joseb Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Do you know how many first dates women go on? I don't want to be kissed on a first date. That's how cold sores are spread. An embrace and a kiss on the cheek would be okay on a first date though. If the chemistry is still good, the second or third date would be better for a more involved kiss. I guess I hadn't considered the number of dates women are going on these days. I've probably been on less than 10 first dates, so kissed the ones of these I liked.
Art_Critic Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 first date. If i am not interested to do so on the first date, there is no second date. When I was single and dating that was my motto too... every single relationship I have ever had has began with a kiss on the first date, without exception 1
anduina Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 No preference, although the first date kiss should be a peck. Anything more is too fast. 1
Buddhist Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 No preference, although the first date kiss should be a peck. Anything more is too fast. Screw that! What's the point of that. Don't tease me, give me the good stuff. I wanna see if you've got talent. 1
kilgore Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Sometimes shortly before "Hello." How would that work??
joseb Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 How would that work?? Lock eyes across a crowded room, walk over keeping eye contact, lightly lick your lips and if she's still looking it's on. rarely happens though!
phineas Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 first date. If i am not interested to do so on the first date, there is no second date. I always go for the kiss on the first date. I may not always get it, but a woman who is interested will not reject you for a 2nd date just because you tried to kiss her on the first. But, if I don't get that kiss on the 2nd date i'm gone. However a woman who is not interested may gladly soak up your time & attention until you do try to kiss her so that is why I go for the kiss on the first date. This all depends of course if I want to kiss her at all.
PrettyEmily77 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Pretty much as soon as mutual interest / attraction has been established. The 'look' is given, he gets the signal and goes for it. Best way to establish sexual compatibily, IME - never ever failed, for me. When the second kiss goes well (the first kiss can be a little awkward), it's been my ecperience that sexual compatibility follows. Tried to bypass that once against my better judgement - confirmed for me that a bad kiss is def a sign of things to come at a later stage...
phineas Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Do you know how many first dates women go on? I don't want to be kissed on a first date. That's how cold sores are spread. An embrace and a kiss on the cheek would be okay on a first date though. If the chemistry is still good, the second or third date would be better for a more involved kiss. keep a small bottle of mouth wash on you. then gargle & spit right after you kiss her there on the street. Problem solved. 1
Empyrea Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Just read the vibe. I've been to a classical first-date situation, but very very rarely (that means it's actually your first time meeting the person) - in that case, unless the chemistry is really intense, I would be horrified if the guy tried to kiss me. Yuck. On the other hand, usually I would find myself going on a date with a guy with whom the chemistry has already been established - in that case, I would absolutely expect a kiss on the first date! But more than anything, it depends on the vibe. If it's a romantic setting, the chemistry is just right, I find the guy attractive, then you'll be able to tell that the girl wants to be kissed. She'll basically be begging for it. And if she doesn't, then she'll put herself nowhere near a situation where you might begin to think it's a good idea. Read the room. 1
Odinani Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 keep a small bottle of mouth wash on you. then gargle & spit right after you kiss her there on the street. Problem solved. LMAO!:D:D:D:D:D But I agree with the poster who says it's way excessive to swap saliva with every individual you go on a date with. You can kiss them on the lips that first date without plunging your tongue in. FFS, people need to calm down a bit. 1
RedRobin Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 I am not into kissing strangers. The typical OLD scenario... I am not kissing someone without having significant interaction over a period of weeks... Emails, phone calls, then a few dates at least. I am a very affectionate person, but I screen carefully and won't kiss a guy or let him kiss me unless there is relationship potential. None of my relationships.... Not my marriage, or with my fiancée, or anyone after that started from a first date kiss. The only interactions that came from guys wanting or insisting on first or even second date kisses came from guys pushing sex primarily. If that's what I wanted, I don't need to go to the trouble to get to know a guy, so I find it disrespectful coming from guys who claim to be looking for a relationship but need to suck face and more ASAP with every woman they just meet. Guys who are relative strangers who go for a first date kiss don't get a second date with me. I figure they do that with every woman. Nothing special and not a sign of legitimate interest other than he wants to eff me. Big deal. 1
phineas Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 LMAO!:D:D:D:D:D But I agree with the poster who says it's way excessive to swap saliva with every individual you go on a date with. You can kiss them on the lips that first date without plunging your tongue in. FFS, people need to calm down a bit. But, just because she kisses me doesn't mean she kissed all the rest. And wtf is with the tounge? Jesus. perhaps the issues people have with dating is they view everything in extremes. No kiss or tonsile hockey is apparently the only options? You won't get far if that is how you view things.
