treehugger101 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 When guys hang out, what do they usually do? My Boyfriend 28, is going out to hang with his friends at midnight on the weekend, to play a trading card game, til around 2AM-3AM. To me, hearing this, makes me think, he's out with those friends, but I don't know if there is a girl involved, like it could be him, a few guys and a girl or girls, or just the guys hanging out, talking, playing games, drinking, smoking, doing drugs, I don't know. My Boyfriend invited me to go, but him coming all the down here to get me, and then go back there is a lot of time and driving and at this late of hour it's too much. So my question is what do guys really do when hanging out? Should I believe he is just playing his card games or should I think otherwise? Me watching TV and movies, think of the scene of girls, drugs, drinking, and smoking is will when guys hang out.
joseb Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 He's probably organised a huge orgy, with strippers and/or hookers. Plus illicit drugs. I mean, that's what all guys do once they have you out of sight, right? Or, maybe. He has organised a game of cards with his buddies. 5
mike_89 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 You should be more worried if your boyfriend didn't have friends to play card games with.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Have you seen any red flags with him or within the relationship? Why do you assume he's misbehaving? If you have a good relationship and you trust him, I'm not sure why you're imagining things like drugs, girls, and so on..especially given that he's invited you to go with him before. He'd have to be a total moron to invite you if something shady was going down.
phineas Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 (edited) Why don't you just meet him? also we played cards & Dungeons & dragons until all hrs of the night. My ex didn't like it because..well..I guess it gave me joy. LOL! Edited November 8, 2015 by phineas
Empyrea Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Umm, in my experience, it's just that. Guys love nothing better than some time without the girls to just relax and talk shop. And yes, they literally play card or video games, drink beer and eat crap. It sounds like a stereotype, but there it is. My ex bf and his friends would also make overnight trips together. Just the boys! Usually the girls aren't invited, especially if the other guy friends have girlfriends too, then it's like a real mini-vacation, but if he invites you and you say something like aw you sure you don't want it to be just the boys? and he says it's fine, then go! Sometimes the "wives" get included, too. But never ever invite yourself along to a boys night or show insecurity about it, that's just.. don't be that girl. Let them have their boys nights.
Wewon Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 To me, hearing this, makes me think, he's out with those friends, but I don't know if there is a girl involved, like it could be him, a few guys and a girl or girls, or just the guys hanging out, talking, playing games, drinking, smoking, doing drugs, I don't know. I think that this is the female equivalent of thinking that when women get together all they do is talk about Scandal, Sex in the City and have pillow fights in their underwear. 5
thecrucible Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Most men I know just hang about playing video games. It wouldn't bother me if I had a bloke who did that. At least I wouldn't have to deal with the guy playing video games in front of me - boring. As long I don't have to experience a single games console or science fiction programme, I'm good.
StBreton Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Seems purely innocent TH ... I'd be grateful he invited me. Ask him if all the other guys are inviting their gf's or wives and if any are attending. If not ... I'd pass and tell him to have an awesome time with his friends. We do a once a year overnight Bunco game with just the girls ... Guys are never invited ... Oh the craziness that happens ... But it's all clean fun.
Els Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Based on the guys I've played trading card games with... they're most likely doing exactly that. That, and arguing over some obscure situation that the TCG rulebook doesn't explicitly cover... Seriously, lighten up. Lots of people play games - TCGs, video games, etc - into the wee hours of the morning. If you can't trust him to do that without cheating on you, why are you with him?
carhill Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 OP, sounds pretty normal for that age group and I'd suggest, if an activity is of interest and you and other partners are invited, it's a good way to get to know his social circle, lessening any wondering about what goes on. At my age, there's no more 2am stuff, generally, and we usually end up drinking some beers late, doing business deals and generally solving all the world's problems. Nary a woman to be seen. All the wives have gone off to do their own thing or are in bed. Fortunately, things are a little more exciting at your age. Enjoy! 1
MightyPen Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 OP, many guys like playing games with their buds. It beats the HELL out of just sitting around and "catching up"gabbing, which drives many dudes crazy. It gives us a structured activity, allows for some competitiveness, and yes it also lets us chat some. Plus it's fun! Whether it's trading card game, poker, a video game, or pin the tail on the stripper, it's all good. Well...other than the last one.
Author treehugger101 Posted November 8, 2015 Author Posted November 8, 2015 Him and I have been getting into fights again so me trusting him and him trusting me isn't on a good level right now.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Him and I have been getting into fights again so me trusting him and him trusting me isn't on a good level right now. I don't quite get this. Has he done something to betray your trust?
Trane Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 This is a tricky question that depends on the group of guys hanging out together. Me and my very close guy friends talk about beer, fishing, politics, boobs, food, music, boobs, cars, sports, boobs, motorcycles, good whiskey and boobs. Other times the golf game, religion and how our families and kids amaze us. Sometimes we talk about certain levels of favourite video games that make us mad when trying to get past. We have no problems with any conversation or offending each other because there is no white-knighting, political correctness or pulling words. There is no fear of offending the fairer species either because 95% of the time, the wives and girls are nowhere to be found. It's OUR time. Everything ends with a drink and a handshake. Getting with the guys is an avenue of freedom that many women will just never understand. It's agenda-less, schedule free, male bonding bliss. Other guys, like some at work, the gym or the service centre I don't even bother including in conversation. They have become too feminized, are weak as water and turn their heads at every corner to see if there is a woman in the room they are hoping not to offend or trying to impress with kiss-butt BS. When I hear guys say "too much information," or put on the "valley boy" costume and utter out a "like, oh my God," I cringe and shake my head.
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