roxan Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Do you get annoyed when your partner comments on girls pictures on facebook,instagram etc...? My ex was like that,and I found it was creepy. He would add lots of random girls on facebook,that he doesnt even know(yet) and message them or comment on their pics. Actually he even deleted me off FB one day saying he didnt like seeing other guys commenting on my pics but that's what exactly what he was doing himself with the other girls! He even had a "secret" instagram profile, well not so secret as it was his usual username online (for different things:twitter,soundcloud etc...) but he never posted anything,and had his profile as private. I didnt bother adding him as there was zero posts but he didnt have any followers,was just following. What's the point to put your profile as private if you dont post anything? At first,I just thought "Ok,thats'a bit weird" but it's just social medias,not something important in real life. Until one day,I started to wonder how and when he'd met all his new female friends on fb as he was adding new girls so regularly. I contacted one,and she told me they met on POF,and he told her he was single etc... I confronted him,and he had to admit he was cheating,and added the girls he cheated with on FB! Now,it all makes senses that he didnt want me to see him messaging others girls,and cheating. So,ladies, when your partner spend his time commenting on other girls pics on FB,IG, etc... sometimes it's not so innocent!
acrosstheuniverse Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Well, he doesn't... to my knowledge. Commenting on a genuine friend's photo saying they look nice or whatever is one thing, doubt anyone would have a problem with that, but if he was adding random women and commenting on their appearance I would swiftly move on and find someone who wasn't that skeezy! Eww. 2
MightyPen Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Going overboard with it is definitely uncalled for. And obviously this dude was actually cheating with them so him just looking/commenting on pics is not exactly the problem. Heck, if he was smart at all, he would have been subtle about it, not in your face. So perhaps it's not such a loss. But I do feel compelled to mention that an INSANE number of younger women post half naked selfies to FB. I mean, I'm an old married guy and I still see them filling up the "people you may know" section. So it's hard to totally ignore it when so many young good looking women are making obvious attention grabs.
d0nnivain Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Nope. It's just talk. If he was saying suggestive things, I might be a bit upset but just a compliment, doesn't bother me in the slightest.
Author roxan Posted November 5, 2015 Author Posted November 5, 2015 Well, he doesn't... to my knowledge. Commenting on a genuine friend's photo saying they look nice or whatever is one thing, doubt anyone would have a problem with that, but if he was adding random women and commenting on their appearance I would swiftly move on and find someone who wasn't that skeezy! Eww. Yeah I'm not talking about some friend of his,that you know in real life. But random girls you dont even know,and you dont even how/ when they know each other
Karine26 Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 It's all talk until the girl replies back, even if it's a "Thanks!" And then he's inboxing her asking questions and trying to see her. I'm not half naked in my pics but that has happened to me a few times with guys that have girlfriends. And I'm sorry he sounds sleazy. Deleting you off of Facebook and having a secret Instagram account??? I would run and never look back. He will only find ways to be even more sneaky when you call him out on his activity. 1
oberkeat Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Do you get annoyed when your partner comments on girls pictures on facebook,instagram etc...? My ex was like that,and I found it was creepy. He would add lots of random girls on facebook,that he doesnt even know(yet) and message them or comment on their pics. Actually he even deleted me off FB one day saying he didnt like seeing other guys commenting on my pics but that's what exactly what he was doing himself with the other girls! He even had a "secret" instagram profile, well not so secret as it was his usual username online (for different things:twitter,soundcloud etc...) but he never posted anything,and had his profile as private. I didnt bother adding him as there was zero posts but he didnt have any followers,was just following. What's the point to put your profile as private if you dont post anything? At first,I just thought "Ok,thats'a bit weird" but it's just social medias,not something important in real life. Until one day,I started to wonder how and when he'd met all his new female friends on fb as he was adding new girls so regularly. I contacted one,and she told me they met on POF,and he told her he was single etc... I confronted him,and he had to admit he was cheating,and added the girls he cheated with on FB! Now,it all makes senses that he didnt want me to see him messaging others girls,and cheating. So,ladies, when your partner spend his time commenting on other girls pics on FB,IG, etc... sometimes it's not so innocent! It seems the world is full of guys who do not deserve the women they are with. If I had a gf, there's no way I'd be looking at other women. How is it that jerks like him are able to get girlfriends, who they then take for granted, while guys like myself who would actually make decent bf's remain single and struggling? That drives me nuts! 2
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 I have yet to be with any man who had any serious interest in social media and thank God. So the answer is this has never been a problem for me. It also helps that I date men not boys. 2
Iceshowers Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 If my partner was just commenting on picture's of female friends he actually knew and it was comments like "you look nice" or something friendly like that, I'd be ok, especially if I knew that friend or if he told me about that friend. But if he has fake profiles on any social media to look, like, comment, talk to other females, then no freaking way. My ex had alot of women he messaged on FB, who were of "sexy interest" and I caught on, and sorry, that's a no no.
