Hopeless1984 Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Just out of curiosity. Let's say you were married for more than a few years and left your SO for someone else. How often, if at all, do you think of your ex husband/wife? When does it come on? Does doing things or activities that you used to do with your ex bring it on? Do you sometimes think of them during sex/sexual acts? Let's say your previous spouse was your first love. Does that change anything?
central Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 I divorced my ex, then found someone else - I didn't leave for someone else. I think of my ex occasionally - and negatively, but mostly when posting in forums.
minimariah Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 i too, like central, divorced my ex & then found someone else - he was also my 1st love. honestly...? that moment i fell in love with someone else, i thought of my ex less and less. you just "shift" into new love, new person and new relationship. the only time i do think of him is when i'm directly reminded of him - for example, when reading a thread like this - but i don't think about our happy memories. we're on good terms but i guess i really left it in the past. i think it's like that with everyone - when there is someone new in the picture, you really rarely think of your ex. you're simply too busy focusing on new period of your life.
Ms. Faust Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 I left my ex, but not for someone else. I met my SO after. Every so often I think of my ex. I am pretty indifferent to him. He was not my first love. Sometimes I dream I am still married to him, and it is usually a nightmare. And heck no, I never think of my ex during sex, masturbation, or anything. That would murder the mood. Life goes on, no point in dwelling on exes. They are an ex for a reason. 1
Got it Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Because I basically grew up with my ex, he comes up in memories and discussion about the past. I view him like a brother so there is no sexual thoughts or feelings tied to him at all. We still communicate but very transparent with my husband. He was a great friend for a long time so there were things we liked to do together, follow bands, he was an awesome groom for my riding competitions , but that is all.
cocorico Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 I didn't leave my X for my H. My X was history. I never think of him. My H left his xW for us. He seldom thinks of her - they lived pretty separate lives - but when he does, I can tell. He gets visibly stressed and still has a great deal of anger toward her. But with each passing year she fades more and more, despite her best efforts.
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