SwordofFlame Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 I know it can vary but on average, when do you usually want to be kissed? 1st date? 2nd date? 3rd date?
smackie9 Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 first date. If i am not interested to do so on the first date, there is no second date. 2
Iceshowers Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 I have let the guy kiss me in the first or second date. Usually if there's alot of physical attraction, I welcome a kiss. Also, I love kissing, so I rather know he's a good kisser from the beginning cuz if he's not, that's a turn off. 2
Odinani Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 3rd date. 2nd date if chemistry is sizzling 2
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 As soon as possible. A kiss can reveal a lot so I prefer to get a reading as soon as I can. I'm too old to wait for anything anymore. When you're my age you know what you're looking for and you know what you're not. There's no point in playing games or being coy. Besides, it's a kiss not sex for heaven's sake. 2
bson1257 Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 Why on earth would anyone expect to be kissed on the first date? At that point you are still complete strangers. Would you walk up to some random person on the street and expect them to want to kiss you? 1
ScienceGal Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 Not the first date. Each situation is different, but I'm inclined to say around date 3. At that point, I know whether I'm emotionally/intellectually interested as well. 2
d0nnivain Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 One person's preference doesn't mean it's a universal. Remember some folks have sex on the 1st date. To me by the time we go on a 1st date, we have had some sort of prior interaction. The we have spent the few hours of the first date getting to know one another. If some underlying sizzle isn't building up, the date will end quickly & there won't be a 2nd. But assuming the attraction is there, my preference is for a good night kiss. N.B. -- that's one reasonably deep French kiss at the end of the date, not an extended make out session or dry humping or more.
kendahke Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 It really depends upon the man. As Iceshowers aptly put it, by the time we go out on a first date, I've been getting to know him through phone calls, emails, first meeting, etc. If they continue to be who they are on the first date, then chances are, I'll give them a kiss. It won't be a long, slobbery French one, but it will be a nice kiss. If they turn out to be the complete opposite of who they purported to be at the first meeting, then it's a handshake, a buh bye and an immediate block on the phone. 2
Odinani Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 So you take the tongue on the first kiss One person's preference doesn't mean it's a universal. Remember some folks have sex on the 1st date. To me by the time we go on a 1st date, we have had some sort of prior interaction. The we have spent the few hours of the first date getting to know one another. If some underlying sizzle isn't building up, the date will end quickly & there won't be a 2nd. But assuming the attraction is there, my preference is for a good night kiss. N.B. -- that's one reasonably deep French kiss at the end of the date, not an extended make out session or dry humping or more.
Myragal Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 I know within 5 minutes if I 'don't' want to kiss a man. I know after a date if I do. I have always had a man kiss me at the end of a first date...It might be just on the cheek. I like affection. If I like a man, we usually end up holding hands. When we part he will give me a small kiss...and I will hug him, not let go for a while and tell him how nice it feels. I'll then look him in the eye and he'll kiss me again. That's how we'll part. He will definitely have the confidence to know that I want to see him again. I have zero sex on my mind. That may come a few meetings later if all goes well. 1
Odinani Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 I know within 5 minutes if I 'don't' want to kiss a man. I know after a date if I do. I have always had a man kiss me at the end of a first date...It might be just on the cheek. I like affection. If I like a man, we usually end up holding hands. When we part he will give me a small kiss...and I will hug him, not let go for a while and tell him how nice it feels. I'll then look him in the eye and he'll kiss me again. That's how we'll part. He will definitely have the confidence to know that I want to see him again. I have zero sex on my mind. That may come a few meetings later if all goes well. That's really nice.
jen1447 Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 I know it can vary but on average, when do you usually want to be kissed? 1st date? 2nd date? 3rd date? Sometimes shortly before "Hello." 2
William Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 Due to a hydra invasion, I deleted 15 posts either from the hydra or in response to their disruptive postings. Hence, a lot of content here was lost. Our apologies for not catching this more quickly. In the future, if an inflammatory post appears, especially from a new member, let moderation know. Thanks for reading and please continue!
