Angeleyez2583 Posted May 24, 2005 Posted May 24, 2005 So just a quickie.. is it a bad thing to hang out w/ ur ex as friends.? MY ex was all about it today when I asked him, and even invited me to come on the boat w/ him and his family this summer. I'm not saying I want him back right now, but has everyone on here ever hung out w/ their ex as friends and gotten back together? He doesn't wanna hang out for the sex, trust me, I want it more then he does. And, is this a BAD idea? I mean we get a long really well (it's not uncomfortable at all).
Merin Posted May 24, 2005 Posted May 24, 2005 IF you want your EX back (even if it isn't right now wink wink ) then IMO No it isn't a good idea to hang out with them even as a Friend...
outdated Posted May 24, 2005 Posted May 24, 2005 I don't think it's a good idea. I tried it with my ex a few times in the beginning and it didn't end up like we wanted it to. Emotions on either end prevailed. I think it's best not to unless both parties are over the whole breakup.
haywood Posted May 24, 2005 Posted May 24, 2005 yeah, hang out if you can truly admit that you have no feelings for him at all and never want to get back with him, ever. whew. otherwise, don't hang out until you do. good luck.
Fallen_Angel Posted May 25, 2005 Posted May 25, 2005 It's not uncomfortable AT ALL?! Wow. Are you totally sure? What if he brought up other girls? How would you react? Merin's right; if you have any feelings for him whatsoever, don't do it.
Author Angeleyez2583 Posted May 25, 2005 Author Posted May 25, 2005 It's comfortable when we talk and everything... I was just thinking maybe sparks would come flying back... but then again I'd be getting my hopes up for no reason, so I guess what i'm going to do now is not call or communicate with him and see if he calls me
TheBarnacle Posted May 25, 2005 Posted May 25, 2005 my own experiences have been that i CAN be friends with an EX....years later. after long period of NC. with more recent breaks, there were too many feelings on either side. my conclusion would be that if EITHER of you still want the other, it's hard...impossible even....impending disaster awaits...etc. there are variables that make exceptions possible, but i've never known it to work unless both parties are far removed (emotionally, temporally) from the relationship.
MissUnderstood Posted May 25, 2005 Posted May 25, 2005 Hmm. I know I couldn't do it; I'd be haunted by woulda-shoulda-coulda thoughts of what might have been. That might just be me, but ... The very fact that you're wondering about the possibility that there might be "sparks" again suggests to me that you're not really OK with the way things are now, that you want more. Proceed with caution, prepare for heartache.
Jadey Posted May 25, 2005 Posted May 25, 2005 I couldnt do it. No way. Not now. Thats cos the breakup and the heartache is still raw. Im still deeply in love with him. Were pretty civil and sometimes talk but i dont know if we could ever go back to how it was before we got together. I doubt it. He hurt me too muhc to just be friends and i love him too much. But with that said i know people who are really good friends with their exes and they are fine. But they are over it and have no romantic feelings. Thats the thing. If you wanted to have a freindship with him please make sure your are DEFFIENTLY WAY over him in that way first. If not it wont work and oull probably both get very hurt, esp you. Id personally say, from reasing your threads youre not ready atall. So no dont do it.. But of vorse you know yourself better then me! Just think it through and make sure you have no feelings firt
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