herself.. *sigh* luckily she was ok, but managed to get out that something had happened to her friend. She'd stopped seeing this friend because she was one of those girls with a messed up family life, who just seemed to be a magnet for problems and bad people. So she broke it off, but always felt that this girl was her best friend. She had to read about it in the paper, while she was at work.. I can't imagine how much that must have sucked... I didn't know this girl long, but she was a sweetheart.. I met her around the time she was in high school with my sister, and she had recently been raped by several guys while drunk/drugged at a party... One of the guys involved was the son of a cop or something and there were all these rumor's flying around town that she'd asked for it, wanted it, was lying, etc. and I just ignored that, didn't talk about it, and tried to be her friend.. She didn't have a dad, her mom was young, and she used to say I was like a brother to her and her friends.. I'd stick up for them when we went out, and scare off the little high school punks that would throw insults at her in public... It still feels kinda surreal.. not sure what to think... I'm starting to cry just typing this..Man, the little sweet messed up ones always hurt the most... You start to feel like maybe there was something else we could have done to help her... and I'm scared that my sister will be next... I sure would like 5 minutes in a room with that boyfriend of hers about now....
opaleye Posted May 25, 2005 Posted May 25, 2005 That's horrible. I can't imagine how hard it must be for your sister and how horrible it must have been for her friend. There's not much else to say except that maybe this will show your sister how dangerous it can be to be involved with someone who is abusive... I am sorry that this happened.
SexKitten Posted May 25, 2005 Posted May 25, 2005 there was a member of my family that was strangled. i feel for you, it's horrible and it's a totally traumatic experience. i hope you're doing well.
CurlyIam Posted May 25, 2005 Posted May 25, 2005 There's a f*cked up world out there and horrible things can happen to each one of us, without associating with bad people. BigB, be tough and learn from this experience. After what you have told her about herself and her "aquaintances", it was only a matter of time before something like that was about to happen... you think that being raped while passed out learnt her something about the people she was seeing. All I can say about her fate is "predictable". I'm really sorry for your loss, I hope your sister is handling this ... be strong for her.
Jadey Posted May 25, 2005 Posted May 25, 2005 Wow, thats really bad. Sorry. That is a ****ed thing. The world is pretty ****ed up most of the time Hang in there Give your sister lots of suppot ok? She needs it... Wishing you LOTS of luck with this..Jade xx
blind_otter Posted May 25, 2005 Posted May 25, 2005 That's scarey stuff. You probably remember my story about my ex, and that my dog saved my friend by dragging my ex off of him and savaging my ex's arm. The cop that came to the scene patted my dog and said it was a good thing I had him there or my friend and I could be dead or injured worse. It's a frightening thing to realize...women being victimized repeatedly. And some people have to gall to say it's asked for. IN any case, I feel for you, dude. You are a good man to be so upset about your sister's friend's death.
Author BigB Posted May 25, 2005 Author Posted May 25, 2005 Thanks for the support everyone. It was weird. At first I didn't really react. Denial I guess. Then after posting that it hit me really hard that she's gone. I was crying on and off all night and I almost never cry. On these graveyard shifts it's just you and your thoughts and the darkness so I guess that's a normal time for it to hit me. It's strange to me that I would get this broken up over a girl I hardly knew. I guess it just hits home. She kinda felt like a little sister to me. Someone I knew needed protecting. I know I was a positive male influence on her, even if it was just for a little while. So I guess I can feel good about that. I never get emotional, so it's weird for me. I guess I'm always the one trying to be strong for my little sisters and my mom. I just can't be emotional in front of people. I get chocked up but I hide it I guess. I've always dealt pretty well with deaths, but it sucks extra when people go before their time. I always knew this girl was destined for problems.. but I never imagined this. Otter, I never saw the posts about that incident, but I've pickup up tid bits of it in your other posts. Your posts fascinate me for some reason. Mad props for being so strong after something like that. And mad love to your bad-ass dogie. I haven't seen my sister since the news. She's moved out because she's fighting with my mom about her s***bag boyfriend. I think I going to try to track her down this morning. If nothing else to give her a hug. I sure hope this giver her a wake-up call.
blind_otter Posted May 25, 2005 Posted May 25, 2005 Thanks, B! It's a tragedy - and for that to happen to someone you know, of course you'll react, 'specially a dude like you who is a nice big teddy bear kinda guy. I'm glad you are going to find your sister to hang with her and help her through this. But don't have any expectations that this is a wakeup call...denial is not a reiver in egypt they say. Anyways, I hope things work out so that she gets safely away from her abusive BF....
Author BigB Posted May 26, 2005 Author Posted May 26, 2005 well I never did find my sister yesterday morning. I guess she took a day or 2 off work. I'm going to try to find her again after work this morning.
CurlyIam Posted May 26, 2005 Posted May 26, 2005 I hope you find her soon. Keep us posted, BigB! This must be really tough on her, she most certainly needs your support!
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