Princess behavior

[StBreton]

I thought of this thread after reading another thread about "brave" guy behavior as well as reading someone's response to "reasons to drop a girl" --- > princess behavior.

 

Anyone is open to responding ... guys / girls ... What do you consider "princess" behavior?

 

What is your personal tolerance for it with someone to whom you are romantically involved?

[Wewon]

I thought of this thread after reading another thread about "brave" guy behavior as well as reading someone's response to "reasons to drop a girl" --- > princess behavior.

 

Anyone is open to responding ... guys / girls ... What do you consider "princess" behavior?

 

What is your personal tolerance for it with someone to whom you are romantically involved?

 

The worse thing about this term is that some people may (understandably) mistake it for being feminine or "girly". It's not.

 

In a very general sense, 'princess behavior' is being self-centered or acting like a spoiled brat. Nothing is ever good enough, no price is too high, and every annoyance should be vocalized...A LOT!

[d0nnivain]

Everybody is going to draw those lines differently. I know I am somewhat high maintenance. I have certain expectations & expensive tastes.

 

When DH & I 1st started dating he'd never really met anyone like my friends, my family and me. I know some of it startled him. Later he explained that he stuck around because even though some of the expensive Princess-y things I expected he could tell were just things I grew up with & he didn't. Plus, for example, when he'd suggest a place for a date, with very few exceptions, I happily went along with it. But initially when I wanted to go more upscale from his perspective, I throw it out there as my treat. It wasn't that I wanted to go to some high end place on his dime. I wanted to go certain places because I liked them but I was perfectly happy to pay for them.

 

I expect a man I'm dating to open doors & pull out chairs. I don't like dive bars & won't go to them. I wanted a substantial e-ring. I own 3 fur coats. I like black tie dinners & attend many of them. I serve on various charitable boards & expect my escorts will know how to behave at such things. I'm politically active & attend things like fundraisers and national presidential conventions. I have personal friends who serve at various levels of government. To me they are just my friends & I have known them forever so I don't always remember that to other people they are "famous" and known by their titles.

 

When the time is right I still sit around my house in sweats & I will drink out of a red solo cup at an open air event. I cheer at football games. I drive a plain practical car. I'm also polite & don't berate people who are trying to help me, especially just for the pure sport of feeling "superior."

 

I suppose the height of the Princess business was our wedding. DH & I planned a quaint low key small wedding because that fit our budget. Then my parents got involved & the Golden Rule was applied -- as in he who has the gold makes the rules. Our charming intimate wedding exploded into black tie, 3 ring circus for 400 people. By then DH been acclimated to my family & just went along with it but his extended family still has some issues with it.

 

I think it becomes intolerable when one person expects high end things from their SO that they do not have the ability to provide for themselves.

[empresario]

I feel the line is crossed when they start putting you down for or ask you to drop your hobbies because it gets in the way of you spending every moment with them (while refusing to join you in your hobbies). A lot of girls that do this, have no hobbies of their own besides dating you. As such they would be happiest going out every night or if at home sitting next to each other watching T.V. instead of doing something productive or fulfilling.

 

 

I've learned to spot this one quickly, fortunately.

[ExpatInItaly]

To me, a "princess" attitude implies entitlement, lack of gratitude, self-centredness and unwillingness to compromise.

[smackie9]

High maintenance.

[Siquijor]

Princess attitude to me would be a female who pretends to be sweet and innocent when she's anything but.

[Odinani]

A woman who won't have no-strings attached sex with a near stranger and who only dates men who have a lot going for them

[acrosstheuniverse]

When a woman expects special treatment, especially treatment which means she gains in some material or financial way, simply due to being female. Expecting to be wined and dined and never dreaming of paying for a guy's dinner. Expects the world to revolve around her. Selfish. Materialistic. Won't muck in with others to get the job done. An example would be refusing to carry or move something she deems 'heavy', but which is well within her reach, playing the 'bats eyelids' card to get men to do it for her. Refusing to ever go anywhere without heels on, no matter how much of a spectacle she makes of herself for inappropriate attire. Generally expects everyone around her to put her needs first and is unwilling to be selfless and giving under any circumstances.

