"My interests are intimacy and eating in"

[Odinani]

I asked a guy on OLD what his interests are and his reply was "intimacy and eating in."

 

He had seemed normal up to that point, average conversation. Very weird answer, no?

[introverted1]

I take that to mean he wants sex and has no intention of ever taking you out.

[loveweary11]

I asked a guy on OLD what his interests are and his reply was "intimacy and eating in."

 

He had seemed normal up to that point, average conversation. Very weird answer, no?

 

That's a funny hint, is all. Humor.

 

He wants to have you over for "dinner and chill."

[Confusedovo]

Yeah id take from that he wants sex only.

[Redhead14]

I asked a guy on OLD what his interests are and his reply was "intimacy and eating in."

 

He had seemed normal up to that point, average conversation. Very weird answer, no?

 

Well at least he didn't say his interests are "intimacy including eating out" . . . He's being upfront, I'd say. He wants sex.

[Karine26]

I agree with the others. If I were looking for something serious I would not contact him any further. I, too, have had normal conversations with guys online only for it to turn sexual/odd out of the blue. A Teacher, a Chhemist, a computer engineer...it didn't matter. You never know what someone is thinking or if they're even who they say they are on the other end of the computer.

[GemmaUK]

Lol!

 

Yeah, I would move right along from that one...

[TaraMaiden2]

I asked a guy on OLD what his interests are and his reply was "intimacy and eating in."

 

He had seemed normal up to that point, average conversation. Very weird answer, no?

 

If you were to respond with -

 

"Aaaw.... I'm into celibacy and world travel....!"

 

That would put the lid on it....

[kismetkismet]

hahaha I find that quite hilarious actually. Good on him for being honest and clever about it. But if you're not looking for casual sex i'd definitely put an end to this one.

[Wewon]

I asked a guy on OLD what his interests are and his reply was "intimacy and eating in."

 

He had seemed normal up to that point, average conversation. Very weird answer, no?

 

Not weird, simply poorly worded.

 

If he had said that he was a homebody it would have sounded so strange.

 

This would have been like a foodie saying, "Stuffing my face".

 

He isn't very good at putting a positive spin on things.

[Michelle ma Belle]

I asked a guy on OLD what his interests are and his reply was "intimacy and eating in."

 

He had seemed normal up to that point, average conversation. Very weird answer, no?

 

I had a LOL moment reading this!

 

They all seem normal up to a point. If I had a dime for every guy I thought was "normal" initially I'd be a very rich woman

 

So...how did you respond?

[GunslingerRoland]

Hi, I'm lazy and cheap, wanna ****?

 

That is basically what I get out of that.... winner!

[Myragal]

Whatever his motivation, he lacks social awareness.

 

Plus...a lost opportunity to present himself with more depth. Is he active, play an instrument, have hobbies, etc.

 

Personally it would be 'the end' for me. We want someone competent, articulate and mature. A man and not a boy.

[TaraMaiden2]

Whatever his motivation, he lacks social awareness.

 

Plus...a lost opportunity to present himself with more depth. Is he active, play an instrument, have hobbies, etc.

 

Personally it would be 'the end' for me. We want someone competent, articulate and mature. A man and not a boy.

 

Sadly, in my experience, most men ARE boys, and it all comes out, after a while.....

[Grumpybutfun]

Sadly, in my experience, most men ARE boys, and it all comes out, after a while.....

 

 

Pssssh...good men behaving well aren't commented on or noticed much but those few who act out as man babies generalize us all as children...

G

[TaraMaiden2]

I love it when men can let their hair down and be child-LIKE.... and a vast number can.

There are (far too) many though, who, perhaps having had their emotions suppressed by peers in their formative years (boys don't cry, stiff upper lip, 'walk like a man', that kind of indoctrination), unfortunately manifest childISH tendencies when faced with contrary stimulants...

 

My ex husband actually stamped his foot in an argument once.... Good grief....

[LoveRefreshed]

I love it when men can let their hair down and be child-LIKE.... and a vast number can.

There are (far too) many though, who, perhaps having had their emotions suppressed by peers in their formative years (boys don't cry, stiff upper lip, 'walk like a man', that kind of indoctrination), unfortunately manifest childISH tendencies when faced with contrary stimulants...

