Mikau Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 After just getting out of a relationship and back into OLD, how do we perceive the sort of lukewarm messages that basically answer your question (in a few sentences) without really asking any follow up questions of their own. Are these people (generally) just being polite but uninterested, or does the fact that they replied at all (with the exception of saying 'sorry not interested) mean there is some modicum of interest? In the past I've tried too hard to keep conversations like this going without really getting anything out of it, and I'm wondering if I just shouldn't bother or take the chance anyway.
PegNosePete Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 I would generally operate on an understanding that investment should be slowly but steadily growing over 4-5 messages, after which you ask for a phone number or real life meeting. If her return was lower than your investment (ie. just answered the question but didn't ask a return one) then yes I would assume she's not all that interested. I would try again, asking another question. If she again does not keep the conversation flowing, move on. It's meant to be fun and flirty after all. Not pulling teeth.
lilmissjava Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 If they do not engage in furthering the conversation by asking more questions or telling you more about themselves, suffice it to say, they are simply not interested.
Author Mikau Posted November 5, 2015 Author Posted November 5, 2015 That would be my first instinct as well, that if they were interested they'd keep the conversation going beyond just answering what I asked. That said, why would anyone who isn't interested take the time to respond at all? I've had a few people respond just to say they're not interested or that I'm not their type and that's fair, I just don't understand why you'd go through the effort of replying in depth if you aren't at least somewhat interested.
PegNosePete Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Maybe they're just bored. However, you lose nothing by trying one more time. Just a minute or so of your time. But I wouldn't keep trying - one more chance, then move on.
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