brokenhearted85 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 (edited) We broke up two months ago. He kept reaching out to text me a few times, and I didn't respond. It was typical bread crumb type of junk and I didn't feel it was necessary to text him back. I am not going to be bitter and unfriend him on social media, also I want him to see how awesome my life is without him in it. It feels like I'm getting my power back. After I ignored his text the other week, I had posted a pic of me with a guy who goes to his school who is extremely good looking who is a close family friend of mine. I was definitely trying to get at him a little (whatever, it's immature of me but makes me feel better, so if you want to judge me for that just don't reply to this please) anyways the pic was up for like less than 2 minutes and my ex immediately liked it. What the hell. kinda pissed me off. Then today, I see he unmatched me on the dating site we met on. Like he kept me on the for two months and now he goes and searches through his hundreds of matches just to delete me. I'm wondering why he's doing that now and not when we first split. Edited November 8, 2015 by brokenhearted85
mightycpa Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Is he a procrastinator? He might be doing a little housekeeping, that's all. Or, the other possibility is maybe he finally got the message.
Author brokenhearted85 Posted November 8, 2015 Author Posted November 8, 2015 no, he's actually really on top of everything. i just found it bizarre that he waited this long.
mightycpa Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Then I think he threw a few breadcrumbs your way, and he's finally decided that whatever he wanted from you, you're not worth the effort, because it isn't going to happen. You should be glad. 1
Author brokenhearted85 Posted November 8, 2015 Author Posted November 8, 2015 he is definitely confusing me. when we broke up he was all "you're the reason why i know what i want the rest of my life, exactly what i want in a wife, i want to always be in your life" and i told him to forget it. i don't need any more friends. ha. i was pretty confused why he liked the pic of me with another guy. maybe thats his way of being like "i don't care"
mightycpa Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 when we broke up he was all "you're the reason why i know what i want the rest of my life, exactly what i want in a wife, i want to always be in your life"I think I know why this confuses you. It sounds so good, but if you take a moment to think about this, it is really a lefthanded kind of compliment, an insult in a way. Why you ask? Because clearly, he doesn't want exactly like you, or else, it would be you. It is the ultimate rejection in a candy wrapper. Ouch.
Author brokenhearted85 Posted November 8, 2015 Author Posted November 8, 2015 yeah i thought the same thing, trust me. i even mentioned that to him. he was crying and all that. honestly, theres a significant age difference that caused the break up. it wasn't going anywhere and he was crying saying he wishes he was older. he's still in school and I'm done with all that. this is good, I'm going to move on with my life. but it doesn't mean it doesn't bother me. doesn't mean I'm completely over it yet. I'm trying and I've been really strong ignoring him which is good. isn't it weird how we only remember good times after a break up and totally forget about all the ****ty ****ty things the other person did and how we are much better off without them? honestly, he really was a ****ty person. he has no friends because he would say stupid stupid **** that would piss people off and they didn't want to be around him. I'm lucky I'm not around that anymore. but then i go into thoughts about good memories and its hard to change that. at least I'm not reaching out to him, i think that shows I'm on the right track.
Qboro90 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 We broke up two months ago. He kept reaching out to text me a few times, and I didn't respond. It was typical bread crumb type of junk and I didn't feel it was necessary to text him back. I am not going to be bitter and unfriend him on social media, also I want him to see how awesome my life is without him in it. It feels like I'm getting my power back. After I ignored his text the other week, I had posted a pic of me with a guy who goes to his school who is extremely good looking who is a close family friend of mine. I was definitely trying to get at him a little (whatever, it's immature of me but makes me feel better, so if you want to judge me for that just don't reply to this please) anyways the pic was up for like less than 2 minutes and my ex immediately liked it. What the hell. kinda pissed me off. Then today, I see he unmatched me on the dating site we met on. Like he kept me on the for two months and now he goes and searches through his hundreds of matches just to delete me. I'm wondering why he's doing that now and not when we first split. Pretty simple actually. You were trying to f@:! with him by showing off on social media and flaunting an attractive guy thinking it would be a little dig that would bother your ex and he just flipped the game on you and liked it which is basically saying "I don't care". Which is why playing games like what you're doing can sometimes backfire when you anticipate one reaction and then are blindsided when it's turned back around on you. If you really wanna move on then put these little head games aside.
Author brokenhearted85 Posted November 8, 2015 Author Posted November 8, 2015 Yeah I figured he's playing games too. I think he's prob trying to get his power back since I went NC and wouldn't reply to his breadcrumbs and refused to see him in person.
Author brokenhearted85 Posted November 8, 2015 Author Posted November 8, 2015 It was kinda funny tho, because he hasn't liked any of my other pics since we split up and he liked that one within 2 minutes if me posting it. He wanted to get to know the guy I'm in the pic wth as well because his dad is a billionaire and he wanted to get in with him, so yeah I was def playing games by posting the pic. Thanks for your input.
Author brokenhearted85 Posted November 8, 2015 Author Posted November 8, 2015 You have to admit though, if he truly truly didn't really care, he wouldn't have liked the photo. He wouldn't have paid any attention to it. Anyways, I'll eventually get over it all. In time.
basil67 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 (edited) Checkmate. He won this game hands down. You've been trying to show off about how successful you are without him and he's managed to get you posting trying to figure out his actions with a single like of one of your photos. Lesson for the day: don't play against a stronger opponent. Edited November 8, 2015 by basil67
basil67 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 You have to admit though, if he truly truly didn't really care, he wouldn't have liked the photo. He wouldn't have paid any attention to it. Anyways, I'll eventually get over it all. In time. No, he's just beating you at your own game.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Your photo with another guy was a transparent game, and he knew it. He knows what buttons to push so he did it. That's all there is to it. If you were really ignoring him, you wouldn't be posting anything with intention of provoking a reaction from him. Anyway, he seems to be done with the games too, hence the unmatching and whatnot. Sounds like he's going to really move on, and it'd be wise for you to do the same. Truly live your own life again and don't give a flip what he thinks.
Meli22 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 You'd do well to not question a dumpers intentions because even they conflict against eachother. Either he saw through the picture update and knew it was a game (or at least thought it was), or he felt a little stung and liked it out of spite. I don't know him so I have no idea of his intentions. The unmatching could have been a bitter move on his behalf or just a final step of cutting ties. There's little point wondering. The biggest message of all was leaving the relationship, so anything other than him telling you he made the biggest mistake of his life leaving you, is pointless trying to figure out. I'd delete him off Facebook before he decides to do something that could actually hurt you to see. 1
Wewon Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 We broke up two months ago. He kept reaching out to text me a few times, and I didn't respond. It was typical bread crumb type of junk and I didn't feel it was necessary to text him back. I am not going to be bitter and unfriend him on social media, also I want him to see how awesome my life is without him in it. It feels like I'm getting my power back. After I ignored his text the other week, I had posted a pic of me with a guy who goes to his school who is extremely good looking who is a close family friend of mine. I was definitely trying to get at him a little (whatever, it's immature of me but makes me feel better, so if you want to judge me for that just don't reply to this please) anyways the pic was up for like less than 2 minutes and my ex immediately liked it. What the hell. kinda pissed me off. Then today, I see he unmatched me on the dating site we met on. Like he kept me on the for two months and now he goes and searches through his hundreds of matches just to delete me. I'm wondering why he's doing that now and not when we first split. You're both playing the "I care less than you game" and he bested you. Not judging you, but you're prolonging this by playing this game. I lot of how you feel depends on how he feels. That's not good, you only feel better if you make him feel worse.
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