How can someone move on so quickly whenever our love was so deep and passionate?

[Vincent23]

I was with my ex for 4 yrs. At one point she was literally OBSESSED with me, to the point she became possessive and extremely jealous. It ended up causing constant issues, but we were so in love at one point. We couldn't get enough of each other. It was such a rush when we would be with each other whenever we weren't arguing. I felt like she was the love of my life.

 

It's been a yr since the break up, and it hurts so much still. Every day I think of her and I haven't found anyone who has made me feel like her. All the while she has moved on seemingly very easily, and has belittled me by saying I'm ugly, I have a small penis, I'm an ass hole...etc. The whole gamut of things. But this was the same girl who used to be completely enthralled by me and would tell me how perfect I am. She would whine sometimes and say I'm TOO perfect and say she hates how other girls are attracted to me. And after making love, she even cried on a couple occasions from the rush of emotions, and would always squeeze me so tight afterwards, begging me to never leave her.

 

That's part of what makes this so hard to move on. It was so flattering how much she admired me and how attracted she was to me. She made me feel so good, and now she acts as if none of that was true. And it's hard because she is SO gorgeous, and I feel like I'll never be able to find another girl I'm that attracted to that will think as highly of me as she did.

 

It just sucks and I just want the constant thoughts to end. Thoughts about who she's with, how she could move on so quickly, if she gets more pleasure being with the new guys she has been with. I can't stand this. All the while she doesn't care while I'm just pretending not to care but it's killing me

[loveiswar101]

Sorry to say this buddy, but it's human nature. I like most here look back to the happy times and think what went wrong. But that's it were looking back and not looking to future and what it holds for us.

 

Best advise I can give is move on, forget her. Not sure how you know what's she has said about you but that's gotta stop. ie through friend's, social media, you spying, however IT HAS TO STOP.

 

How you going to forget someone if you constantly know what there doing and saying.

 

Get some new friends, find hobbies, work or study hard. As I was told today it will happen ! Have a little faith in it will and have some faith in you. Good luck.

[ManyDissapoint]

"My love is like a red red rose, and thine, fickle as a pickle"

 

-William Shakespeare

[Vincent23]

She has told me these things personally since the break up. I've blocked her on any social media, and have done NC for a while now. But early in the break up I caved to her messaging me when things weren't working out with whoever she was currently seeing, and whenever our reconciliation didn't work out, she said all that stuff to me. Although she was the one that caused our demise.

 

But I just don't get it. How could what we had not of had an impact on her. She was LITERALLY obsessed with me and would be all over me all the time. She was obsessively jealous, but whenever things were going well, it was an unbelievable high. But I just became suffocated. I valued independence still and wanted us to both still have a life outside of each other, but I still loved her like crazy. I encouraged her to hang out with friends and do stuff without me sometimes, but she would go crazy if I ever wanted to go anywhere or go to a friends house or anything. I just don't get it. She seemed more in love with me than I even was with her. So how can it be so easy for her?

[loveiswar101]

It's hard. but don't try and think what's she thinking. How do you know it's easy for her, she maybe masking it all. No one knows my friend. You need to STOP worrying about her anymore, you are not together. You're reading to much of what happened in the past and not thinking of you and the present

 

I was the same, all this energy your spending on her, you should be spending on you.

 

PLEASE let it go and focus on you. PLEASE stay NC, you will heal way faster.