towch Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 If you have read my story you can read it here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/524704-i-want-my-ex-back-road-where-we I brief synopsis is my Ex broke with me after & while have an affair for 8 months at the time of the break up. She claimed that she wanted to be single and figure out why she did such a terrible thing lol. This girl was still lying because she was still with the other guy. I still wanted her back (pathetic lmao). Update: I moved on, got better (thanks to all you wonderful people). I met someone else too. She is wonderful and a little too clingy but wonderful nonetheless. So a couple of months into dating my current girlfriend my Ex who cut me off, treated me like trash and ignored me called for her monthly or so check up to confirm that i was still miserable and still wanted her. Well that was not what happened, she had a conversation with a confident, no forks given, happy guy who couldn't careless about the conversation or how her life was. She could sense the change and also began to acquire whether i a girlfriend lol. I told her i did. she proceeded to ask "Who is that bit*h"(like WTF?, why is she mad? i mean she is stilling with the same dude she cheated and left me for...i couldn't understand). This call was followed by other call of her now that she realized i had someone telling me: 1. she was sorry 2. She regrets what she did 3. She didn't like hearing that i had a girlfriend 4. That she is mad someone took her place 5. She wanted me back 6. all that BS. I told her i had someone now and i was unavailable that she needed to move on. She told me that she had broken up with the dude and she would wait for me and all that BS, that she just wanted to be with me. she kept assaulting me with calls pressing me to breakup with my girlfriend and getting the same answer. The thing is that this while doing all this crap trying to make me fall for it, she was still with that guy and lying that they were not together. lol i mean i couldn't understand, did she just want to breakup what i had because she is not happy that i am happy or is she just some chronic cheater i don't know. I was mad and hurt at what she did to me but i didn't hate her. but now i do, she is a sick, evil, selfish, demonic and terrible person and i hope she never finds happiness. I am inclined to contact that guy and let him know that this girl is trying to be with me. should i do it? lol. Well that's my update. what goes around, comes around. Also when they come back be wise, they are not always resentful.
TaraMaiden2 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 I'm not even sure why you actually even responded to her, unless it was with a sense of revenge and come-uppance. Sounds like you like having your ego boosted by someone who appears to be desperate to have you back. If she's playing games - then so are you. If you were to contact her current guy - she would be entitled to tell your GF how you're still talking to her (your ex) behind her (your GF's) back. # Just block her, deny her any access, response, satisfaction or dignity of anything even remotely like talking. Do not dignify her entreaties with any attention at all. Focus on your GF. Why is she clingy? If she knew the games you engaged in, I might feel the same way.....
Author towch Posted November 8, 2015 Author Posted November 8, 2015 I'm not even sure why you actually even responded to her, unless it was with a sense of revenge and come-uppance. Sounds like you like having your ego boosted by someone who appears to be desperate to have you back. If she's playing games - then so are you. If you were to contact her current guy - she would be entitled to tell your GF how you're still talking to her (your ex) behind her (your GF's) back. # Just block her, deny her any access, response, satisfaction or dignity of anything even remotely like talking. Do not dignify her entreaties with any attention at all. Focus on your GF. Why is she clingy? If she knew the games you engaged in, I might feel the same way..... umm no one is playing games and this was while back, i just felt the need to update the people who helped and advised and letting them know were right to tell me not to want or take her back. Why did i engage her? well because i felt that enough time had passed where we or i could get closure but i quickly realize that was not gonna happen. If you had read what she did to me, i'm sure you would agree that if i chose to stroke my ego i would be right to do so
louxor Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 umm no one is playing games and this was while back, i just felt the need to update the people who helped and advised and letting them know were right to tell me not to want or take her back. Why did i engage her? well because i felt that enough time had passed where we or i could get closure but i quickly realize that was not gonna happen. If you had read what she did to me, i'm sure you would agree that if i chose to stroke my ego i would be right to do so I would have done the same when it comes to the ego stroke part, considering how badly she treated you. But that's all you need to do. Don't try and stir things up by contacting her bf, that won't do you any good and would probably just show her that you actually still do care enough about her to warrant doing something like that. Rest happy with the concept that she is now going through some of the feelings that she put you through when she broke up with you, but leave it at that. Your attention should be now focused on the new girl, not the stain from the past.
TaraMaiden2 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 umm no one is playing games and this was while back, i just felt the need to update the people who helped and advised and letting them know were right to tell me not to want or take her back. Why did i engage her? well because i felt that enough time had passed where we or i could get closure but i quickly realize that was not gonna happen. If you had read what she did to me, i'm sure you would agree that if i chose to stroke my ego i would be right to do so I DID read your thread. I still stand by what I wrote.
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