MR27 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Last night I was clicking on my what's app and I found out my ex who broke up with me 2 weeks ago had a new boyfriend who she has been with for over a week, before yesterday she had blocked me on there and then yeaterday I click on to message a friend see her name and her status was 'chilling with a special someone' so I messaged and said it all makes sense now, and she said what does and I said the reason you suddenly changed you cheated on me, and she tried to call and I told her to f**k off, then she called me again and again and when I finally answered I flipped out and we argued and argued and she didn't like that I had an answer for everything and is trying to say there is nothing wrong with being with someone a week after we had broke up, now what you need to understand is she has a child that she doesn't let around anyone at first and yet he was in the house with them, I could hear him shouting in the background. Now the new guy was trying to shout to me in the back of the call and she shouted at him and I shouting put him on the f*cking phone now and she wouldn't and shouted at him and me, then she changed her status to 'night in with my one' and I told her if she thinks she's funny I will come and fight him in the street, to which she replied she would phone the police, now why would you unblock your ex to let them see that ?, I just don't understand why if you were getting on with your life as she tried to say she was that you would do that, I had suspected that she had cheated on me but now I feel like it's confirmed, she tried to say I made her feel unwanted and he made she feel wanted so she went to him, our anniversary was supposed to of been 2 days ago and she's got a new boyfriend in my opinion that is a rat, I just don't understand why you would unblock me to let me see that ?
Haydn Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Block her and then these things will not happen. She has moved on. You looked like a crazy bloke by wanting to fight her BF. Delete all things that cause you temptation. Takes time...
didithappen Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 You did break no contact, and you can't take it back. But it's okay, our emotions can really get the best of it; you can start over and you will be whole again. Two weeks is a pretty short turnaround and this new guy is probably a rebound at best. I went no contact for two months. Than I messed up and reached out to her just saying I was at peace with the whole thing and could be friends later down the line. A few hours later I learned she was dating a new guy who she also cheated on me with. I messed up again and contacted her telling her how I felt and to forget the notion of ever being friends again. Yeah I broke no contact like you did, and it set me back. But we can't dwell on what has already happened. I deleted every shred of contact info I have about this cheater. You can too. I'll never contact her again and it's for the better.
Author MR27 Posted November 8, 2015 Author Posted November 8, 2015 Block her and then these things will not happen. She has moved on. You looked like a crazy bloke by wanting to fight her BF. Delete all things that cause you temptation. Takes time... Deleted her number now, learnt my lesson but you tell me you wouldn't react the same ?
Author MR27 Posted November 8, 2015 Author Posted November 8, 2015 You did break no contact, and you can't take it back. But it's okay, our emotions can really get the best of it; you can start over and you will be whole again. Two weeks is a pretty short turnaround and this new guy is probably a rebound at best. I went no contact for two months. Than I messed up and reached out to her just saying I was at peace with the whole thing and could be friends later down the line. A few hours later I learned she was dating a new guy who she also cheated on me with. I messed up again and contacted her telling her how I felt and to forget the notion of ever being friends again. Yeah I broke no contact like you did, and it set me back. But we can't dwell on what has already happened. I deleted every shred of contact info I have about this cheater. You can too. I'll never contact her again and it's for the better. Ive done that too now, oh well ay life lesson learnt
TaraMaiden2 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Deleted her number now, learnt my lesson but you tell me you wouldn't react the same ?Absolutely he wouldn't have acted the same. In fact, there are hundreds, countless threads on here from guys who discovered their exes had miraculously 'moved on' and were suddenly dating someone new so soon after the break-up - and as far as I can recall, there have been fewer than the fingers on my hand of the guys reacting as you did. You came over as crazy, irrational, uncontrolled and extremely foolish. You broke no contact in the most inadvisable way possible. It doesn't matter what she does now, or even what she did then, or why. It was over when she dumped you, and at that point, that's all that mattered. And guess what? It's all that matters now, too. She can do what she likes, see who she wants, date who she wants, be with whom she wants and none of it is any of your business NOW. It's over. You have no right to call her out on her behaviour. So maybe she cheated. So what?? She cheated! Ok, if that's the way it was, you're now wiser after the event. Let her go, and move on.
Author MR27 Posted November 8, 2015 Author Posted November 8, 2015 Absolutely he wouldn't have acted the same. In fact, there are hundreds, countless threads on here from guys who discovered their exes had miraculously 'moved on' and were suddenly dating someone new so soon after the break-up - and as far as I can recall, there have been fewer than the fingers on my hand of the guys reacting as you did. You came over as crazy, irrational, uncontrolled and extremely foolish. You broke no contact in the most inadvisable way possible. It doesn't matter what she does now, or even what she did then, or why. It was over when she dumped you, and at that point, that's all that mattered. And guess what? It's all that matters now, too. She can do what she likes, see who she wants, date who she wants, be with whom she wants and none of it is any of your business NOW. It's over. You have no right to call her out on her behaviour. So maybe she cheated. So what?? She cheated! Ok, if that's the way it was, you're now wiser after the event. Let her go, and move on. She called me and started the shouting and in the background of the phone call when someone is calling out to put them on the phone as if he has any clue about the situation your anger get the better of you sometimes
TaraMaiden2 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Anger = Loss of self-control. You started it all off by messaging her "it all makes sense now". You poked, prodded and pushed and then she naturally became irate. She called you 'again and again and you finally answered...' You should never have kicked it off.... Simple. That's what no contact means. No. Contact. No exception to the rule. Anyhow, the more you talk about it, the more you linger. Ok, put it down to experience, learn what to never do again, and move on.....
Author MR27 Posted November 8, 2015 Author Posted November 8, 2015 Anger = Loss of self-control. You started it all off by messaging her "it all makes sense now". You poked, prodded and pushed and then she naturally became irate. She called you 'again and again and you finally answered...' You should never have kicked it off.... Simple. That's what no contact means. No. Contact. No exception to the rule. Anyhow, the more you talk about it, the more you linger. Ok, put it down to experience, learn what to never do again, and move on..... Ok thank you, but I think she prodded because she had me blocked for 2 weeks and then unblocked me and changes her status to that when she knows I'll see it, she was looking for a reaction and I gave her one I suppose
TaraMaiden2 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Ok thank you, but I think she prodded because she had me blocked for 2 weeks and then unblocked me and changes her status to that when she knows I'll see it... One: You shouldn't even have her visible. You should block her completely, and not check or be able to see her status. In fact, the general word of advice here, is to either delete your FB account all together, or change it to something completely new, and leave the old one behind. she was looking for a reaction and I gave her one I supposeYeah, you did, didn't you? It doesn't matter what she does. If she can't get you to react, then you haven't broken no contact. If you had contacted her and she had absolutely point-blank totally refused to engage with you, you wouldn't have broken No Contact in spite of your efforts to do so (but it would have left you thoroughly frustrated and peed off, either way). She dangled the carrot. You took it. Never, ever bite the carrot or peck up the breadcrumbs. They both leave you with a nasty taste in your mouth....
Survivor12 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 If you hadn't deleted her from social media, you weren't truly NC in the first place. If you had been, you wouldn't have been triggered to comment. Hopefully, you realize that now & have deleted/blocked her from all avenues of contact.
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