AliOop Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Met a man recently in Court; he's a lawyer, I was there to file something. We talk, hit it off, he takes my email address. Emails me later that evening and during our conversation spits this out: "Ever have random or anonymous sex?" UGH. That's what you're starting with? Met another man online. We had great conversations and really got a kick out of each other. We made a date....an hour before he's supposed to meet me I just happened to look at my email. There he is: "Sorry, can't make it. Too exhausted." Had I not seen my email I'd have shown up. I was so incredibly pissed off that he didn't bother to call me instead. Good God, I miss the days of politeness!!! Okay, rant over. 17
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 I hear ya sista I'm sure the men have their own tales to tell of impolite women but I will agree with you that things aren't what they used to be. I too miss the days of manners, respect and chivalry. Those men seem few and far between anymore. Such a shame. 5
Zippy2000 Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Sorry to hear that. Is that polite enough for you:D 2
LoveRefreshed Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 I hear ya sista I'm sure the men have their own tales to tell of impolite women but I will agree with you that things aren't what they used to be. I too miss the days of manners, respect and chivalry. Those men seem few and far between anymore. Such a shame. Blame the feminists. You've got a world of men who don't know what to do anymore. Should I hold the door? Should I offer to carry her books? Should I be nice? Am I being too nice? I remember one point in my life, there was a group of my guy friends hanging out, and one friend, whom was very attractive IMO, was lamenting about being interested in a girl who seemed to be 'playing games' or acting only partially interested. I suggested he stop being so nice and be a slight dick. Another one of my friends, who is really a staunch feminist, got super pissed off at me. A week later, my friend told me it worked! I've also had girls straight up tell me that one thing they liked most was my arrogant cocky attitude and that I'm not super nice all the time. Girls say they want the nice gentlemen. The nice gentlemen goes home alone and wanks it while the ******* is getting lucky. /Rant 1
Siquijor Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Met another man online. We had great conversations and really got a kick out of each other. We made a date....an hour before he's supposed to meet me I just happened to look at my email. There he is: "Sorry, can't make it. Too exhausted." Perhaps he had random sex with the lawyer! 3
Author AliOop Posted November 4, 2015 Author Posted November 4, 2015 "Perhaps he had random sex with the lawyer" LOLOLOLOL! That never occurred to me! I wonder if they hit it off?! 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Blame the feminists. You've got a world of men who don't know what to do anymore. Should I hold the door? Should I offer to carry her books? Should I be nice? Am I being too nice? I remember one point in my life, there was a group of my guy friends hanging out, and one friend, whom was very attractive IMO, was lamenting about being interested in a girl who seemed to be 'playing games' or acting only partially interested. I suggested he stop being so nice and be a slight dick. Another one of my friends, who is really a staunch feminist, got super pissed off at me. A week later, my friend told me it worked! I've also had girls straight up tell me that one thing they liked most was my arrogant cocky attitude and that I'm not super nice all the time. Girls say they want the nice gentlemen. The nice gentlemen goes home alone and wanks it while the ******* is getting lucky. /Rant I call bullsh*t. Blaming feminism is just a cop out. I consider myself to be a feminist but I'm far from irrational or delusional about it. I also don't walk around with a "I HATE MEN" button pinned to my chest. In fact I LOVE men! I can stand on my own two feet and take care of myself and my family. I have a brain and opinions. I'm a romantic and tend to be more of a traditionalist when it comes to relationships. Feminism and chivalry aren't mutually exclusive for heaven's sake. How old are you by the way? Age might have more to do with this than feminism. That and technology. Technology has had a MASSIVE impact on how people, especially young people, interact and engage with one another. I'm in my mid forties and I remember dating in a time when there wasn't such a thing as cell phones/texting/social media or even the internet as we know it today. I remember when men were all those things I spoke of and more. It was the norm not the exception. 9
MightyPen Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Met a man recently in Court; he's a lawyer, I was there to file something. We talk, hit it off, he takes my email address. Emails me later that evening and during our conversation spits this out: "Ever have random or anonymous sex?" UGH. That's what you're starting with? And the thing is, I'm guessing that line had worked before, or else he likely wouldn't have used it! I'm sorry to hear about your experience. I may several buddies in their late 30s/early 40s who I consider pretty nice guys who are all single. A few by choice I suppose, but most of them just don't seem to have met the right person, so there are nice guys out there.
