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Do men have ESP? Or some sort of spidey sense when an ex is moving on?

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Yours will not be back unless she needs more money.

 

If what you said is true, then she will come back in 10 months because Sept 2016 is when her 1 year visa is up and she has to renew it for another year. Even during our post-breakup, I still give her and her mum money one time when she told me she woke up late and she need to send money to her mum. Two days before that night when I chased her, I still gave her money when she came to see me for just 15 minutes. I kept begging her to come back to me after our break-up and I'd give 50% of my salary to support her and her mum financially but she still refused. After I found out she got a new boyfriend, I'm guessing her new boyfriend is supporting her financially, and he is probably richer than me which explains why she doesn't need me in her life anymore.

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I've been thinking a lot about your question Jorge and I really don't know if I have an answer for you about if I would take the Argentine back. My heart says yes there is a possibility but my head says are you f***ing serious bleeding heart?

 

Some of the best advice I've read is if someone wants to leave you to get back with their ex/start anew with someone else that isn't you hold the door wide open for them. Don't try to stop them. Don't plead, don't grovel, don't do anything of the sort. Because their mind is already made up. And sometimes people need to see exactly what the grass looks like on the other side of the fence. Often they may find the grass isn't nearly as green or suddenly the sky looks bluer where you are standing back on the other side of the fence. And that's when they start contacting you again.

 

I don't think it's been long enough to really make changes or that the Argentine has put in enough effort to warrant me talking to him again. From my point of view, I was ready to rearrange my life to find a way to keep him in it. I was thinking long term with him and he knew that and encouraged me. For him to go back to Argentina and reunite with his ex was a very low blow for me. I spent a lot of sleepless nights crying my eyes out, hurting about something that I thought was real. Like I mentioned before, I am absolutely positive they are having problems again. I think over the summer she saw photos of him with me and he told me that he told her about me. She decided she wanted him back because she wanted to see if she could still pull his strings. At first I was angry with her but honestly now I empathize with her. I used to be that kind of girl with my very first love. We were together for 2.5 years and when it ended I was no longer in love with him. But I didn't want anyone else to have him. So if another girl would come along I would find a way back into his life and displace her. I'm not proud of what I did but I was very young (20 years old). I've grown a lot and changed since then.

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If what you said is true, then she will come back in 10 months because Sept 2016 is when her 1 year visa is up and she has to renew it for another year. Even during our post-breakup, I still give her and her mum money one time when she told me she woke up late and she need to send money to her mum. Two days before that night when I chased her, I still gave her money when she came to see me for just 15 minutes. I kept begging her to come back to me after our break-up and I'd give 50% of my salary to support her and her mum financially but she still refused. After I found out she got a new boyfriend, I'm guessing her new boyfriend is supporting her financially, and he is probably richer than me which explains why she doesn't need me in her life anymore.

 

Oh god, you need to shut your ex out and block her from everything. Do you want her to pity you? She already knows that she can get money from you whenever she wants because you have done this before in the past. It's so pathetic.

 

Block her from everything, burn the bridge, move on, and NEVER LOOK BACK. This will send a very loud message as silence speaks VOLUME, that you cannot be messed with, and that you respect yourself to know that the way shes treating you is NOT OKAY.

 

No woman wants to be with a man that begs for her. She doesn't respect you. Stop contacting her.

 

Just stop.

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I've been thinking a lot about your question Jorge and I really don't know if I have an answer for you about if I would take the Argentine back. My heart says yes there is a possibility but my head says are you f***ing serious bleeding heart?

 

Some of the best advice I've read is if someone wants to leave you to get back with their ex/start anew with someone else that isn't you hold the door wide open for them. Don't try to stop them. Don't plead, don't grovel, don't do anything of the sort. Because their mind is already made up. And sometimes people need to see exactly what the grass looks like on the other side of the fence. Often they may find the grass isn't nearly as green or suddenly the sky looks bluer where you are standing back on the other side of the fence. And that's when they start contacting you again.

 

I don't think it's been long enough to really make changes or that the Argentine has put in enough effort to warrant me talking to him again. From my point of view, I was ready to rearrange my life to find a way to keep him in it. I was thinking long term with him and he knew that and encouraged me. For him to go back to Argentina and reunite with his ex was a very low blow for me. I spent a lot of sleepless nights crying my eyes out, hurting about something that I thought was real. Like I mentioned before, I am absolutely positive they are having problems again. I think over the summer she saw photos of him with me and he told me that he told her about me. She decided she wanted him back because she wanted to see if she could still pull his strings. At first I was angry with her but honestly now I empathize with her. I used to be that kind of girl with my very first love. We were together for 2.5 years and when it ended I was no longer in love with him. But I didn't want anyone else to have him. So if another girl would come along I would find a way back into his life and displace her. I'm not proud of what I did but I was very young (20 years old). I've grown a lot and changed since then.

 

 

But you love the argentine, and if he is reaching out is because he knows he ****ed up, do you answer his calls messages at all?

what would he have to do to get back with you?

 

I am also latin american, and probably a bigger ******* than the argentine which is the root of my trouble with my american exgirlfriend.

 

You have facebook? or something outside this public forum, lets talk there, i need to pick your mind!

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Can you pm me on here?

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Oh god, you need to shut your ex out and block her from everything. Do you want her to pity you? She already knows that she can get money from you whenever she wants because you have done this before in the past. It's so pathetic.

 

Block her from everything, burn the bridge, move on, and NEVER LOOK BACK. This will send a very loud message as silence speaks VOLUME, that you cannot be messed with, and that you respect yourself to know that the way shes treating you is NOT OKAY.

 

No woman wants to be with a man that begs for her. She doesn't respect you. Stop contacting her.

 

Just stop.

 

You're right. Even when we were together, she never respected me and was extremely abusive to me. We were in a long distance relationship for 3 months and we talk almost everyday. Sometimes when there's a disagreement and I tried to voice out my concern, she would always hang up on me. Many times. Everytime when I helped her, she never seem to appreciate it and always take me for granted. I always forgave her and thought she would change when we start our new life in Thailand but she became worse, and eventually she broke up with me. Basically, I'm like her doormat all this time.

 

I didn't block her, but I've uninstalled my whatsapp (it's our main form of communication) so she can't contact me now. I doubt she even will.

 

Silence is the most powerful scream as the saying goes but so what if I disappear and just go silence on her? Will she ever look at me in a different light, in months or even years to come? After everything that has transpired...

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It's happened to me too.

 

Not sure if you have ever read anything by writer/blogger Natalie Lue but she calls it 'pushing the reset button'.

 

The Reset Button is where he gives himself liberal license to reset the relationship to whatever point that he feels most comfortable with, which is effectively like erasing the past. With his assumptive, passive aggressive and sometimes outrageous attitude, he operates in a little bubble where he does as he likes and then bamboozles his way around your protests and requests to talk, as he expects you just to pick up where he ‘left off’.
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The Universe abhors a vacuum. When something is removed it will be filled with something. It makes sense if everything is energy.

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I dont think there is a messaging interface in this website.... brrr sucks , o well. How is it going with your latin lover? is he calling you still?

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