Myragal Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 Sometimes shortly before "Hello." So true. Last evening went on a first date with a man I met at dance class. He gave me a hug and kissed me on the cheek when we met. I had planned to be a bit sophisticated and articulate when we met but instead I melted. 1
thecrucible Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Sorry for the cop out answer, but when it feels "right". Sometimes I'll never feel like kissing a guy, sometimes I meet a guy and just know that if we got on, I would want to kiss him. I like it when the mood is built up and in a romantic setting. And I prefer it not to be too public or in a setting which doesn't put me in the mood. Example - a guy I was seeing earlier this kissed me just before the end of our second date. I was wasting time waiting for my train by looking at magazines in a newsagent then I was talking to him and he randomly kissed me. I pulled away a little as, I dunno, it just felt really weird. I was expecting it at all... Oh gosh hope I don't sound judgy here - I know it must be really hard trying to determine when to go in for the kiss. It's always a little bit of a gamble :/ 1
Odinani Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 I absolutely hate it when I'm at a busy train station or bus stop and the guy tries to get his tongue in while a bunch of commuters are eyeballing us and the lights overhead are fluorescent. :D 2
Buddhist Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 First date, I want to know that his intentions are sexual in nature straight up. I don't like ambiguity where promising romantic connections turn into 'lets be friends' scenario's. Sorry not interested in torturing myself with a friendship with someone I'm sexually attracted to. 2
Buddhist Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Why on earth would anyone expect to be kissed on the first date? At that point you are still complete strangers. Would you walk up to some random person on the street and expect them to want to kiss you? While we may not know everything about each other at that point I do know if I'm sexually attracted (hell most people know this before they exchange phone numbers) so I see no point in beating about the bush over something like expressing that sexual interest. It's not like I'm dropping panties on the first date. It's a simple kiss, not much different than holding hands really. As far as I know you can't get pregnant, find yourself with an unwelcome house mate, or otherwise end up in a relationship with someone dubious just from kissing them. Why on earth do you need to have someones birth chart, rank your compatibility and know all about their karmic influences just to kiss them? And in answer to your point about a random stranger on the street. If he was cute I don't think I'd mind. Could be an interesting start to something more....
joseb Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 First date, I want to know that his intentions are sexual in nature straight up. I don't like ambiguity where promising romantic connections turn into 'lets be friends' scenario's. Sorry not interested in torturing myself with a friendship with someone I'm sexually attracted to. Yeah from a guys perspective if I am attracted to the woman I will try to kiss her on the first date. if she doesn't seem to want to reciprocate, then I'll take that as lack of sexual interested and I'll move on. 3
Popsicle Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Do you know how many first dates women go on? I don't want to be kissed on a first date. That's how cold sores are spread. An embrace and a kiss on the cheek would be okay on a first date though. If the chemistry is still good, the second or third date would be better for a more involved kiss. 1
Popsicle Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 First date, I want to know that his intentions are sexual in nature straight up. I don't like ambiguity where promising romantic connections turn into 'lets be friends' scenario's. Sorry not interested in torturing myself with a friendship with someone I'm sexually attracted to. Me neither but words or body language are adequate enough for that. I don't need to swap bodily fluids with someone I just met, even if we are crazy attracted to each other. 2
Myragal Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Yeah from a guys perspective if I am attracted to the woman I will try to kiss her on the first date. if she doesn't seem to want to reciprocate, then I'll take that as lack of sexual interested and I'll move on. True. I like affection and lots of physical contact in a relationship...holding hands in public, etc. Some people are just more outwardly affectionate than others. I'm not happy in a relationship where a man is restrained. One of the best first dates I had was with a former boyfriend who said 'hop on' and gave me a piggyback ride across a wet patch in a park. I am quite discriminate with whom I will eventually have sex with (only a few men in my life) but I want a man to lust after me from the moment we meet. I can see it in his eyes and feel it in that first kiss even if it's just a simple kiss goodnight.
Buddhist Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Me neither but words or body language are adequate enough for that. I don't need to swap bodily fluids with someone I just met, even if we are crazy attracted to each other. Well considering I've been on five first dates my entire life then I guess I'm okay to swap body fluids straight up. It's not as if I'm dating the entire town. 2
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