LoveRefreshed Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 I call bullsh*t. Blaming feminism is just a cop out. I consider myself to be a feminist but I'm far from irrational or delusional about it. I also don't walk around with a "I HATE MEN" button pinned to my chest. In fact I LOVE men! I can stand on my own two feet and take care of myself and my family. I have a brain and opinions. I'm a romantic and tend to be more of a traditionalist when it comes to relationships. Feminism and chivalry aren't mutually exclusive for heaven's sake. How old are you by the way? Age might have more to do with this than feminism. That and technology. Technology has had a MASSIVE impact on how people, especially young people, interact and engage with one another. I'm in my mid forties and I remember dating in a time when there wasn't such a thing as cell phones/texting/social media or even the internet as we know it today. I remember when men were all those things I spoke of and more. It was the norm not the exception. I don't know. When I was chivalrous and a gentleman, I was single for 3 years straight. When I was a dick and straight forward about what I wanted, I had a bunch of flings and a few relationships. Be polite, but don't forgo brutal honesty for tip toeing around societal expectations. 2
mrldii Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Blame the feminists. You've got a world of men who don't know what to do anymore. Should I hold the door? Should I offer to carry her books? Should I be nice? Am I being too nice? I remember one point in my life, there was a group of my guy friends hanging out, and one friend, whom was very attractive IMO, was lamenting about being interested in a girl who seemed to be 'playing games' or acting only partially interested. I suggested he stop being so nice and be a slight dick. Another one of my friends, who is really a staunch feminist, got super pissed off at me. A week later, my friend told me it worked! I've also had girls straight up tell me that one thing they liked most was my arrogant cocky attitude and that I'm not super nice all the time. Girls say they want the nice gentlemen. The nice gentlemen goes home alone and wanks it while the ******* is getting lucky. /Rant Feminism *made* OP's Example #1 spit out in an initial conversation "Ever have random or anonymous sex?" and feminism *made* OP's Example #2 forget how to use a telephone to call to cancel plans?!? Hmmm. We feminists are a mighty powerful bunch, what with what we can *make* happen. Some of you men should stop f*cking with us, lest we decide to partner up with NASA and *make* them send all of you [back] to Mars, instead of just the one or two they were planning on the first manned trip within the next decade. 4
smackie9 Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 That has nothing to do with feminism. I really hate it when people misuse that word. 6
Mystique01 Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Sorry girl... I know what you mean.... It can be hard out here these days. Feminism and chivalry aren't mutually exclusive for heaven's sake. How old are you by the way? Age might have more to do with this than feminism. That and technology. Technology has had a MASSIVE impact on how people, especially young people, interact and engage with one another. I'm in my mid forties and I remember dating in a time when there wasn't such a thing as cell phones/texting/social media or even the internet as we know it today. I remember when men were all those things I spoke of and more. It was the norm not the exception. OMG THANK YOU for this post!!! I have never understood why some lump feminism in with a lack of chivalry? Maybe SOME "feminist extremist" have been burning bras, wearing "I Hate Men" pins and cut any guy down to size who dares to open the door for her, but NOT all women (or feminists!) are like this! Not in the least! Me personally? I LOVE men! I love their company, I love their strength, the way they make me feel when they provide for me or help me out...I LOVE it all! But how does equal rights and pay for women = now I don't have to be chivalrous...I can be a straight up JERK?? There's a disconnect somewhere. And contrary to POPULAR belief, most women DON'T like "jerks". Most women just like men who are confident and sure of themselves. The two are not mutually exclusive. You can be a polite and kind man, while still being confident, sure of yourself, and knowing what you bring to the table. Me personally, I don't like jerks at all. Jerks are a turn-off. I'd rather a man who's friendly, flirty, fun, and cool to be around, as opposed to a guy who is cocky, arrogant, thinks he's all that, and deliberately being a jerk just to catch ladies. Idk how old some of the ladies are that some of you men are claiming like jerks, but a MATURE woman doesn't like jerks. A classy woman wants a classy man. 2
LoveRefreshed Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Feminism *made* OP's Example #1 spit out in an initial conversation "Ever have random or anonymous sex?" and feminism *made* OP's Example #2 forget how to use a telephone to call to cancel plans?!? Hmmm. We feminists are a mighty powerful bunch, what with what we can *make* happen. Some of you men should stop f*cking with us, lest we decide to partner up with NASA and *make* them send all of you [back] to Mars, instead of just the one or two they were planning on the first manned trip within the next decade. Fine, it didn't *make* them do anything if we're going to get all technical here, but it will be a cold day in hell before I white knight up and roll in on chivalry to sweep a woman off her feet these days. I have had girl 'friends' crash in my bed at parties while I took the floor, they didn't ask to even use my bed. I asked girls on dates the day after they tried to drunkenly make out with me, only to be rejected. Chivalry is stupid until she's in love with you... Being blunt has worked so much better. "You can use my bed, but I snuggle and I'm going to be handsy"... Much much better results.
casey.lives Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 I miss it too. I miss real friends. Good respectful neighbors. Manly men and happiness and good cheer. I MISS not being violated and constantly being bombarded with peoples problems and garbage propaganda. Being violated and abused brings out the worst in people .. it's no fun being upset because people lack common decency now a days. ENTITLEMENT HAS RUINED THIS GENERATION.