Odinani Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 But, just because she kisses me doesn't mean she kissed all the rest. And wtf is with the tounge? Jesus. perhaps the issues people have with dating is they view everything in extremes. No kiss or tonsile hockey is apparently the only options? You won't get far if that is how you view things. So you mean a kiss on the lips without tongue and saliva action? That sounds more reasonable with a stranger
Myragal Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Human saliva is actually quite clean compared to other contact. We have the equivalent of natural antiseptics. You will pick up more infection touching public objects with your hands.
thecrucible Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 I don't mind tongue kissing with a guy on first date if I think he's attractive. But recently I want to tone it down and I'd rather get to know him more first as there's no rush. If you know yourself and when you're into someone, you don't need to kiss them to find out. But sometimes when you're not sure about someone, it takes a kiss for you to realise where things stand. I don't feel offended if a man goes in for the kiss - it's just how he goes about it.
phineas Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 So you mean a kiss on the lips without tongue and saliva action? That sounds more reasonable with a stranger You trolling me? You've never kissed someone without tongue?
Odinani Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 You trolling me? You've never kissed someone without tongue? yes it's nice. The guy usually tries to slide his tongue in though
phineas Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 yes it's nice. The guy usually tries to slide his tongue in though Oh no. She don't get tongue until I get boob. 1
PrettyEmily77 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 (edited) I am not into kissing strangers. The typical OLD scenario... I am not kissing someone without having significant interaction over a period of weeks... Emails, phone calls, then a few dates at least. I am a very affectionate person, but I screen carefully and won't kiss a guy or let him kiss me unless there is relationship potential. None of my relationships.... Not my marriage, or with my fiancée, or anyone after that started from a first date kiss. The only interactions that came from guys wanting or insisting on first or even second date kisses came from guys pushing sex primarily. If that's what I wanted, I don't need to go to the trouble to get to know a guy, so I find it disrespectful coming from guys who claim to be looking for a relationship but need to suck face and more ASAP with every woman they just meet. Guys who are relative strangers who go for a first date kiss don't get a second date with me. I figure they do that with every woman. Nothing special and not a sign of legitimate interest other than he wants to eff me. Big deal. Yeah, I kind of agree with that. Never did OLD so I've never been on a first date with a complete stranger - has to be someone I've gotten to know at least a little before the first date + is a friend of a friend or in my social circle somehow. Edited November 8, 2015 by PrettyEmily77
Miss Peach Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 1st or 2nd date. For me it really helps me figure out what the level of sexual chemistry is. Most guys who have kissed me on the first date only go in for a peck on the lips though. Many end in a hug too. Most guys don't go to open mouth kissing until dates 2-3.
cookiemonster26 Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 3rd date. 2nd date if chemistry is sizzling I say third date. Altho I just went on a third date and no kiss so I am wondering if I was friend zoned ?
RecentChange Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I absolutely hate it when I'm at a busy train station or bus stop and the guy tries to get his tongue in while a bunch of commuters are eyeballing us and the lights overhead are fluorescent. :D I actually love this :love: ahhhh its the best when you both just want to make out so bad that you don't give a damn about where you are. One of the best "first kisses" I have had was on a packed train (and no, it wasn't a peck on the cheek). Do you know how many first dates women go on? I don't want to be kissed on a first date. . Maybe its because I never did OLD - but I never went on a ton of first dates... if I go on a date with someone, its because I met them, I am attracted to them, and we have a bit of chemistry. Sure, there have been a few dates where I decided I in fact am NOT into this person... so no kiss. But if I like them? If I would consider a second date? I am totally into kissing. I LOVE kissing and making out. And I am not shy, I will initiate! I have been known to straight say "I want to kiss you".
seekingluck Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I went in a date this weekend and was sort of sad he only kissed me on the cheek. We have good chemistry and eye contact but it wasn't quite right for some reason. I think he is slightly shy at the moment. He recently got burned on a date. But I don't really like to kiss on the first date or in public so it makes it tricky.
Buddhist Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 I actually love this :love: ahhhh its the best when you both just want to make out so bad that you don't give a damn about where you are. One of the best "first kisses" I have had was on a packed train (and no, it wasn't a peck on the cheek). Maybe its because I never did OLD - but I never went on a ton of first dates... if I go on a date with someone, its because I met them, I am attracted to them, and we have a bit of chemistry. Sure, there have been a few dates where I decided I in fact am NOT into this person... so no kiss. But if I like them? If I would consider a second date? I am totally into kissing. I LOVE kissing and making out. And I am not shy, I will initiate! I have been known to straight say "I want to kiss you". This is me too. I don't go trawling the internet for potential love interests and have never met someone on OLD. All of my dates have been with people I've already had plenty of real life interaction with and knew on some level. This whole kiss phobia thing is just a byproduct of the low connection method of meeting people known as OLD. I have no idea why it's so popular it's so ineffective.
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