One_Love Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 So it's a bit strange but I've been seeing this girl for about a month and every time we do something together, she sometimes tell me about some of the guys (and some girls lol) who hit on her or ask her out. I try not to think about it because she tells me she doesn't go for them (plus we are not exclusive yet) but tbh she brings it up almost every time we do something. The thing that bothered me is, last time we went out, she told me this one good looking guy asked her out, she told me she declined, but she also told me she didn't want to mention that he asked her out. I didn't think nothing off it but I just foundbit a bit strange. Can anyone let me know why she does this?
Qboro90 Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 There can be two reasons she's doing it. Which one it is depends on the type of girl she is and you're the only one who would be able to decipher that. 1. She gets off on having the ego boost when other men/women hit on her or make passes at her. She wants you to know she's a hot commodity and you should just know that she could get any other guy if she wanted to. This is mostly an insecurity or self ego thing where if you think that's the kind of girl she is then you can show her up and call her out on it by saying "listen, I know you're beautiful and desireable... And while I appreciate you being honest with me, it's starting to come across as you bragging about how many options you have other than me when we go out. If you need that validation from strangers then that's fine, tell me now because I'm not interested in having to feel like I'm constantly having to reaffirm that you're a catch. 2. Option 2.- she's genuinely just trying to keep you informed about the interactions that go on while you're out. She might be a little naive so it's fine for you to tell her "babe, I appreciate you being honest about that with me, I always want you to feel like you can. But from now on, unless someone makes you uncomfortable or gets out of line, you don't have to tell me about every guy who hits in you. I trust you. Part of the territory that comes with dating someone as gorgeous as you ;)" 2
frus69 Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 Hmm I've never met a girl as dumb as described in "option 2".
louxor Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 You're not exclusive with her so you should already be fine with the fact that she might actually be dating and seeing other people, let alone being hit on by other guys. She's not your girlfriend, so it doesn't matter. At the end of the day, she's out with you, not the other guy. She may have said it to test you, to see if you are confident or needy. The confident guy wouldn't bat an eyelid, because he too is seeing/getting hit on by other people. The confident guy knows that he is a catch and if she chooses someone else then it's her loss and he moves to the next girl. I read somewhere a great response to a situation like this where a girl you're dating tests you by throwing out the idea that she is dating/talking to other guys - It was along the lines of "Great, he can keep you busy while you're not with me." This shows extreme confidence and 0 neediness - She's not your gf, if you're confident in yourself, you shouldn't care what she does with other guys when she's not with you.
Glitters Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 Ignore , because she is trying to get reaction out of you. But yeah , if it happens when you are around , that would be a different story. In front if you , if it happens , then you have to judge if she is inviting them or they are trying to push through. If she rejects them and they don't back off, then you intervene. But your girlfriend is throwing it in your face. Hot women get hit all the time and most enjoy it and few don't. Those who don't , they are secure in themselves and those are the ones you should want and go for. 1
Glitters Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 I read somewhere a great response to a situation like this where a girl you're dating tests you by throwing out the idea that she is dating/talking to other guys - It was along the lines of "Great, he can keep you busy while you're not with me." This shows extreme confidence and 0 neediness - She's not your gf, if you're confident in yourself, you shouldn't care what she does with other guys when she's not with you. Doesn't work all the time. Could back fire with the one on receiving end. 1
phineas Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 Doesn't work all the time. Could back fire with the one on receiving end. I see no down side. She either shuts up about it or goes with someone else. Either way, you no longer have to listen to a woman annoyingly brag about how hot she is every time you see her. 1
starpower Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 Maybe she's trying to get you to make it exclusive with her. Mentioning all these things, hoping to push you to be a proper couple. 1
PegNosePete Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 I've no idea why she does it, but that would really annoy me. So much so in fact that I would probably not see her again because of it. When I am on a date I want her to be thinking and talking about me, not the other guys that hit on her.
MoreAmore Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 All women get hit on a lot. I'm guessing she is hinting at exclusive or trying to make you show more affection/commitment by telling you unless these are guys she has to interact with in the future in which case she is being honest.
Zippy2000 Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 No ONE gets asked out that many times. She is just trying to increase her value. No one ever gets asked out that much as half of the people on Loveshack dont chase (Just read other posts) 1
lilmissjava Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 She is a narcissist. All joking aside, she undoubtedly would like you to know how desirable she is and how lucky you are to be dating her.
TunaCat Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 All women get hit on a lot. More like, all attractive women get hit on a lot. If you aren't attractive, you probably won't get hit on unless the guy is desperate.
LoveRefreshed Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 My gf used to do this a lot. Until I showed her the two phone numbers girls scratched on a piece of paper for me at work. I think some women want to make you feel jealous by showing they have options and are desirable. If you're not already committed, it's possible she is trying to provoke you into exclusivity. 1
Author One_Love Posted November 7, 2015 Author Posted November 7, 2015 Thanks for the replies everybody! I am not sure she wants to be exclusive yet, it has only been a month and I only see her at least once a week. Plus we barely just reached second base. We do talk about taking it slow however. It has been bothering me that she brings up who hits on her. The funny thing, in the beginning, I went on a date with another girl and she texted me what I was doing. After that date I just straight up told her and she got super pissed off at me. Granted, we didn't even go on a single date yet at that time. Maybe she's doing that in retaliation? I really don't know, I over analyze everything too much
phineas Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 I've no idea why she does it, but that would really annoy me. So much so in fact that I would probably not see her again because of it. When I am on a date I want her to be thinking and talking about me, not the other guys that hit on her. Yep. I dated a woman who was hot & got hit on a lot according to her. Also when we were out. If I left to get drinks or goto the bathroom i'd come back to a guy hitting on her & her allowing it then he'd scat when I walked up and she'd say "i don't know why guys are always talking to me, I guess I just look friendly" I ignored it, had some fun with her then she told me she "ran into" an ex at the mall and he asked her out and she wanted to know what I thought about that. I told her she should take him up on the offer & hung up on her. LOL! I also dated a very pretty girl who got hit on all the time but she would spare me the details. When guys approached her while we were out she wouldn't give them the time of day either. one was a low quality woman & the other wasn't. Can you guess which one was which? 2
smackie9 Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 The only thing that gets accomplished is making someone upset....why would a person want to do that when they are looking for a relationship?? I find it a very negative and immature way to get attention. She's not a keeper. 1
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