Reknilp Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 I've been talking to this lady for about two weeks now. We will talk and text multiple times during the week. During the weekend she completely falls off the face of the earth. I've got friends and a life so I'm usually out and about on the weekend also. This weekend and last I sent her a simple text and I've got no response.....well I got a text last night at 11 pm asking me to go to a local bar with her and a friend. Sorry but I'm no spring chicken, around that time I'm usually asleep. I haven't dated anyone in a long time. Took some time to myself after my divorce. In 16 years a lot has seemed to have changed in the dating scene, especially with texting and social media. I remember dating to be a lot more straight forward back then.
Wewon Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Were you pursuing or express a romantic interest in her? Most likely she sees you as a buddy. In the future it would be better for you to express your interest early, that way there is little confusion. It will also allow you to move on to other women with less investment while having some say in the terms of your hangout friend.
Author Reknilp Posted November 8, 2015 Author Posted November 8, 2015 I believe I expressed my interest in her. She has custody of her children and shares weekends with her ex. Last weekend both of us had plans and this weekend she has her kids who are both very young.
Siquijor Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Sounds the type who only wants you when it suits her. I'd hazard a guess that the invite to the bar was just a ploy to have you buying the drinks for her and her buddy.
Lansing Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Why are you relying on texting so much if you don't like it? Just set your own communication style. If she doesn't like you calling her then you aren't a good fit. Have you been asking her out on dates? If you ask her out and she says "I can't" with no attempt to reschedule then don't bother. 1
Author Reknilp Posted November 8, 2015 Author Posted November 8, 2015 @xcupid, We have made plans to go out this Thursday after work. Since we've made set a first date she has asked me to go out with her and one of her friends. One was last night and the other was Wednesday night. I was unable to make it either night, last night I elaborated on and Wednesday night I had to work late. I will introduce her to my social circle eventually but most likely after a few dates, if we make it that far. She might have a different approach at the whole dating thing than me. I don't need a hang out buddy, I've got enough of them. I might just be over thinking things so I thought I would just ask for other people's opinions.
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