Author roxan Posted November 5, 2015 Author Posted November 5, 2015 It's all talk until the girl replies back, even if it's a "Thanks!" And then he's inboxing her asking questions and trying to see her. I'm not half naked in my pics but that has happened to me a few times with guys that have girlfriends. And I'm sorry he sounds sleazy. Deleting you off of Facebook and having a secret Instagram account??? I would run and never look back. He will only find ways to be even more sneaky when you call him out on his activity. Yes,the funny thing is that he told me "I'm deleting you off FB because I dont like seeing guys comenting on your pics". Which is actually what he was doing himself btw... I thought it was strange for a guy to delete his girlfriend. I admit I stalked a bit his FB,because to me it sounded like he wanted to hide something. I noticed he was adding a lot of girls in the meantime,that I didnt know. We were together since 2 years,so I ve met his friends many times. When I asked him about them,he told me they were "old friends,coworkers" etc...but I decided to trust my guts and contacted one of them. And she confirmed what I thought,that these so called "friends" in reality he was cheating or trying to cheat with them. So now,I tend to think that when guys comment/like on other girls pictures, their partner should watch out
insert_name Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 It seems the world is full of guys who do not deserve the women they are with. If I had a gf, there's no way I'd be looking at other women. How is it that jerks like him are able to get girlfriends, who they then take for granted, while guys like myself who would actually make decent bf's remain single and struggling? That drives me nuts! If girls choose to go for guys like that instead of me then I must be doing something right, quite frankly!
oberkeat Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 If girls choose to go for guys like that instead of me then I must be doing something right, quite frankly! You're right about that. Obviously, there are a lot of girls out there with really poor taste in men.
d0nnivain Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Yeah I'm not talking about some friend of his,that you know in real life. But random girls you dont even know,and you dont even how/ when they know each other While I do not at all understand the phenomenon of people who don't know each other IRL being "friends" on social media, i would be less concerned that my guy was in essence commenting to strangers that he doesn't know then I would about him commenting on women he deals with all the time. Again, if it's just a compliment, even if she says thanks, it's no big deal.
Author roxan Posted November 5, 2015 Author Posted November 5, 2015 Well besides of my personal experience where I caught my ex actually cheating, I find it generally disrespectful for their gfs/wiwes when guys write comments like "wow,you re so hot","wish i was in bed with you" etc.. (ahem saw these kind of coments from my ex) Even if it's just "talk"!
d0nnivain Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Well besides of my personal experience where I caught my ex actually cheating, I find it generally disrespectful for their gfs/wiwes when guys write comments like "wow,you re so hot","wish i was in bed with you" etc.. (ahem saw these kind of coments from my ex) Even if it's just "talk"! Wish I was in bed with you is way over the line & not to be tolerated. You look hot, nice, fantastic, even sexy (but that's pushing it), are just compliments. However, people draw these lines about what is and what is not appropriate in different places. You started this thread asking what other people think / feel / tolerate & I have shared with you that it doesn't bother me. That said, if it bothers you, and knowing that your BF still does it, you need to think about why you are willing to put up with behavior you think is inappropriate.
JasmineJones Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Do you get annoyed when your partner comments on girls pictures on facebook,instagram etc...? My ex was like that,and I found it was creepy. He would add lots of random girls on facebook,that he doesnt even know(yet) and message them or comment on their pics. Actually he even deleted me off FB one day saying he didnt like seeing other guys commenting on my pics but that's what exactly what he was doing himself with the other girls! He even had a "secret" instagram profile, well not so secret as it was his usual username online (for different things:twitter,soundcloud etc...) but he never posted anything,and had his profile as private. I didnt bother adding him as there was zero posts but he didnt have any followers,was just following. What's the point to put your profile as private if you dont post anything? At first,I just thought "Ok,thats'a bit weird" but it's just social medias,not something important in real life. Until one day,I started to wonder how and when he'd met all his new female friends on fb as he was adding new girls so regularly. I contacted one,and she told me they met on POF,and he told her he was single etc... I confronted him,and he had to admit he was cheating,and added the girls he cheated with on FB! Now,it all makes senses that he didnt want me to see him messaging others girls,and cheating. So,ladies, when your partner spend his time commenting on other girls pics on FB,IG, etc... sometimes it's not so innocent! Are we talking girls or women here? As these are two different things.