Mystique01 Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Fine, it didn't *make* them do anything if we're going to get all technical here, but it will be a cold day in hell before I white knight up and roll in on chivalry to sweep a woman off her feet these days. I have had girl 'friends' crash in my bed at parties while I took the floor, they didn't ask to even use my bed. I asked girls on dates the day after they tried to drunkenly make out with me, only to be rejected. Chivalry is stupid until she's in love with you... Being blunt has worked so much better. It sounds like you've had some not-so-great experiences... But PLEASE don't lump ALL women in with these "friends" you've had bad experiences with. Could it possibly be that these particular girls you were going after weren't the right ones for you to begin with?? I mean, you talk about some girls crashing at your place and then one drunkenly trying to make out with you.... I mean...maybe those girls aren't the types who would appreciate a good man anyway. Maybe it's not you being "nice", maybe it's THEM?? A girl worth her salt WILL appreciate a man who is chivalrous and sweeps her off her feet. I'm being honest here! Maybe instead of trying to act like a jerk in order to attract women, maybe you should just try being yourself and raising your stakes higher on women who are actually GOOD quality women. But see... a lot of men kill me because the very "good" and nice woman that would actually APPRECIATE a man's kindness (such as yours) are constantly being looked over for the "hotter" more "popular" types of women. You guys complain that the woman walks over you when you're nice, but yet you probably don't give truly NICE women a chance because you're too busy chasing after the "hotties" who feel like they can afford to treat a man like dirt because they're "Hot" and so another man will come around eventually. 2
LoveRefreshed Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 I miss it too. I miss real friends. Good respectful neighbors. Manly men and happiness and good cheer. I MISS not being violated and constantly being bombarded with peoples problems and garbage propaganda. Being violated and abused brings out the worst in people .. it's no fun being upset because people lack common decency now a days. ENTITLEMENT HAS RUINED THIS GENERATION. Oh those manly men. Taking what they want, eer, or is it being gentlemanly and pursuing the princess. Which version are we talking about?
Mystique01 Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 I think social media has definitely ruined a lot of things these days smh... Don't get me wrong, I LOVE social media....But the influx of it is a bit much at times. It has created a very narcissistic, self-focused, and selfish ("selfie" anyone??) generation honestly. Not to mention, there's no such thing as having a "private life" anymore. Privacy?? What's that?? Now, if you post something on social media, EVERYONE knows about it. In some ways it can be fun, but in other ways it can be intrusive! Seriously...I had to delete my fb account for that very reason. I just feel like social media/texting/some forms of technology has created a very ANTI-social community. It's almost something sort of a paradox, because what was meant to make people feel more "social" and "connected" has done nothing but make people feel even MORE isolated, pushed away, and at arms length distance these days. MOST people don't even feel "comfortable" talking on a telephone anymore these days! It's crazy! I swear, this new generation is going to grow up not having any social skills, and barely learning how to communicate with others if they're not careful.
casey.lives Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Men who have honor and stand firmly unwavering for something outside of themselves... for something outside of their vagina hoarding ways... Men who are men because they were once boys who longed to be great men.
neowulf Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Eh, maybe men are just too damn pre-occupied with getting laid these days. It's turned into some kind of competition about who can bang the most chicks. Being chivalrous because it's who you are is very different from becoming a sycophant who's only behaving that way to try get in a chicks pants. Women want men who are strong and true to themselves. It just so happens that "arrogance" looks a lot like "confidence" at first glance is all. 4
lino Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 (edited) This is what happens when men who act [poorly] are readily rewarded. These types act the way they do because it works for them and they get success from it. Plenty of polite men are out there however you know them as 'just friends.' Edited November 5, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Language 4
JasmineJones Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Fine, it didn't *make* them do anything if we're going to get all technical here, but it will be a cold day in hell before I white knight up and roll in on chivalry to sweep a woman off her feet these days. I have had girl 'friends' crash in my bed at parties while I took the floor, they didn't ask to even use my bed. I asked girls on dates the day after they tried to drunkenly make out with me, only to be rejected. Chivalry is stupid until she's in love with you... Being blunt has worked so much better. "You can use my bed, but I snuggle and I'm going to be handsy"... Much much better results. Yeah, sexual assault is certainly not chivalrous. 3
JasmineJones Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 eh, maybe men are just too damn pre-occupied with getting laid these days. It's turned into some kind of competition about who can bang the most chicks. Being chivalrous because it's who you are is very different from becoming a sycophant who's only behaving that way to try get in a chicks pants. Women want men who are strong and true to themselves. It just so happens that "arrogance" looks a lot like "confidence" at first glance is all. ^^^^ this! 1
LoveRefreshed Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Yeah, sexual assault is certainly not chivalrous. No its not. It was telling them that the only lady crashing in my bed better be into me. Also getting so drunk yoy can'tare it to your own bed isn't very lady like either 1
Myragal Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 I have found most men to be courteous. Never had one bring up sex in that way or not want to get together because they were exhausted. I must just live in a more civil society.
Wewon Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Blaming feminist for the decline of manners is off base; this beyond men and women, you see this will interactions outside of dating. Manners is about reciprocation and to degree symbiotic/complimentary behavior. We live in a time when noone can be judged, corrected or held to a standard of any kind. It all sounds awesome to get away from structured, stuffy arbitrary rules...until you realize that its YOU that needs other people to "behave" by returning a call, showing up on time, or cancelling in a timely manner. Do you ever notice how noone thinks its a big deal when they're the one that's 20 minutes late for an appointment?
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