Assuming you're happy with yourself, is it OK to want to live a life alone?

[jrode23]

First, by alone, I don't mean completely isolated.

 

What I'm getting at is, if you've completely healed yourself from previous heartbreak and are happy with your life as an individual, do you think it's normal to want to live alone, free of romantic relationships?

 

And by normal I don't mean societal norms, as obviously that would suggest that it's not normal. But just from a general life perspective. I mean, some people never love again after the death of their partner, etc.

 

What do you think?

[stillafool]

I think it's perfectly okay to be alone but not lonely. My aunt never married and only had a boyfriend once that I remember. She had a very full life. She belonged to clubs, church groups, etc., and a large family to deal with. I think it depends on the person and what they want. If you are happy and don't want another relationship I don't see a problem with it.

[Clarence_Boddicker]

Not for most people. Most people need other people in their lives.

[S_A]

First, by alone, I don't mean completely isolated.

 

What I'm getting at is, if you've completely healed yourself from previous heartbreak and are happy with your life as an individual, do you think it's normal to want to live alone, free of romantic relationships?

 

And by normal I don't mean societal norms, as obviously that would suggest that it's not normal. But just from a general life perspective. I mean, some people never love again after the death of their partner, etc.

 

What do you think?

 

Sounds like you are happy to be alone because you fear being in another relationship. You fear there is a chance your heart could get broken again. I know that fear, but I don't scare that easily. I'll find someone else. She'll be better, too. I'll even be better I think.

 

Don't avoid relationships out of fear; you'll just end up dying with regret.

[preraph]

If you have your ducks in a row in other important aspects of your life, such as able to sustain employment, able to socialize with friends and have relationship with family, and you find life is less hectic alone, I see nothing wrong with that. I have stayed on my own all these years. I was always fairly self-contained and find myself extra-amusing. I like my own company and I love pets. I have always been gainfully employed and have a relationship with a few close friends and my sister. I'm good.

 

But if it's fear holding you back, at least deal with that and work through it before you make a huge decision like that - and also, keep an open mind. My friends used to tell me sometime the right person would just drop from heaven, especially since I wasn't looking, but they were wrong. I've been on my own so long that I really don't like compromising. My mother said I've been set in my ways since I was 18, and I think that's kind of true. I grew up pretty wild and free and automous with lots of freedom out in the country and my skill sets are that I'm comfortable and resourceful on my own.

 

Just be sure you're cut out for it.