JustGettingBy Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 A friend of mine with depression was recently hospitalized. Earlier today I went to go visit him before work, and he seemed to be improving, and encouraged me to tell mutual friends that he could use a visit. Later on, an ex girlfriend of his, who reconnected and they're friends now, asked if he's okay, and I said that he's safe in the hospital, but that was all I felt comfortable telling her due to his privacy. A few minutes ago, a mutual friend of all three of us said to me that he didn't want her specifically to know, meaning that even what I said was too much. Note that I didn't say which hospital, and didn't know that we were supposed to not tell her anything.
anika99 Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 I don't think you did anything all that bad. You say your friend is friends with the ex so did you think she already knew he was in the hospital? If your friend hated his ex or hadn't talked to her in years then definitely it would be wrong to divulge anything personal about him but given that they are friends I think your slip of the tongue is forgivable.
nescafe1982 Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 +1. You thought you were doing the right thing, OP. And you were discreet. I wouldn't worry about this too much, and reserve the details from now on. I hope your friend in the hospital continued to improve; bless you for being around for them.
acrosstheuniverse Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 No, you did absolutely nothing wrong. He encouraged you to tell friends. If he'd had a specific reason he didn't want a particular person to know, then he would have said.
Mooncloud Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 I don't think you were at all wrong, how were you to know they didn't necessarily want her knowing anything? Besides the fact you were still cautious about what you did tell her it's totally understandable. If your friend/s get funny about it, I would just straight apologise and explain that you really didn't mean to cause any problems - they should understand your sincerity. I hope your friend feels better soon - I suffer from episodes of severe depression and it's a ****ty place to be in, but it honestly does get better.
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