Messi70 Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 i just want to tell that break up was not messy and after no contact rule we are attached i often give her surprises as i think she is interested me because we are meeting often once in a week. but its her bday coming and i want to surprise her, i have something in mind for her but want i want to ask is i had wallet when used to date and it has my name printed on it and she always wanted that and i promised her that as soon as i get new wallet i will give this to her. As she gifted me other wallet having the name on it, but i couldn't give my wallet to her. After sometime we broke up and now she doesn't even look at the wallet she gave me. What i was thinking would it be good if i gift her that wallet that she used to love?? i don't know whether she will like it or not but she often say that she loves it when im around and it was she who broke up. its been almost 5 months that we broke up. So can any women/girl suggest me that should i give her that wallet or not? Thanks
candie13 Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 no wallet. no gift. no contact. it's the best gift you could give yourself and her. just move on and let the dead rest in peace. 3
Silver_star Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 uhm no. This is a terrible idea. From my perspective is it is pretty pathetic and desperate. Not saying that is who you are...im saying the act of giving her a wallet or gifting her at all(something with a sentimental undertone) is extremely pathetic and needy. Not attractive. Even you still wanting to do that makes me think you still want her, is that the case? Here is my advice: If you want her back, don't give her a bday gift. If you don't want her back, don't give her a bday gift.
d0nnivain Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Messi I get the sense that you want to reconcile with this girl & are hoping that getting her something for her birthday will advance your cause. While we can all debate wisdom of going backwards in life, assuming you are hellbent on trying, just get her a straight up gift of something she would like. Just because she previously commented that she liked your wallet does not mean she wants to own a used wallet with her EX-BF's name on it. She liked it as YOUR wallet. That doesn't translate to she would like your used wallet to be her wallet. It's not the same thing as pilfering the proverbial BF sweater.
dumbass2 Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 No, don't send her anything, especially something personal. I think it's pretty nice of her to fit you in once a week during her busy dating schedule (yes I know, I'm assuming). Is once a week her idea or yours? Could use a little more background on the break up. How long together, issues, any cheating, how long was NC for and who initiated and broke it?
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