On a break in a 1 month relationship?

[zeeetaar]

Hi, everyone!

So i met this wonderful guy, who is just the sweetest and almost the same as me. Sure he doesn't look like the perfect guy but I got really attracted to his personality. I enjoyed talking to him and spending all my time with him and eventually we got together. It was great and everything but we went really fast, like really. Id already met his family and we were planning trips together and all that. Then one day when he was over we were cuddling after we did it and about 30 minutes in i got a really bad gut feeling and when he left all i could think was "i gotta break up with him".

I spent 2 days crying and not understanding why i felt that way. We talked about it (well mostly i cried and he teared up) and we thought we should start from the beginning and cut back on everything. No calling everyday, less texting, no sex and just start from square 1. Holding hands and a little kissing. After that talk i thought it could work and i felt so good about it and i just wanted to kiss him but when i woke up the next morning i felt fuzzy again and i talked to this free counselor because I have anxiety. They're good to talk to but they don't give much advice. She suggested that maybe I'm not interested in him anymore? That thought stuck and i wasn't sure what to say to that. Does this happen? Losing interest in someone so sweet and so caring? I desperately want to like him and I don't want to hurt him. He's perfect for me. He's into the wackiest things I'm into and I've never met anyone like that. I decided to tell him that I'm so stressed about us. He suggested that we go on a break, and I thought it was a good idea. We talked like normal afterwards and I had the feeling lifted off of me. I was no longer stressed and he I could talk to him like normal again.

I'm so stressed because we've only been going out for a month and why am I feeling like this. Normally this kind of thing would make me very happy but for some reason I'm sad. I see the flowers he bought me and i can't look at him because I feel so sad. I don't want to break his heart but i care about him a lot. I'm not sure if I like him as a friend or romantically. He told me I can take as much time as I need in the break, and that we still talk here and there. He really likes me and I want to like him back because I know he'll make me so happy but I don't know what to do. What should I be considering on this break? I'm I just overwhelmed that the relationship went really fast? Do you think there is hope for us?

Edited November 5, 2015 by zeeetaar

[mightycpa]

Hi, everyone!

So i met this wonderful guy, who is just the sweetest and almost the same as me. Sure he doesn't look like the perfect guy but I got really attracted to his personality. I enjoyed talking to him and spending all my time with him and eventually we got together. It was great and everything but we went really fast, like really. Id already met his family and we were planning trips together and all that. Then one day when he was over we were cuddling after we did it and about 30 minutes in i got a really bad gut feeling and when he left all i could think was "i gotta break up with him".

I spent 2 days crying and not understanding why i felt that way. We talked about it (well mostly i cried and he teared up) and we thought we should start from the beginning and cut back on everything. No calling everyday, less texting, no sex and just start from square 1. Holding hands and a little kissing. After that talk i thought it could work and i felt so good about it and i just wanted to kiss him but when i woke up the next morning i felt fuzzy again and i talked to this free counselor because I have anxiety. They're good to talk to but they don't give much advice. She suggested that maybe I'm not interested in him anymore? That thought stuck and i wasn't sure what to say to that. Does this happen? Losing interest in someone so sweet and so caring? I desperately want to like him and I don't want to hurt him. He's perfect for me. He's into the wackiest things I'm into and I've never met anyone like that. I decided to tell him that I'm so stressed about us. He suggested that we go on a break, and I thought it was a good idea. We talked like normal afterwards and I had the feeling lifted off of me. I was no longer stressed and he I could talk to him like normal again.

I'm so stressed because we've only been going out for a month and why am I feeling like this. Normally this kind of thing would make me very happy but for some reason I'm sad. I see the flowers he bought me and i can't look at him because I feel so sad. I don't want to break his heart but i care about him a lot. I'm not sure if I like him as a friend or romantically. He told me I can take as much time as I need in the break, and that we still talk here and there. He really likes me and I want to like him back because I know he'll make me so happy but I don't know what to do. What should I be considering on this break? I'm I just overwhelmed that the relationship went really fast? Do you think there is hope for us?

No. I was on the fence until I read this

He really likes me and I want to like him back because I know he'll make me so happy

that's when I decided you shouldn't do this. Bite the bullet, and tell him it is you, not him. Because it is.

[ExpatInItaly]

Let him go.

 

For whatever reason, your gut is screaming at you not to get into a relationship with him. After only a month you shouldn't be feeling such a strong need to pull away. I think you like him but not enough to sustain a relationship. He's a big boy - it will hurt him for a while but he will get over it.

[Odinani]

Is it that he's not physically attractive? What was the sex like? I think it would be hard to get physical with a man whose appearance itself is a turn-off.