zeldathegreat Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 I met this guy last summer, he lives in Europe and I live in the USA but we really get along well and have similar life stories and even a similar outlook on life. We are both divorced and have 7 year old children. The guy is super nice, treats me like a queen, and has helped me with some business ventures that I have. I have also helped him with some of his. But nothing happened during the summer and he keeps calling me his friend when he introduces me to people. When I came back to the US, he kept in touch even though I really didn't. I walked away from the summer not thinking that he was interested. Last Monday I went on a business trip in Europe. I don't know why but I invited him to come to the city I was staying in for the weekend so we could have fun. To my surprise he showed up and we are here together now. When he saw me he told me I looked great (I had lost 15 lbs) and that he was going to have to introduce me to someone. My heart fell when he said this.... WTF? Did he just come here to be friends? Do guys board planes to see women friends? A few background items. I lost weight but I was not overweight even when I did it. I just needed to get fitter which I have. People say that I am very attractive. We are both in our mid forties. He is a super nice guy.... not super attractive but his personality makes him amazing and he rocks my world. We do live far apart, but I do go to where he lives a couple times a year. I guess it has crossed my mind that he does not get involved because I am so far. But I would like to hear your thoughts. And why is he here.
Redhead14 Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 I met this guy last summer, he lives in Europe and I live in the USA but we really get along well and have similar life stories and even a similar outlook on life. We are both divorced and have 7 year old children. The guy is super nice, treats me like a queen, and has helped me with some business ventures that I have. I have also helped him with some of his. But nothing happened during the summer and he keeps calling me his friend when he introduces me to people. When I came back to the US, he kept in touch even though I really didn't. I walked away from the summer not thinking that he was interested. Last Monday I went on a business trip in Europe. I don't know why but I invited him to come to the city I was staying in for the weekend so we could have fun. To my surprise he showed up and we are here together now. When he saw me he told me I looked great (I had lost 15 lbs) and that he was going to have to introduce me to someone. My heart fell when he said this.... WTF? Did he just come here to be friends? Do guys board planes to see women friends? A few background items. I lost weight but I was not overweight even when I did it. I just needed to get fitter which I have. People say that I am very attractive. We are both in our mid forties. He is a super nice guy.... not super attractive but his personality makes him amazing and he rocks my world. We do live far apart, but I do go to where he lives a couple times a year. I guess it has crossed my mind that he does not get involved because I am so far. But I would like to hear your thoughts. And why is he here. Do guys board planes to see women friends? -- Apparently, this one does . . .
Glitters Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 He just said ' someone'. He didnt say a girlfriend or wife etc. It could be mom/dad/sis/brother/cousin/etc etc
hippychick3 Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 I would ask him in a flirty, teasing way "so who was that person you wanted to introduce me to?" Then, you'll have your answer.
Redhead14 Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 I would ask him in a flirty, teasing way "so who was that person you wanted to introduce me to?" Then, you'll have your answer. I think she got the impression from him that he was telling her she's pretty, etc. and wants to introduce her to someone else who is looking for a girlfriend . . . She can tell by his tone what he mean't, I'm sure.
xUnknown Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 I would ask him in a flirty, teasing way "so who was that person you wanted to introduce me to?" Then, you'll have your answer. I wouldn't say that. Hey could have said "i'll introduce you to a friend" to see how she'd react trying to gauge her interest. I think saying this would tell him that you're not interested, which, clearly isn't the case. Drop him some hints. If you have, maybe make them more obvious because he may not be picking up on them....do the whole, "deep look into his eyes for an extended period of time" move... kiss him.
hippychick3 Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 I think she got the impression from him that he was telling her she's pretty, etc. and wants to introduce her to someone else who is looking for a girlfriend . . . She can tell by his tone what he mean't, I'm sure. I'm pretty sure that's what he meant too. But on the slight chance that he didn't mean it that way, asking him that in a teasing way would probably give her the answer she needs.
GemmaUK Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 Ask him who it is and why he wants you to meet them just like Hippy posted above. Just say you are intrigued.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 I think he probably likes you well enough but you live on different continents and both have small children. I'm sure he sees the reality of these difficult circumstances and understands that a future together would not be the most feasible. Just ask him who he wants to introduce you to.
Author zeldathegreat Posted November 6, 2015 Author Posted November 6, 2015 I did not quote what he said. But he clearly meant you look so good I am going to have to find you a man. That is what he said. We went out tonight to the theater and had a late night dinner. He held me hand when he crossed the street, but no moves. Sleepless in Paris.
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