hotpotato Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 OmGosh this guy i'm dating is such extrovert. He talks to everybody. EVERYBODY. he wants to talk on the phone for hours every day. I think it's amazing that he finds that time as he is very busy. He wants me to spend entire weekends with him. I have a lot going on in my life. He knows I have a big event coming up soon, but still wants me to come over. I see one reason I haven't bothered dating, it's such a distraction. Spending this weekend with him is really going to make it harder to do what I need to achieve. He bought me this bluetooth, and I feel like it's an electronic leash. I just don't need to talk everyday all throughout the day. I can send and receive a few text messages a day, and I'm A OK. Is it common for an extrovert to be like this?
d0nnivain Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 Talking to lots of people & wanting to be the center of attention are characteristics of extroverts. You seem to be describing somebody who is clingy & insecure. 3
LoveRefreshed Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 I am excessively friendly. Constantly called a social butterfly but I absolutely hate the telephone and I also crave and love alone time. Just tell him when you need personal time And you need to focus. He should be able to respect it. If not, he's not a good guy.
kismetkismet Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 Some are like that, some aren't. It definitely varies. But you should definitely try to set up some boundaries from the start, don't just give in to him needing you all the time because it will just burn you right out (and may burn him out as well). I'm an introvert (a social one that likes to go out, but needs time to recharge) dating an extrovert that just wants to be together ALL the time. He's absolutely wonderful, but I am hitting a wall of exhaustion that is just on the verge of crashing on to me haha. So I'm advising myself at the same time as you - make sure you take some alone time to rest and gather your thoughts and accomplish the things you need to accomplish. That is definitely my plan for the next couple of weeks..
RecentChange Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 My guy is a total extrovert. Life of the party, always works the room, like you said - talks to EVERYONE (OMG, trying to leave a party or after s night out? Takes forever as he talks up everyone on his way out). That said - totally not clingy or a phone talker. Even when we were long distance we didn't talk on the phone very much. Texts are as needed - not idle chit chat. So I agree with others extrovert does not equal clingy.
kismetkismet Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 Talking to lots of people & wanting to be the center of attention are characteristics of extroverts. You seem to be describing somebody who is clingy & insecure. Introversion and extroversion actually have more to do with how you process information and gain energy. Extroverts process information better out loud and with people, work better in teams etc. They also gain energy by being around people. Introverts on the other hand process information better on their own.. they need to think things through on their own before presenting their thoughts to other people.. often learn better from books than in groups. Their energy is also drained by being around people.. they may really enjoy socializing and being around people, but it wears them down and eventually they need time to recharge. That doesn't take away from your comment that his behaviour could be stemming from insecurity and clinginess though... Either way.. take the space that you need otherwise you're going to end up snapping.
empresario Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 How long have you been dating? Sometimes people with deep-seeded emotional problems need to feel they are appreciated. It's the love language of appreciation magnified by some traumatic event. Or, he could just be extremely talkative. But everyone I know that is an extreme extrovert wants short bites of attention from everyone around them...not constant attention from people. An extrovert is less concerned about psychological attention and more concerned about sociological attention. Tell him to get some hobbies? 1
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