db_thing Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 Hello all, This is my first post in this awesome forum and want to start my journey by seeking for an opinion. Situation isn't very complicated but it's.... kind of strange We both working in the same company but in different location (same city). She wrote to me asking for a help with somewhat related to position where I'm currently working and she invited me to have a quick meeting 1-on-1 in order to teach her about that subjet. We exchanged a lot of chat messages on Facebook and she seems soooooooo fine and nice I can't even describe it in any words (love n' stuff, I guess...). He asks me ton of questions about anything, and we basically were chatting for a couple of days like that. So my question is: I'm kind of creative person (not trying to brag or anything, but I like making stuff, not buying them from the shop, so that's why I'm telling this), and I would like to make her some sweet and cute gift (whether it's a home made cookies, or anything DYE related). Is this a good idea to actually give her such a gift, or is it too quick and I should just concentrate on that meeting itself? Thank you all very very much and sorry, if it's a really stupid question but I just have too many thoughts in my head and wanted to discuss them with all of you 1
Odinani Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 It doesn't even sound as if you have a date with her. You just mentioned a quick meeting to explain some work related stuff to her. Have you ever been on dates with people? 2
Author db_thing Posted November 7, 2015 Author Posted November 7, 2015 It doesn't even sound as if you have a date with her. You just mentioned a quick meeting to explain some work related stuff to her. Have you ever been on dates with people? Well, I didn't said it is a date, but what I suspected from our chatting via facebook that we kind of forget why we booked a meeting in the first place. Just thought it would be nice. Well, I guess not then... 1
Odinani Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 I'd suggest just enjoying your meeting and not over thinking things 2
preraph Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 Nothing scares people off like jumping ahead of yourself. It's not a date. It sounds like a business meeting. Maybe something will develop later, but you certainly can't go in even acting like it's a date. Maybe after the meeting, if all goes well and she seems at ease and you've asked her if she is married, has kids, has a bf and seen if she has any curiosity about you personally or not and responds asking you the same thing, maybe then sometime later you can ask her on something casual. 8
todreaminblue Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 it is a very sweet thought and gesture to do something like that...homemade and creativity involve effort and thought...shows a bit of commitment....i concur with other posters however and would save it for another date another time...because it doesnt seem like a set date to me....good luck....deb 3
Gloria25 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 I think if you do this, you can probably do it on the sly... Let's say you wanna do the cookies thing...You can bring the cookies and present them as something to snack on. At each job I had it's normal for people to bring goodies to share. Take it easy and good luck!!!
thefooloftheyear Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Agree with the others, in that you might be putting the cart before the horse, but even if it was an actual first date, I wouldn't do it...It looks un-masculine and cheesy and if the goal is to get her to feel like she desires you, then I wouldn't go there... Save that type of stuff when you visit your mom or your long lost Aunt Tilly... TFY
Siquijor Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Sounds like you're getting over excited OP. Just bear in mind she could be more interested in the subject you're teaching her than you as a person. Lose the gift idea. Even if she does like you that way, you could be on the verge of getting creepzoned for having the audacity of being overly nice too soon.
joseb Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 OP, no please do not do this. It will come across as really weird. If you end up dating her, then after several dates maybe you can think about something like this.
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