GunslingerRoland Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 I know as a guy, I'm pretty hesitant to like pictures that are revealing. I know a couple of times girls I've went to high school with posted pictures in bikini's and I considered clicking Like, not as in, hey I want to cheat on my wife with you, but as in, hey you look nice in a bikini at almost 40 nice work, but thought the better of it for the optics.
Author roxan Posted November 5, 2015 Author Posted November 5, 2015 Are we talking girls or women here? As these are two different things. I used the term "girls" to talk about "other women" in general. Not just young girls,it could be more mature ladies.. My question wasnt specifically about "are you annoyed when your partner comment on young 18-20 years olds girls 'pictures? English is not my first language so it's not like I m going to write it perfectly! Let's use the term "women" if you prefer 1
thecrucible Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 No I wouldn't be cool with that. Who lives such a sad life that they spend so much time on Facebook commenting on people's pictures? That's weak. The guy would also have to be really idiotic to do that sort of thing knowing that I would see it. It also seems like really immature High School stuff. I don't know any guys on my friend's list who regularly comment on a woman's pictures. The most they do is like another woman's profile picture. If it's a woman he already knows and is only ever going to be friends with, not a problem. But if the guy is adding new women and commenting on their pictures, obviously I wouldn't be down with that.
lovel Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 Do you get annoyed when your partner comments on girls pictures on facebook,instagram etc...? My ex was like that,and I found it was creepy. He would add lots of random girls on facebook,that he doesnt even know(yet) and message them or comment on their pics. Actually he even deleted me off FB one day saying he didnt like seeing other guys commenting on my pics but that's what exactly what he was doing himself with the other girls! He even had a "secret" instagram profile, well not so secret as it was his usual username online (for different things:twitter,soundcloud etc...) but he never posted anything,and had his profile as private. I didnt bother adding him as there was zero posts but he didnt have any followers,was just following. What's the point to put your profile as private if you dont post anything? At first,I just thought "Ok,thats'a bit weird" but it's just social medias,not something important in real life. Until one day,I started to wonder how and when he'd met all his new female friends on fb as he was adding new girls so regularly. I contacted one,and she told me they met on POF,and he told her he was single etc... I confronted him,and he had to admit he was cheating,and added the girls he cheated with on FB! Now,it all makes senses that he didnt want me to see him messaging others girls,and cheating. So,ladies, when your partner spend his time commenting on other girls pics on FB,IG, etc... sometimes it's not so innocent! I've dated the exact type of guy you're talking about and let's just say it didn't last very long. I don't have any proof that he met these girls on POF, but I Googled their Instagram usernames and their POF profiles came up... it's not rocket science. It didn't even matter that he wasn't physically cheating, but just the fact that he was doing that and that these girls were local... ugh. Really curious about you contacting that girl! What did you say exactly?
Myragal Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 Well, he doesn't... to my knowledge. Commenting on a genuine friend's photo saying they look nice or whatever is one thing, doubt anyone would have a problem with that, but if he was adding random women and commenting on their appearance I would swiftly move on and find someone who wasn't that skeezy! Eww. True. It wouldn't be an issue because he wouldn't be my partner....period. How do people get in relationships with this type of man?
Author roxan Posted November 6, 2015 Author Posted November 6, 2015 I've dated the exact type of guy you're talking about and let's just say it didn't last very long. I don't have any proof that he met these girls on POF, but I Googled their Instagram usernames and their POF profiles came up... it's not rocket science. It didn't even matter that he wasn't physically cheating, but just the fact that he was doing that and that these girls were local... ugh. Really curious about you contacting that girl! What did you say exactly? Well I just asked her directly how they knew each other because I never met her before. I mean I would have pass as the crazy jealous gf if I was wrong about her and she was just a colleague or acquaintance,but I had a strong feeling he was sneaking behind my back and turns out I was right anyway My ex had his facebook since years and all his friends/genuine friends were on his fb since a long time. We were together since 2 years so I basically met most of them. If he had met new people it would have been through work or some hobbies,but you dont really have new female coworker every week dont you?
basil67 Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 Who lives such a sad life that they spend so much time on Facebook commenting on people's pictures? That's weak. I guess I lead such a sad life by your standards. As a full time carer, I am extremely limited in my ability to get out and socialise. Facebook is one of my links to the world and helps me feel less isolated. Nice to know that I'm seen an 'weak' due to no fault of my own.
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