katiegrl Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 (edited) As I remember it, she brought it up in an almost joking sort of way. If she's calling him out on it, I'm not sure it's something she enjoys, but perhaps a way to help him feel included. I don't think it was brought up to make me jealous. I'm not jealous, just a bit confused as to why this particular guy is liking everything my girlfriend posts. It's borderline creepy, imo. Why DO you think she brought it up then? What was her point? What was she trying to accomplish by telling you? It is not like it was part of a discussion you were having. Out of the blue, and for no apparent reason of any relevance, she asks you if you happen to notice another guy liking her posts/pics whatevs. Why? Again, her point was? Curious to know what your thoughts are re that.... Edited November 7, 2015 by katiegrl
Author CalvinM Posted November 8, 2015 Author Posted November 8, 2015 Why DO you think she brought it up then? What was her point? What was she trying to accomplish by telling you? It is not like it was part of a discussion you were having. Out of the blue, and for no apparent reason of any relevance, she asks you if you happen to notice another guy liking her posts/pics whatevs. Why? Again, her point was? Curious to know what your thoughts are re that.... I think it was just a heads up, like "just incase you notice this guy liking all my posts, yeah, that's x. We openly bug him about it." I mildly feigned interest and replied back, "Ok. No, I hadn't noticed. I'm not on fb much." I don't care that she posts a lot of stuff he replies to, and it's not like I check her page. But when I do see her posts, 9 times out of 10 he's liked it and made some utterly pathetic attempt to flirt with her. I'm a firm believer that guys and girls can't be non platonic friends. If I'm not interested in sleeping with a woman, or one of her friends, there's no little to no reason for me to keep in contact. I have a handful of female friends that live out of province that I keep in touch with through fb and have known for over a decade, but I wouldn't date any of them and I certainly don't flirt with them. They've firmly been placed in the friends zone category and nothing will change that.
anduina Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 If you're not threatened by it in some way, why would you create this thread? She's not much of a friend if she's backstabbing this guy friend and still hanging out with him. I feel sorry for the guy since he obviously likes her. If she wasn't using this guy, I'd say that you should put your foot down by discussing relationship boundaries. Don't go after the guy since he's not responsible for your relationship boundaries. Your g/f is responsible for maintaining boundaries. 1
joseb Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 She's not much of a friend if she's backstabbing this guy friend and still hanging out with him. I feel sorry for the guy since he obviously likes her. . Yes. This is what I was thinking. That's pretty nasty to do to a friend if that's what she is doing. So she's either bringing this up to make you jealous or she's making fun of this guy. neither is very nice behaviour. How is your relationship in general? 1
Author CalvinM Posted November 8, 2015 Author Posted November 8, 2015 She doesn't backstab him as far as I can tell. You're putting words in my mouth. She merely says "oh, x is awake and he's liking all my posts." It's gentle ribbing. Frankly, I don't care if he kisses the computer screen, just as long as he keeps his creepy behaviour to himself. The relationship is really good overall.
Empyrea Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 I'm bothered enough that he's annoying, fat and bald. She said hes really negative and I know in a million years she'd never go for that "kind" of guy, but it's still odd that she'd encourage it. I don't think she's flirting, but he is. And while she doesn't necessarily encourage it, it doesn't seem like she does much to stop it either. So is she encouraging it or isn't she? Because there is a difference. Frankly, if it's some desperate fat bald guy, then that hardly counts for any sort of ego boost, but you kind of feel sorry enough for them not to openly call them up on it or be rude about it. It sounds like it's a bit of a running gag between her friends and her, but she's more annoyed by it than flattered, unless I'm missing something. How exactly is she encouraging it? She probably just mentioned it to bring you in on the loop, in case you'd noticed and were curious. Or to feel you out on the jealousy spectrum, because it's early days in your relationship still. If it's as innocent as it sounds, then I really wouldn't worry. 1
thecrucible Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 To be honest I've been in similar situations where I've never encouraged a guy but he seems eager to like my posts all the time, leave me compliments etc. If I had a boyfriend I'd find it even weirder but it'd also seem like less drama just to try and ignore it than to call him out on it and some crap unfold in front of me. I reckon she probably finds it pretty weird herself. Like once I turned a guy down and he started posting all over facebook "thecrucible is a whore" and that sort of stuff. So sometimes you just think it isn't worth the drama to say anything to a guy even if he is creeping you out. I don't see how she can't just delete him off facebook though.
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