Space? What do I do now?

[SJ69]

Hi everyone, my girlfriend and I have been together almost a year and we had a good relationship until I was diagnosed with a mood disorder that involves acts of rage and violence and the last two month this has affected our relationship. My girlfriend has came back to me on countless occasions and we have been through a lot, yet I know the love is real. I'm currently getting help and our last argument was Tuesday. After the argument she surprisingly asked for some space, like a day or two or even a week in her words, and I was upset because this is my soulmate and I don't want to be without her. I spoke to her friends and they ensured me that she doesn't want to leave me she just wants some space, regain respect for herself, etc. In my head this wasn't enough for me because I still think I'm delusional and naive to think she's coming back. When I left their house I had no replied to my girlfriends text from the previous day and was going to ensure her that I respect the space she needs and will be waiting but I couldn't text it and I was upset that she blocked me on social media and deleted our pictures together. So I walked to her house and she opens the door and says babe and gives me a hug, etc. I expressed to her that I understood what she wanted and I loved her and didn't want anybody else and she told me that she loves me too and kissed me and told me she wasn't leaving me that she just wanted space and time. I'm literally in pieces because I can't lose this girl, I need help here. I don't know if I'm naive to think she isn't leaving and need to man up or if I need to give her her space and see how things play out. Also, do I delete the pictures I have on social media as well? She deleted them prior to me showing up to her house to express myself but I can't help but to think she's done, I'm just so confused.

Edited November 6, 2015 by SJ69
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[PegNosePete]

I'm afraid it certainly sounds like she's on the way out.

 

Give her the space. If you crowd her then it will simply drive her away quicker.

 

The best thing you can do right now is to do as she asks, and give her a week of NO CONTACT to allow her to resolve her feelings.

 

No don't delete the pics, just wait patiently. After a week, if she doesn't get back to you, ask her politely if she wants to resume the relationship or not.

[ExpatInItaly]

I think there is a break-up coming. She doesn't want to hurt you and she cares for you on some level, but I don't think the future looks very bright. In any case, respect her boundaries and give her space. Don't ask her friends/family about her. Your relationship isn't their business. Keep it between you and her.

 

My ex-boyfriend sounds similar to you. He was also diagnosed with a mood disorder and often flew into a rage and lashed out violently. I can't even begin to explain to you the toll this took on me and the damage it caused to our relationship. It was awful.

 

You say you were diagnosed; are you also receiving some type of treatment? You need to get yourself into a healthy place before you can be a loving and stable partner again. I would use this time apart to focus on your own well-being, so that you don't continue to suffer.

[Chi townD]

Dude, when she blocks you on social media and you know that she's removed pics of you two together, that's not someone that's looking for a couple of days breathing room.

 

 

Dude, if I were you, I would start living my life as if she isn't coming back. Because, chances are, she's not.

 

 

Start to focus on the ONLY thing you have control over and that's YOU. Get a hold of your condition. Work towards making yourself better. Start NC on her. If she calls, let it go to voicemail. If she texts, ignore it. Start to heal and move on.

 

 

If she really wanted to see you and talk to you, she knows exactly where you live. And talking should be done face to face so don't respond to anything but a knock on the door.