[jen1447]

In the pejorative context I assumed it meant entitlement. (There's even a fetish for 'brat princesses' that depicts attractive young women bossing men around to do their bidding - sexual and otherwise - from a standpoint of entitlement.)

[Ruby Slippers]

I think we all can be princesses to varying degrees, and about different things. I don't demand expensive things, but I do demand sensitive handling of my feelings. I'm kind of a princess emotionally. If I don't get small, sweet romantic gestures now and then, I will sulk a little. When I do get them, I totally spoil him in certain ways (sexually, for example).

 

For as much as they may gripe about princess behavior, who is it that the hero risks life and limb to save in every video game? The princess! Not the cool, low-maintenance chick

[d0nnivain]

An example would be refusing to carry or move something she deems 'heavy', but which is well within her reach, playing the 'bats eyelids' card to get men to do it for her.

 

In that case I am Absolutely a Princess! I will almost always ask any man in my vicinity to deal with heavy objects.

[acrosstheuniverse]

In that case I am Absolutely a Princess! I will almost always ask any man in my vicinity to deal with heavy objects.

 

May I ask why? I've always found that curious. If someone offers to carry something exceptionally heavy I might let them, but I'd never ask or expect and I always expect to carry things myself.

[ManyDissapoint]

Everybody is going to draw those lines differently. I know I am somewhat high maintenance. I have certain expectations & expensive tastes.

 

When DH & I 1st started dating he'd never really met anyone like my friends, my family and me. I know some of it startled him. Later he explained that he stuck around because even though some of the expensive Princess-y things I expected he could tell were just things I grew up with & he didn't. Plus, for example, when he'd suggest a place for a date, with very few exceptions, I happily went along with it. But initially when I wanted to go more upscale from his perspective, I throw it out there as my treat. It wasn't that I wanted to go to some high end place on his dime. I wanted to go certain places because I liked them but I was perfectly happy to pay for them.

 

I expect a man I'm dating to open doors & pull out chairs. I don't like dive bars & won't go to them. I wanted a substantial e-ring. I own 3 fur coats. I like black tie dinners & attend many of them. I serve on various charitable boards & expect my escorts will know how to behave at such things. I'm politically active & attend things like fundraisers and national presidential conventions. I have personal friends who serve at various levels of government. To me they are just my friends & I have known them forever so I don't always remember that to other people they are "famous" and known by their titles.

 

When the time is right I still sit around my house in sweats & I will drink out of a red solo cup at an open air event. I cheer at football games. I drive a plain practical car. I'm also polite & don't berate people who are trying to help me, especially just for the pure sport of feeling "superior."

 

I suppose the height of the Princess business was our wedding. DH & I planned a quaint low key small wedding because that fit our budget. Then my parents got involved & the Golden Rule was applied -- as in he who has the gold makes the rules. Our charming intimate wedding exploded into black tie, 3 ring circus for 400 people. By then DH been acclimated to my family & just went along with it but his extended family still has some issues with it.

 

I think it becomes intolerable when one person expects high end things from their SO that they do not have the ability to provide for themselves.

 

hmm dalmation avatar...fur coats...princess behavior...do you happen to use the word dahhling in a transatlantic accent? I guess what im trying to ask is...are you Cruella DeVille?

[Ruby Slippers]

hmm dalmation avatar...fur coats...princess behavior...do you happen to use the word dahhling in a transatlantic accent? I guess what im trying to ask is...are you Cruella DeVille?

I love that movie and that witch! It is kind of funny to read d0nnivain's post with a Cruella de Vil voice in mind

[StBreton]

In that case I am Absolutely a Princess! I will almost always ask any man in my vicinity to deal with heavy objects.

 

I think guys like it when I ask them to open up jars with twisting lids that I can't open ... or grab something from a top shelf.

[d0nnivain]

I'm not Cruella. I'd never make a coat out of a beautiful dalmatian! An ugly beady eyed mink, no problem.

 

acrosstheuniverse -- I'm not as bad at is sounds. I ask in a cute flirty way & sort of play damsel in distress. I'm quite capable. It's just sort of funny.