JasmineJones Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 I've noticed both offline and in OLD that guys often ask "do you live alone?" almost immediately. I mean, even after it's already been established that you're not married and don't have kids. Why? 1
PegNosePete Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 They want to know if your sex noises will be interrupted by an angry roommate at 3am. Alternatively they are trying to get to know you and start a conversation. 9
Redhead14 Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 I've noticed both offline and in OLD that guys often ask "do you live alone?" almost immediately. I mean, even after it's already been established that you're not married and don't have kids. Why? Because you might have a roommate or live with your parents or a live-in boyfriend which would make it difficult for the two of you to have a place to go for sex when the time came and not always be at his house . . .
GunslingerRoland Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Maybe they want to know if you still live with parents? 1
SwordofFlame Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 If you live in a city with a high cost of living, it can also indicate how much you earn if you live on your own and don't have roommates. Well for those guys that care about that kind of stuff. 2
Author JasmineJones Posted November 5, 2015 Author Posted November 5, 2015 Because you might have a roommate or live with your parents or a live-in boyfriend which would make it difficult for the two of you to have a place to go for sex when the time came and not always be at his house . . . Very first ever convo and no date seems a bit premature to really care about that sort of stuff though lol 1
losangelena Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 They want to know if your sex noises will be interrupted by an angry roommate at 3am. Alternatively they are trying to get to know you and start a conversation. I agree with both of these. It can be both a leading question and a very innocuous one.
Redhead14 Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Very first ever convo and no date seems a bit premature to really care about that sort of stuff though lol He's not gonna date a woman who doesn't live alone. That's part of his screening process . . . 2
StBreton Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 I've noticed both offline and in OLD that guys often ask "do you live alone?" almost immediately. I mean, even after it's already been established that you're not married and don't have kids. Why? Because of your age demographic ... Not one person has asked me. As to their ulterior motives ... They possibly want to know of any impediments to hooking up on a whim? Even in my 20s ... not one guy asked ... that was pre hook up culture days though
kpl Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 This is a pretty standard question for me and most dates I've been on. I live in a large city and many ppl have roommates. I think I always ask to get to know someone more, its a good conversation starter. It is all part of the where are you from, what neighborhood do you live in, what do you like about it group of questions. 1
Author JasmineJones Posted November 5, 2015 Author Posted November 5, 2015 Because of your age demographic ... Not one person has asked me. As to their ulterior motives ... They possibly want to know of any impediments to hooking up on a whim? Even in my 20s ... not one guy asked ... that was pre hook up culture days though What age group are you in?
StBreton Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 What age group are you in? Late 40s ... Live in a large city (with kids) ... Suburbs In my 20s I lived in one of the largest cities downtown solo ... People just didn't ask the question back then ... just didn't come up ... We did talk about which little neighborhoods we lived in due to special little eating/drinking places we'd recommend to each other 1
Author JasmineJones Posted November 5, 2015 Author Posted November 5, 2015 Here's the latest guy to ask that question's follow up question: "I do enjoy make a lot of sex. Hopefully you are nice and excellent lover too lol. My ex gf wasn't that good." 1
empresario Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Maybe they want to stalk and rape you. Maybe they are just really bad at small talk. Who knows? I've given up trying to understand my own generation. It kind of makes sense in a boomerang generation. People into their thirties often times have roommates or live with their family. It's an expensive world, and even in decent cost-of-living states you have to make a good salary to live comfortably on your own. Doing so implicates you have at least some means. 1
Author JasmineJones Posted November 5, 2015 Author Posted November 5, 2015 Maybe they want to stalk and rape you. Maybe they are just really bad at small talk. Who knows? I've given up trying to understand my own generation. It kind of makes sense in a boomerang generation. People into their thirties often times have roommates or live with their family. It's an expensive world, and even in decent cost-of-living states you have to make a good salary to live comfortably on your own. Doing so implicates you have at least some means. You're not alone in that one!
carhill Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Small talk. In general, guys use topics which work for them historically. Anything that sounds like a canned question or 'line' comes from that place. Pragmatism.
Myragal Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Seems whatever to want to read into it. I don't turn somersaults in my head over innocuous questions. 'What do you do for a living?'. He wants to live off of me? Offering me a job? 'Where are you from?' He wants to know if I'm an Iraqi terrorist? I feel sorry for some guys in trying to get a conversation going with a woman. They are all plotting rapists or sex addicts.
Kamille Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Here's the latest guy to ask that question's follow up question: "I do enjoy make a lot of sex. Hopefully you are nice and excellent lover too lol. My ex gf wasn't that good." That's hilarious. While there might be many reasons why someone would ask that question, in the context of an on-line conversation, I would find it off-putting. I would think they're trying to plant the idea of hookup sex, an hour from now if possible. I'm not judging. Many people use OLD to hookup. But if you're not into hookup sex, I would take the question as a cue to leave the conversation (as you imagine you have in the case of the conversation cited above). The conversation starter: "What neighbourhood do you live in?" is much better suited for small talk. 2
StBreton Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 (edited) Here's the latest guy to ask that question's follow up question: "I do enjoy make a lot of sex. Hopefully you are nice and excellent lover too lol. My ex gf wasn't that good." Yuk! Were you out with this person at the time? Geez it's a good thing I had boys ... I'd be the biggest helicopter mom to my daughter ... following her around and unleash some "motherly advice" after hearing such drivel ... What an absolute pig this guy is. I'd have said to the guy "ya you know Lorena Bobbitt ...I'm her cousin" And btw your face is on fire so had to throw my drink glass contents on it ... Some guys just make it easy for us girls to walk away. The other guys are thanking you for thinning out the heard. Then again ... Some girls might take what this guy said as a challenge to prove she's better. Sick minds think alike. Edited November 5, 2015 by StBreton 2
StBreton Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 (edited) Seems whatever to want to read into it. I don't turn somersaults in my head over innocuous questions. 'What do you do for a living?'. He wants to live off of me? Offering me a job? 'Where are you from?' He wants to know if I'm an Iraqi terrorist? I feel sorry for some guys in trying to get a conversation going with a woman. They are all plotting rapists or sex addicts. You're kidding right? Did you read what the follow up statements were to this guy's "innocuous" question? Ya because us woman are such poor judges of character ... We're paranoid. Looks down shakes head And me thinks you have a chip on your shoulder. Time for a paradigm shift? Edited November 5, 2015 by StBreton 1
kismetkismet Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 For ease of banging? Roommates make hanging out at home a little more awkward.
LoveRefreshed Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Because they want to know if you're really single. They also might want to know if they will have to get a hotel room to cheat on their partner or if you'll be a convenient side option.
oregon0011 Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 A. If you are a guy who can't have company (live with someone, roommates) you want to hook up with a girl who can. Often times you are hoping they wil say "I live alone. Come keep me company". This happens often actually. So if you are just online dating it is a leading question to see if sex can occur. So if a girl says "I have 3 roommates" often times it is a next and skip to other profiles. B. I personally have less in common with girls who have star age living situations. In online dating you come across all types.
SwordofFlame Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 I've never asked a woman the question. I live alone myself. I guess that makes the question irrelevant in terms of getting sex because she could just come over to my place.
SoulCat Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Very first ever convo and no date seems a bit premature to really care about that sort of stuff though lol Not necessarily. I'd ask if they lived alone just to gauge whether or not they've got their sh*t together. I'd have no interest in chatting to or meeting someone who still lives with their folks or relies on roommates to make the monthly rent.
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