maru_h Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Hi loveshack. My first post here! About 5 months ago, I went on a date with a bi-curious girl. The date was pretty horrible (I admit it) and it was majorly my fault. I tried to talk to her a little more afterwards. I could have been a bit annoying as I kept trying to initiate a conversation which she barely replied to. Obviously she wasn't interested, so I stopped talking. (I had a hard time getting over her) 2 weeks ago, one girl just caught my eyes at Starbucks. She was so gorgeous and after I found out we had a lot of common interests. I fell for her quickly. I took her on a date last week and it went fairly well. She told me that she enjoyed it and she wants to do it again. But here's the problem. Today, I was just creeping on her Facebook and found something pretty shocking. About a year and a half ago, this girl had a lesbian relationship with the bi-curious girl that I went on the horrible date with. I mean, what are the chances of this happening? I'm so confused on whether if I should continue going on dates with her now. It just makes it so awkward because she doesn't know that I had a hard time getting over her ex-girlfriend. What should I do? Do I tell her about this or just end it here?
Forza.Taki Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 It doesn't have to be that frustrating. Things like this happen quite often. I do understand that you had a hard time getting over the first girl, but this should not interfere with what you're trying to start with the second girl. As long as you really like her and are willing to keep going, what the two girls did with each other should not matter too much. It's up to you man. Can you look past it? 2
LostOnes05 Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 Why say anything? That will mean you have to admit creeping on her Facebook AND to going on a bad date with her ex. Leave it where it is and enjoy your next date. No need to do anything more. If it comes up, just say oh yeah we went out on one date months ago. As my folks would say, don't get diarrhea of the mouth so much that you talk yourself out of a potential relationship. Good luck! 2
EricaH329 Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 I agree with the other posters. I think it'd be silly to bring up, considering you've only been on one date with her ex. I noticed throughout your post that you seem to get attached to girls quite easily. You went on one date with the first girl, and fell so hard for her that you had a difficult time getting over her. This second girl, you admitted to falling hard for as well, and after finding out that you dated her ex - are already questioning whether or not to bring it up. I may be out of place in asking this, but have you given much thought as to why this is? I know it's off topic, but I think you could benefit from trying to figure out what makes you fall so hard - so quick. Especially when it comes to dating. 1
thecrucible Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 Don't get ahead of yourself. You've only had one date with the girl so you don't know whether it'll turn into a relationship. If you do get a little closer, talk about exes will naturally come up at the right time. But yes don't mention it. 1
Author maru_h Posted November 6, 2015 Author Posted November 6, 2015 I agree with the other posters. I think it'd be silly to bring up, considering you've only been on one date with her ex. I noticed throughout your post that you seem to get attached to girls quite easily. You went on one date with the first girl, and fell so hard for her that you had a difficult time getting over her. This second girl, you admitted to falling hard for as well, and after finding out that you dated her ex - are already questioning whether or not to bring it up. I may be out of place in asking this, but have you given much thought as to why this is? I know it's off topic, but I think you could benefit from trying to figure out what makes you fall so hard - so quick. Especially when it comes to dating. I'm 20 years old and I've only been on a handful of dates and never been in a relationship. Before, I honestly didn't mind being single, but lately I've definitely been more ambitious to find a partner and I guess that might be the factor for why I'm falling for girls so easily.
TheBathWater Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 Hi loveshack. My first post here! About 5 months ago, I went on a date with a bi-curious girl. The date was pretty horrible (I admit it) and it was majorly my fault. I tried to talk to her a little more afterwards. I could have been a bit annoying as I kept trying to initiate a conversation which she barely replied to. Obviously she wasn't interested, so I stopped talking. (I had a hard time getting over her) 2 weeks ago, one girl just caught my eyes at Starbucks. She was so gorgeous and after I found out we had a lot of common interests. I fell for her quickly. I took her on a date last week and it went fairly well. She told me that she enjoyed it and she wants to do it again. But here's the problem. Today, I was just creeping on her Facebook and found something pretty shocking. About a year and a half ago, this girl had a lesbian relationship with the bi-curious girl that I went on the horrible date with. I mean, what are the chances of this happening? I'm so confused on whether if I should continue going on dates with her now. It just makes it so awkward because she doesn't know that I had a hard time getting over her ex-girlfriend. What should I do? Do I tell her about this or just end it here? What an interesting situation. If I were you, personally, I would just play it cool like I know nothing and then talk about it if/when it comes up naturally. Try not to sweat it too much. It's actually a pretty small world, and stuff like this is bound to happen sooner or later if you meet enough people. 1
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