 

My ex husband actually stamped his foot in an argument once.... Good grief....

 

 

I enjoy that you're aware of the suppression of our emotions. By adolescence, most boys only understand a small subset of emotional experiences and we're told not to betray any of them except standing up for what's right and not be afraid of taking a beating. We're constantly told to be a man, by dads and mothers and brothers and sisters.

[losangelena]

Well at least he didn't say his interests are "intimacy including eating out" . . . He's being upfront, I'd say. He wants sex.

 

Bwa-ha-ha-ha-ha!

 

Thanks Red, needed that laugh.

 

Although, that may have been a more compelling reply!

[katiegrl]

Well at least he didn't say his interests are "intimacy including eating out" . . .

 

Bwa-ha-ha-ha-ha!

Thanks Red, needed that laugh.

Although, that may have been a more compelling reply!

 

 

Arghhh....just got that!!

 

 

I know both you beautiful ladies already know how I feel about THAT!! lol

 

 

Not the act itself....but the... well, you know..

[Odinani]

This is the worst day I've ever had on OLD:D

 

I asked another guy what his interests outside of work are and he replied

 

"I love to watch my sons play football. Nothing better."

 

[Not terrible but not encouraging]

 

Then I had a first phone convo with a guy I've been messaging for a week. He's been great on messaging. He started the call by saying "men and women are different and I don't understand women." Then he told me that men are "producing sperm every day, more and more of it. And we need to squirt it. Frequently." He then went into graphic detail about sex and how stupid dating is and how it's important for a man to be able to get his "release" as often and quickly as possible with as many different women as possible.

[TaraMaiden2]

This is the worst day I've ever had on OLD:D

 

I asked another guy what his interests outside of work are and he replied

 

"I love to watch my sons play football. Nothing better."

 

[Not terrible but not encouraging]

I disagree. It is entirely terrible and totally discouraging...!

 

Then I had a first phone convo with a guy I've been messaging for a week. He's been great on messaging. He started the call by saying "men and women are different and I don't understand women." Then he told me that men are "producing sperm every day, more and more of it. And we need to squirt it. Frequently." He then went into graphic detail about sex and how stupid dating is and how it's important for a man to be able to get his "release" as often and quickly as possible with as many different women as possible.

 

...."At which point, I just put the phone down....."

 

I hope....!

[itsallamystery]

OP, consider the source. OLD ( which im assuming is an acronym for online dating). There is going to be a plethora of people that don't have a clue about dating...thats what brought them there.

 

More times then not, during my stints with OLD I meet women that are "world traveled", "scholarly" "comes from the best family ever."...just to take them out to find out its all a facade...

 

Point being...

 

If you vibed with him up until the point, give the guy a break. Go out with him. Truthfully, you wont know what is what until you do.

 

PS. If his intentions were sexual, wouldn't the answer be "eating out" vs "eating in"

 

Sorry, I couldn't resist.

[Odinani]

I disagree. It is entirely terrible and totally discouraging...!

 

 

 

...."At which point, I just put the phone down....."

 

I hope....!

 

I had to put the phone down and cut off the call. He just wouldn't stop talking. I think he was trying to use me as a free phone sex line who men can say dirty stuff to. I may mail him an invoice.

 

[mystikmind2005]

Hahahaha, this is pretty funny,

 

I had a friend years ago who showed me how to do internet dating....

 

he would start talking to a woman and immediately start talking dirty, then get cut off. He would then repeat the same procedure over and over getting cut off every time.

 

I thought he was a reasonably smart guy up to that point, but apparently he was just a brainless moron in disguise.

 

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.

 

women... please reject these guys, always, hopefully they will not get a chance to pass on their 'stupid' genes to the next generation.

[neowulf]

This is the worst day I've ever had on OLD:D

Then I had a first phone convo with a guy I've been messaging for a week. He's been great on messaging. He started the call by saying "men and women are different and I don't understand women." Then he told me that men are "producing sperm every day, more and more of it. And we need to squirt it. Frequently." He then went into graphic detail about sex and how stupid dating is and how it's important for a man to be able to get his "release" as often and quickly as possible with as many different women as possible.

 

I just... I don't even... wtf?!